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Closure is Bullshit

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October 6, 2020

Closure is Bullshit

As a man, you don’t need closure.

A girl either wants to fuck you or she doesn’t. A long, emotional conversation will not change this fact.

Girls, however, need to put a man they are dumping into a desexualized box and wrap a pretty bow of closure around it.

By participating in the closure process you are helping her tie the bow around your desexualized fate.

If a girl breaks up with you: Do not talk about your feelings Do not talk about her feelings Do not argue with her reasons Just accept it and grieve on your own time. This is hard.


Because a woman will never give her ACTUAL reasons for breaking up with you. She will only give you society-approved bullshit that makes her look innocent.

She will never say “you didn’t fuck me good enough” or “you’re too nice and not exciting” or “no other girl I know wants to fuck you so something must be wrong with you”.

She will say “I’m really busy with school and work and don’t have time for a relationship now” or “you’re great but I”m not ready for anything serious” or “I care about you as a friend”. Sometimes the reasons she give will be SO false, such obvious flowery bullshit, that you will feel a deep burning need to set her straight, to correct her misunderstanding.


You can’t logic a woman. You can say “okay”, walk away with a smirk and never contact her again.

Being robbed of emotionally dripping closure, she’ll always feel a little incomplete. Why didn’t he fight harder for me? Did I really not get to his emotions? Am I not as desirable to him as I thought? Is he more desirable than I thought?

Girls have egos. They WANT to know you’re emotional about her breaking up with you. It validates her. So don’t do it.

You want a girl dumping you to question her reasons, not verify them.

When a girl dumps you, you want to be able to look back on how your handled it with pride. When you give a girl closure, you give her your pride.

by laidnyc

This isn’t my words. I saw someone link to on asktrp.

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Title Closure is Bullshit
Author NobodyP1
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Comments 106
Date 06 October 2020 09:56 PM UTC (3 months ago)
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[–]Grandazer291 points292 points  (24 children) | Copy

I was lucky to have my first gf ever. She straight up told me that I was too nice and she liked assholes particularly criminals.

Harshest slap of reality I ever had in my life.

At least I'm here now and I have you boiz

[–]1empatheticapathetic141 points142 points  (11 children) | Copy

So which bank are you robbing next?

[–]Grandazer93 points94 points  (8 children) | Copy

I don't know whether to reply with a joke or a serious answer but I will give you both :

1-serious : even tho I believe that criminals are for women like fit and sexy instagram bitches for us men (extremely high sexual market value) I will still never even think about going that route for two reasons

A- it is not a viable long term option (even though the benefits are sometimes luring) B- I have always considered criminals to be the absolute scum of society and it would an absolute shame for me and my family to be one.

2- joke : my local bank is old and still uses out-dated security measures so that can be my first target.

[–]aweful_aweful59 points60 points  (4 children) | Copy

So what you're really saying is you've already cased a place out.

[–]changy1546 points47 points  (0 children) | Copy

Do not answer this. I see you fbi

[–]RoyRoyMcBoii19 points20 points  (2 children) | Copy

if he gets caught he shows the cops this reddit post it is his get out of jail free card

[–]aweful_aweful33 points34 points  (1 child) | Copy

but what he didn't expect is the cop is a hot horny affirmative action hire woman sergeant with a thing for bad boys.

[–]RoyRoyMcBoii22 points23 points  (0 children) | Copy

and a big hot strap on for the nice guys...

[–]MrAnderzon9 points10 points  (0 children) | Copy

Yes FBI NSA CIA this comment here

[–]Endorsed ContributorSKRedPill4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

Now are you going to rob your bank because you're in her frame or yours? :P

[–]BigBoiBahmani25 points26 points  (1 child) | Copy

Just open a bank bro they are the best at robbing people

[–]-ThePathIsTheGoal-13 points14 points  (4 children) | Copy

Lucky you. She’s sounds like a fucking loser

[–]BasilevsNihili9 points10 points  (3 children) | Copy

How low are the chances of her not being an obese single mom by 30s, having being beaten several times?

[–]Downtowndex724 points5 points  (2 children) | Copy

I'll take that side of the bet

[–]Endorsed ContributorSKRedPill0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

What's her chances of surviving her relationships?

[–]Downtowndex720 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Mentally, 0%. Physically, hard to predict.

[–]DennisErectus11 points12 points  (2 children) | Copy

Mine told me the same: “you’re too nice”. At the time I was confused to say the least. Now I understand.

[–]RedGille1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

I was told I was not aggressive enough.

WTF??? I thought... took me many years to understand.

[–]aitorg880 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Same here. Found TRP soon after.

[–]CYKAblyaddd6 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy

Seems like the chick is more of the problem than you. Hope you upped your standards since then

[–]niceguyputin2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Dafuq bro. Bad vetting but hey good for you

[–]Zech4riah1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

Hopefully you appreciate that truth bomb she dropped. Sometimes girls give the feedback straight up and that's pure gold.

[–]Endorsed ContributorUEMcGill0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I wonder if he realized it was an insult when she said it?

[–]LotBuilder128 points129 points  (5 children) | Copy

“Girl I get it, things have been stale for quite awhile, best of luck to you.” Then she’s mind fucked wondering when exactly things got stale.

[–]Dimenzije9028 points29 points  (3 children) | Copy

This, i said exactly this to one girl and she was like whaaaat and started chasing me lmao.

[–]LotBuilder10 points11 points  (0 children) | Copy

They can’t handle that YOU could possibly be getting bored with THEM. It blows their mind so they try harder for a short period of time.

[–]CaptainFajita4 points5 points  (1 child) | Copy

Yes, that's exactly what they do. A mature woman I'd known for close to 10 years gradually went cold on me (found out she started fucking someone else). Very painful at the time but I eventually sort of shrugged and thought "welp, she's moved on.". So I cut her off cold and moved on with my life. Five years later I happened onto an article closely related to her professional field and thought she'd be interested in the information, so I pushed it to her and said I hoped she was doing well. Next day she drove three hours and showed up unexpectedly in my driveway, claiming she had no idea why I left her, then in the next breath giving some total bullshit reason why she shut down.

[–]disgruntledearthling0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Just be careful finding boiled rabbits on your stove...

[–]1empatheticapathetic75 points76 points  (2 children) | Copy

This was the first post I ever read on TRP 5 years ago while looking for closure. Hit me like a ton of bricks.

[–]awakenedspirit114 points15 points  (1 child) | Copy

Me too. But it also prevented me from reaching out. Small victory

[–]acoltismypassport50 points51 points  (1 child) | Copy

Said the same thing to friends of mine for years. Closure is for women, you don't have to give them shit. Only should you wind down with a chick if it's to sweeten them up in order to prevent or reduce the chances of being metoo'd, false accusations, if she has dirt on you, etc. Otherwise, ghost, radio silence, pretend you moved to Tbilisi to become a logger.

[–]SalporinRP0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Closure is for women, you don't have to give them shit.

Closure is for women to make sure they "won" the breakup. Because like it or not, 99% of breakups have a winner (initiator) and a loser (the party being dumped). And usually the loser is the guy.

[–]salinorum37 points38 points  (4 children) | Copy

Had dinner tonight with a chick. She was showing me the monologue of texts her ex Bf had been sending her over the last month begging for her to come back. Don’t be this guy, ever. You leave and don’t look back. That’s your only option. Otherwise, you look like a weak, needy wimp. I’ve wanted to talk rationally to ex girlfriends but it’s never a good choice, ever.

Don’t ever be the guy that your ex shows to the new guy. No matter what you say, your ex and either her friends or new lover will be laughing at you.

I’ve had chicks before show me all the pathetic shit their ex boyfriends or ex plates texted them. Don’t be that guy. If a chick doesn’t want you, doesn’t respect you, let her go. And maybe she’ll come back, maybe she won’t. But at least you didn’t look like a giant needy pussy when she left.

[–]Keith_Valentine4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

Yea. I had a 'unicorn' i loved like a pussy but one thing I had going for me was whenever she spazzed out and nuked the relationship, i just left. First time I had to tell her how happy i was for the great times but I didnt cry or yell etc. After that I got better and now i dont care at all. And ive also had women tell me so much embarassing shit about their exes. As soon as they dump you that stuff is gettin spilled.

[–]SalporinRP1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

She was showing me the monologue of texts her ex Bf had been sending her over the last month begging for her to come back.

I think a lot of guys found the red pill after being on the wrong ends of situations like these. I know I did.

[–]HotConclusion01 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Right. Never look back my friend.

[–]bottled_butts69 points70 points  (5 children) | Copy

I agree. Since we are on this topic i will ask how my own handling of a breakup went.

ex: bullshit breakup reason. end of my turn.

me: "ok well i will come grab my stuff from your friend"

ex: "ok...its fine though i can come meet you outside and give you your stuff"

me: "no, i dont want to see you and dont call me again. I will grab my stuff from your friend"


Then i hung up, got my shit, blocked her on everything, deleted her number, deleted all pics of us, threw away anything that reminded me of her. NC since.

[–]4everrekt46 points47 points  (2 children) | Copy

Good on you for NC, but tbh it read like you got a bit butthurt replying to her wanting to meet you outside. A “nah” suffices, or you can leave her on read for extra hamstering.

If you ever decide to unblock her, you could use her for preselection and/or free meals when she comes around.

[–]bottled_butts29 points30 points  (0 children) | Copy

It was a phone convo so i couldn't leave her on read. The reason why i said that was because i felt she had a upwards tone after starting the breakup like she could put me on the back burner. I wanted to make it clear that wasnt going to happen.

Truth be told i was butt hurt but did my best to not show it. I could have done better for sure. Next time.

[–]DrunkOldBear9 points10 points  (0 children) | Copy

/f you ever decide to unblock her, you could use her for preselection and/or free meals when she comes around

This. Don't forget exes are a renewable resource.

[–]BrazilianTerror0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

You honestly kinda sounded butthurt, specially with the blocking. The post talks more about an indifferent tone. Although I must admit is pretty hard thing to do considering that your a break-up always stir some feelings. It’s still better to block and sound a little butthurt than to fall for her tricks when she contacts you.

[–]bottled_butts0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I agreed that i was butt hurt but the overall consensus here seems to be that's the best way to go NC. Maybe iit was good? Maybe it wasnt?

I might not have gone the blocking route if she didnt seem like she wanted to make me an orbiter.

Regardless, in her mind she thinks she thinks she made the right decision. Even if she didnt her friends and orbiters would make her feel that way.

In the end it doesn't matter at all.

[–]McLovinReturns31 points32 points  (0 children) | Copy

I got hit with a "I have to trust my gut on this" which pretty much meant hey I am swinging over to a new branch. Thankful for the redpill I just replied with "Unfortunate, wish you good luck" deleted the number and went about my day lmao. Shits rough but once you realize you are the prize you just don't care what their choice is cause you have a surplus of women to choose from out there

[–]NeedToLearnToListen26 points27 points  (0 children) | Copy

The last girl I went on a date with was something. By the end of the second date we were dry humping. After that she started getting further and ignoring my messages or responding a day after I send them. She ended up ghosting me. On a couple of drunk occasions, I was tempted to call her up and get some closure. "Why did you go cold on me out of no where?". Fortunatetly, I was not that drunk.

[–]aweful_aweful33 points34 points  (0 children) | Copy

Comparing how I handled different breakups and the results, also how I felt afterwards this poster has a 100% great analysis, amazing lesson.

My first serious girlfriend, how I handled that -oof- it hurts to think of. When I figured out what the OP states next time on a subconscious level I understood was a truth. Every action confirmed it. I gave no or minimal reaction, didn't care about closure. Like many of you I learned you can't get true answers from woman with direct questions anyway.

We're talking about the difference between looking down on you and feeling sorry for you and hysterical calling a week later and for years on to fuck and party together. Kinky stuff and hot af shit as she tries to pull you back in.

By the way NEVER get back with her officially in this situation. Realize she through your relationship away but you can hang on Fridays and do crazy kinky shit etc. If you do get back together she will 100% break up with you and it probably won't take long.

Had to learn this shit myself. Hope some of you realize how lucky you are to get this knowledge directly -don't waste it.

[–]DerekMorganBAU71 points72 points  (11 children) | Copy

Reminds me of how one of my exes used to say "I don't think we're good for each other..."

So I would just shrug and say "Okay," then turn on my phone and start texting.

She'll immediately back track and five minutes later I'm fucking her.

Bitches are easy to read. You have to understand subtext. When a bitch is really determined to break it off with you permanently, she'll be gone with the wind.

Another time one of my exes straight up said to me "You're emotionally distant and a cheater and I can't be with you." This was all true too so I said stone faced to her (cause I legit don't give a single fuck) "Okay," then I started putting my clothes on to leave.

Again, she back tracked and ten minutes later I'm fucking her again and suddenly I'm boyfriend material after all.

I've never been broken up cause of the way I reacted to them trying to break up with me. Shit's hilarious as fuk 😂

[–]Coolrubbings32 points33 points  (2 children) | Copy

Lol what timing, my LTR wants to talk about “something important” next time I see her.

“Okay” is probably the most perfect answer

[–]4everrekt27 points28 points  (1 child) | Copy

Seems like their not used to guys calling their bluff

[–]DerekMorganBAU13 points14 points  (0 children) | Copy

That's what it all comes down to

[–]moveslikenagger26 points27 points  (3 children) | Copy

Another time one of my exes straight up said to me "You're emotionally distant and a cheater and I can't be with you." This was all true too so I said stone faced to her (cause I legit don't give a single fuck) "Okay," then I started putting my clothes on to leave.

On the one hand, I can not condone cheating. On the other hand, that was based as fuck.

[–]DerekMorganBAU21 points22 points  (0 children) | Copy

I don't encourage anyone to be like me because I'm different than most people and my lack of give a fuck is hard to duplicate but the message is always the same - have some fucking balls. Don't let a bitch dictate shit and don't develop bitch dependency

[–]Noitrasama-5 points-4 points  (1 child) | Copy

Cheating? Following your biological imperative isn't 'cheating' Just as hypergamy isn't cheating.

[–]Aerophage17713 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

It is definitionally cheating. Something being in line with your biological imperative doesn't mean it's not a bad decision.

[–]strikethrough12315 points16 points  (0 children) | Copy

This is the giant fucking irony of it all. No woman in her right mind will leave you if you don’t give a fuck if she leaves (LTR-wise), but the second you start actually caring about her that’s when she starts looking for the next branch. It’s fucking sickening how this is the way things are, but it is what it is.

[–]zino19312 points13 points  (2 children) | Copy

I think men have a thing too, they need things to make sense, to have a cause, causaility. THat's I think what brought most people to TRP, it gives sense to female behavior, to the timey wimey woowoo of relationships and loveTM . We need to know that our mental model of the world is accurate, and we can relly on it in the future, because for a man, not understanding the world is death.

Women on the other hand need to feel like they were in the right, that they acted right. THat you are indeed a cheater, a liar or the source of their unhappiness. They need to have moral certainty, because if there is a sliver of chance that she is even a little bit in the wrong, if she is the bitch, irrational or even difficult, that means that she is socially in danger, and that for a woman is deadly.

[–]kray677 points8 points  (1 child) | Copy

Thing is, once you take the pill, you realize this is an exercise in futility.

You don't need her reason. Mainly because she'll never be able/willing to give you the real reason. Either she actually isn't consciously aware and is acting based on feelz... Or, she's gonna feed you some bullshit like "you're sweet but I only see you as a friend/brother", when the reality is "I need a man who gives me tingles and can treat me like a woman, and you're just too much of a pussy".

Once you get here, it's already over. Take the L and move on. Trying to reason with her will only further her point that she's the best you can ever get.

So grieve on your own time, work on yourself and on to the next.

[–]zino1933 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

I agree... I was just saying men are irational as well. They need closure, the reason...

And, most relationships aren't going to end in let's be friends - you get off easy when you're just not man enough to play.

The hard part is when a dude is a natura, plays all the right tingles, then becomes domesticated, she loses attraction and then after months or years out of the blue she just says: I don't love you anymore, or I am not happy. Solve for X, Einstein... That's the real tragedy of man. Under any normal circumstances a dude that is reasonably fit, that does make her tingle, should be enough. They should be enough for one another. They should be happy.

But modern men are not developed to be men, they are weak, they are comfy, they are encouraged to be friends with their women, to whine and complain, to seek advice and share their fears and weaknesses. To look for acceptance. Nothing that dude will do isn't bad, yet it is the reason his relationship will fail, without him even knowing.

[–]The_Rational_Toilet38 points39 points  (4 children) | Copy

In the good ol days after fucking a broad, a lion was said to bite your head off.

Life is a gift, that can be taken from you at any moment, accept it.

For acceptance is the fire that burns grief.

[–]Icr7118 points9 points  (2 children) | Copy

For acceptance is the fire that burns grief. Amen, brother. I think, once you get that, you understand that nothing else could.

[–]pokesterx2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy

care to explain the phrase?

[–]Keith_Valentine16 points17 points  (0 children) | Copy

In life sometimes the only thing you an do is truly accept something, like the fact you are going to die or many of us will never get the white picket with a loyal babe and cute kids that we wanted.

But by accepting that, you can continue forward and make the most of your reality as it is. Think of the guy that gets dumped and is depressed over it for years. He never accepted what he did wrong or what caused that to happen, so he doesnt move on or learn. Or a fat person that is continually hurt by being called fat, they have not accepted what is and wont work to change it. Theyre just stuck in perpetual vulnerability because they dont want to face the truth. You can run but reality always catches up to you.

[–]3chazthundergut30 points31 points  (2 children) | Copy

This is excellent information, and very true

[–]Khyrit19 points20 points  (0 children) | Copy

This is big facts. I have a friend (beta as hell!) who asks me for advice all the time on chicks because he broke up with his girl. He always says “She left me because we were both so busy I want her back”.

Knowing how I know him this kid is so clueless all he does is smoke weed, play video games and is very socially awkward/ doesn’t have a nice look. She dumped him 1st year of college (found better males) they were together since Senior year high school.

So when he told me this I knew it was because of how much of a doormat/undisciplined person he is. Thanks for posting this, this made me reinforce some current knowledge.

[–]jadchronicles8 points9 points  (0 children) | Copy

can confirm, used to think i needed closure,

turns out, i don't care enough. closure does 0 things for me.

shit went south? shit went south.


[–]Bone_Coat7 points8 points  (0 children) | Copy

I saw someone link to on asktrp.

I linked this article a couple of weeks ago, this could be me hmmm...

back in 2018 I had closure with some chick I really liked, I will sum it up in one line:

"by closure she means she wants to destroy you emotionally, dont let her do it"

[–]Endorsed ContributorSKRedPill7 points8 points  (0 children) | Copy

There was, is and will only be one reason - she lost her attraction to you.

[–]winstonreefers6 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy

Extremely solid post. This is the only way to turn a loss into a win.

To take it even further dedicate all that energy to finding a new hotter fuck and watch the last chick do a complete 180.

[–]jd2fresh6 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy

I like this and needed to hear this after a plate I was spinning just went sour recently.

[–]Twasntclever5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy

You're just what the world needed

[–]ConfidenceCat4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

Closure can be more of an one sided thing too. You can get it without needing her or giving her closure.

The reason we experience the need for closure is because humans are wired to understand threats. Rejection is painful and the human mind desperately seeks to understands what happened so it doesn’t have to experience this emotional pain again.

To get closure is to feel capable of handling romantic relationships without having to fear inevitable pain. To feel capable of that we need to understand what went wrong and how we can avoid having the same happen in the future.

The girl won’t give the information you won’t (nor does she accurately know herself because she thinks in feelings, not facts) that’s why we need guy friends that experienced similar situations. We communicate in straight talk about what happened without any of the bullshit. That is why The Red Pill is so perfect. They openly talk about these subjects without trying to spare your feelings.

You can in fact get closure. Often this is by finding out that your idea of love doesn’t align with the reality of it. You need to stop doing what you thought you should do. Becoming a high value male is a matter of trial and error. You can get real closure but often she won’t. Her inability to get closure is also a tool for you to use to keep you in girl’s heads.

[–]saruin10 points11 points  (0 children) | Copy

RP was very new to me at the time but, I remember one instance I was told by my years long LTR to never contact her again. I just replied "ok" and walked away since. I remember SOO wanting to find some sort of closure or explanation or argument over it... anything really. I've done it many times prior and I end up looking like a cuck/simp after all is said and done (they've all ignored me since goes without saying). But the smallest voice of reason within just told me to leave it alone for good. Years later I'm still amazed how I left that baggage under the best outcome (to me) possible. She actually tried to reach out to me recently which I'll admit made me feel a bit empowered. I have no intention of reciprocating to that which just adds to that feeling. Spot on post! Sometimes you gotta /thread right then and there and simply move on.

[–]jordanbadland5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy

Great post, thank you for reminding us

[–]cnwilks4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

Very interesting, and something I haven't thought of before. Before I graduated to toxic BiPo/Borderline sociopaths (gave up amateur status and went pro), I had a couple of girlfriends who perfectly epitomized the whole "monkey swinging on a vine" thing. At the time, I thought that they were so classy, and that I had outkicked my coverage. But they weren't. They were just indecisive 20somethings that had all of their catty friends and family tell them that I wasn't good enough long enough for them to buy in.

I am still on very casual speaking terms with one ex who I was once madly in love with. She was very forthcoming about her mental health issues, and rationalized dumping me with the whole "It's not you, it's me" thing. It wasn't, and it was. She also said that she believed every word that she said to me, and I believe she did. But she absofuckinglutely did me the biggest favor of my life.

In the future, I think I'll treat getting dumped a bit like a self-defense situation. Avoid the fight in the first place, and if you must, eliminate the threat and escape. I also spent 15 years as a teacher, and the best way to end a power struggle with a defiant child is to turn your back to them.

Thanks for sharing. Pretty solid inner game material here.

[–]dspjm3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

TLDR. General advice: don't think too much about girls, just spin plates. ESPECIALLY if the plate has dropped.

[–]chadtwashington3 points4 points  (13 children) | Copy

So here's my question. When they randomly message you. Even send you pictures, what is the point of this behavior? What are they trying to get from you? Or what is the subtext?

Say they actually are really busy like a medical residency and work 80 hour weeks and randomly message you but then ghost you?

Is this like a serial killer returning to the crime scene or is it something else?

[–]d3adzon340 points1 point  (12 children) | Copy

The subtext is depending on your relationships dynamics. If you were a simp, she's trying to get attention and to mess up with your mind just because she knows how sexy she's and needs validation (So you're her attention tool). And if you were chadish, she's trying to gain your attention back by "subtly" inviting you back.

Either way you need to tell her to Fuck off. You need to make her understand that you're not interested but leave her room to explain why she's sending you those messages. She needs to do ALL the work and you need to make it HARD for her to get your attention. Prétend you're totally disinterested and her contacting you is bothering you. Not because you're emotionaly invested but because you're not interested. You need to be DIRECT and FIRM.

Something like :

You : "Hey what do you want ?"

Her : "Nothing, I think we should just make contact again"

Then you need to make it hard for her by showing disinterest without going too hard at it or she'll give up on you.

Something amont the line :

You : "Get to the point, what do you want ?"

Her : "I think we should meet up again at a restaurant"

"...." Don't answer just left it on read. She'll panick and send you a message.

Her : "Are you free on X day"

You : "Well only for a 2 hours, I gotta meet [insert random Chick name]"

Now that you're in position of power and that you put constraints on her to act impusively. She's doing the chasing and all you gotta do is throw obstacles in her way to get to you. Good Luck pal

[–]chadtwashington1 point2 points  (11 children) | Copy

So here is my next question. Why even tell her anything. Why not just ghost her and block her and be done?

[–]Rakosnik1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

the last try of the extraction process

dont listen to the fool below

[–]d3adzon34-2 points-1 points  (8 children) | Copy

Because the subtext is that she's interested in reconnecting with you. She wouldn't be texting you back if she wasn't.

That's an opportunity that Can be profitable to you since She'll do all the work.

If you waste this opportunity. You're a shithead and deserve the dry spell that's coming to you.

[–]chadtwashington0 points1 point  (7 children) | Copy

Jesus I've turned down more pussy than I've had and only had a dry spell when I got hit by a car or my hands were broken. I'm not going to have a dry spell because someone on Reddit says so lol.

[–]d3adzon340 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

Good for you then. But you wouldn't be asking this question if it didn't bother you. So here's my answer. If you don't like it then do you.

[–]chadtwashington0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Hey, respect. Just seeking the perspectives of others when this post jarred my memory.

[–]d3adzon340 points1 point  (4 children) | Copy

You see, the subtext here is that :

Either the medical student you're talking about is model gorgeous.

Either you love her and want to win her back.

A combination of 1 and 2

Or Either you're full of shit, and this girl you're talking about is the only one you have a chance with at the moment.

I bet it's option 4, because average man isn't dom juan. And there's nothing to be ashamed about. But that's also why you can't screw this up.

[–]chadtwashington-3 points-2 points  (3 children) | Copy

You're obviously average and need to project otherwise. Keep in mind I live with my gf and I don't need either woman. I don't give a fuck about screwing anything up just because I asked someone else already babbling what their thoughts were lol. I like hearing people out but that doesn't mean I need you vicariously simp on my behalf.

[–]d3adzon343 points4 points  (2 children) | Copy

No one is simping for you. You asked advice, I gave you, do what you want the advice. But if you turn it down, then I think that you're a coward. And that you're currently rationalizing on how coward you are

The real issue here is that you're full of shit. You play the tough guy who pussy falls on him, yet you can't even understand when a girl tells you she's still interested in you. You're here getting butthurt when I tell you that you should pursue it insulting me instead of taking action and messaging said girl.

Nothing makes sense about you. And since you have such a big ego, you should go to your bathroom and jackoff to your reflection in the mirror.

PS : No I'm not average, I'm above average I'm 6"3 225lbs, muscular, athletic black dude. But if you think that being good looking as dude solely without trying is going to get you pussy, Then you understand nothing about TRP. You're a non chalant pussy who's too afraid to try anything. So whoever you are, you're a pussy, unless I'm talking to Chris Hemsworth or DiCaprio

[–]chadtwashington-1 points0 points  (1 child) | Copy

I didn't ask for advice. As in "what should I do". I asked what someone thought to see what they'd say. My mind has long been made up. You're overthinking all of this at this point. I didn't read most of that btw. But after seeing some details at the end you're definitely far below average. Thank you though.

[–]goodboy32454 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

I am printing this out and framing it on my wall.

[–]Bear-With-Bit1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

In a way all forms of formalizing change in a relationship is bullshit, whether it's ending, starting, taking a break, etc.

[–]drallcom31 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Closure is her getting you back into her frame. You can only lose when showing up.

[–]Endorsed ContributorSKRedPill1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

There's only one reason for her breaking up really - her attraction to you went down and died and/ or said attraction wasn't strong enough.

Or there's someone else.

Often both.

If none of these, it means she's dead.

That's how they all end.

What more closure do you need?

[–]bigdudecfc3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

This is an excellent way of handling your shield and sword tactics when maneuvering though the world today,the way you defend against these scenarios should help build up the experience to attack back when ready.

As we know,it takes time to accumulate the mental strength needed for mishaps such as these but it's on you to find use when hit hard so you can hit back harder.

[–]latrent0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Equanimity. Accept it with equanimity and move on.

[–]PM_ME_UR_SHITS_GIRL0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Best post I've seen in awhile. No fat on it; every line is necessary. Thanks for sharing this

[–]Ur_X0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I have gotten the “you’re too easy” and “too sensitive” from past LTRs. One was a BPD and the other a feminazi and helped me find the red pill.

[–]TrainingBoard64710 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

How do you deal with the grief?

[–]blasted_biscuits1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Introspection and time. The pain will eventually go away become a lesson for the future.

[–]Balderdash790 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

"O.k., so now your name is Felicia. Bye Felicia."

[–]when_its_too_late0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

How to avoid wanting closure? Break it off first saying she just isn't fun enough ;)

[–]roxroxane0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Em muitos momentos de brigas com minha namorada, apenas fico em silêncio, ela fica louca, tem ataque de ansiedade por ver que eu não dou a minima

"o silencio pode ser ensurdecedor "

[–]ShrekthCharge0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

My ex ghosted me after 4 years and fucked some sissy boy scumbag just because he had an Audi and knew the lyrics to every drake song.

[–]bigdicknicklick0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

My GF broke up with me last month. Basically did everything he said not to do. Is there a way I can fix it for myself? I've been working out a lot and loving myself and plan to start more cold approaching. She's nothing to me now.

[–]NobodyP1[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

All you can do now is work out getting that revenge body and if she ever texts you say something like “who’s this”

[–]negdawin0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Good post. I especially liked the part about grieving on your own time. Too many guys can't process their own demons, and look to others for approval

You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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