I'm a 28 year old male virgin. Been a super beta (really, probably more of an omega) most of my life. Introverted, very academically-focused, reputation as someone nice, somewhat supplicating to women. I'm sure you're familiar with the type if you're here. Short to boot (5'6").
About 2 years ago, I began something of an effort to change myself. TRP definitely influenced me, but I can't say it really guided me or that I consulted it extensively. I was also influenced by the passing of a few family members of mine, which made me contemplate my mortality (not in a suicidal kind of way, but in a would you be happy with what you've done with your life if you fell mortally ill today kind of way). I started working out (not yet where I want to be, but look much better than I used to, its been hard for me to lose weight but I put on muscle readily). Got into a strong business school program. Began an active effort to change my mental attitude. As corny as it may seem, I've been tying to challenge myself to "toughen up" a bit, take more risks, and live a little bit more. Started into MMA and boxing (beginner level stuff, but its get the energy flowing). Got tired of the social circle I was long a part of (where I felt a bit constrained, in terms of the role I was playing) and made an active effort to meet new people. I've been trying to act more confidently, although it can be very difficult when you're conscious of the fact that you're at the bottom of the totem pole. I will say that I definitely went through an "anger" phase. Felt pretty angry at women (yep, all women, pretty much). I'm long over that at this point, but it was a bit cathartic and maybe even transformational.
I was really surprised by my results. I dated a young woman, who I met through a mutual friend, who is probably a 7 or an 8 in the looks range (by NYC standards) for several dates. I've had women reciprocate interest when I approach in bars and actually had women initiate with me and "use lines" (or at least their introduction came off as a pick-up line), all 6+. Had an attractive 19 year old get very flirty with me (which hilariously seemed to rile some older female friends of mine). This is all mostly in the last 6 months or so. I'm not drowning in women, but the relative ease with which I've been able to maintain some modicum of attraction over time with some hot girls has legitimately shocked me.
I haven't lost my V-card though. The 7/8 I mentioned made it crystal clear that she looked down on men with a low partner count as someone to be very suspect about. This came in the form of advice she gave to a friend of hers, which I overheard, regarding a guy who was actually more experienced than me but still relatively inexperienced. She was a bit cruel about it and basically dissuaded her from being with him. I know it wasn't aimed at me but it struck me with anxiety and I basically stopped pursuing her without giving much of a reason why. That really made me question what was possible for me in life.
It's not even really about being a virgin anymore. The obvious suggestion is to go to a professional to get it over with. Even if I did so, it wouldn't change the fact that I missed out on a decade+ of interpersonal relationships. How do you overcome that kind of a gap? I don't think you can "fake it til you make it" when you're lacking that much. I can sense almost intuitively that most women are still on a different level than me when it comes to experience and expectations. It makes me feel "broken" and it seems disingenuous to pursue women, when I know they'd be turned the hell off if they knew about my omega past.
I'm interested in hearing the respective advice that TBP and TRP have for someone in my position. Ever know someone in this kind of a situation who managed some kind of long-term happiness? Hopefully involving some kind of romantic or sex life?
Is TRP advice to forget about family life and stick to hookers who won't judge? If so, how realistic is that? What does that look like long-term?
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