This is a pretty sad read from r/relationships
Original post
Lab tech in LTR of a few months with co-worker he has known for a couple of years. He surprised her with a cruise, and they organised time to go on it together. A few days into the cruise, he retires early, but heads back out to the club (where she stayed) after feeling restless. Sees her in corner of dance floor making out with a guy, and his hand up her dress. OP returns to cabin, and hits up reddit for advice. Redditors advice is surprisingly good, but always people making excuses for her (probably wasn't her, she may have been drink spiked etc).
Update
OP decides plan of action, before confronting her about it. Arranges for a room swap for remainder of cruise. Buys (ex)gf a plane ticket home, so he doesn't have to ride in his car with her for 20 hr. He asks his mate back home to pack-up her gear in his house. And makes some Russian friends on the cruise who basically tell him to "Forget that bitch (сука), come let's get drink."
I've included this because this exchange is what ties together the solipsism, trickle-truth, lack of remorse, and general hamster behaviour;
At first she denied. "It wasn't me, I wasn't there, how could you accuse me." I stood by my story, I knew what I saw and there was no way she was going to dissuade me. When she saw that I clearly wasn't buying what she was selling, she totally changed. Like a 180. I'm still so confused by what happened. She accused me of cheating back on her. "You never came back last night, you were probably screwing some girl." This was very tough to hear, since I spent the prior night drunkenly crying. Just hearing the empty accusations made me want to immediately opt for Reddits puke-on-her strategy. I, firmly, told her how I spent my night. I had dug in too deep and wasn't going to step down.
What happened next blew my mind. She admitted to cheating. At first she only said they made out, since it was all I saw, but then she said they had sex. She also stated she was conscious through it all. All I could muster out was a pretty weak "Why?" even though I know I didn't want to hear whatever the reason was. She stared me straight in the eyes and said "He was attractive." Oh. She then quickly stated that I deserved it anyways, but didn't expand any further. I was fighting back a lot of emotions but tried to remain stoic (wasn't super successful). I told her that I prepared travel accommodations for her to get back to CO safely. Then I walked out.
There's definitely BP and RP parts to his behaviours;
RP
He's rational and backs what he saw, even as she is denying it
Takes action and commits (moves room, gets friend to clear her gear)
Knows the relationship is over
Getting out of his room and meeting people
BP
Has a smoke (for first time in 5 years) which is something he prided himself on avoiding
Sulking out in public
Buys cruise ticket for gf he has had for a few months
Buys plane ticket for her after seeing her hook-up with another guy, and rationalises it because he has money to spare
What do you guys think?
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