Ok. I’m 53 divorced with 2 teenagers living at home. I am new to RP. I am seeing mostly posts from very young people. I am curious to know how many people on asktrp are close to my age and predicament?

hmsthinkingmeat · 2019-09-22T21:08:13+00:00

I've just gone 50, divorced wife after 21 years, 2 teens, etc.

All I can say is that had I have had this knowledge and REALITY 20 years ago my ex wouldn't have made it past 12 months.

At our age there is no time for messing around and messing things up, so read the rules of the game, think how it applies to the women you have known, acknowledge how it is correct, and then act upon it.

It's not just about meeting girls or hving sex, it's about making your life the best it can be for you, so that you are happy and you look after the best interests of you rather than some manipulative bitch.

noobish_senpai · 2019-09-22T20:21:18+00:00

I think u/VasiliyZaitzev is around your age but idk about predicament. I do recommend looking at his profile though. Guy is a fucking legend.

BusterVadge · 2019-09-22T23:00:49+00:00

I'm 45, divorced, 3 daughters who I share custody with (1 is college aged).

TRP improved my life by motivating me to lift, tighten up my game, and to adopt a stronger mindset. I have always been good with people but in the last 2 or so years my life's been an amazing adventure.

I've gone from kind of skinny-fat to having a body that women drool over. My last plates were 29, 28, and 29. Last date was with a 25 year old and have 3 dates lined up for this week. 35, 30, and 24. All 7's or better.

First thing I would do is change your attitude. Your life situation is not a "predicament".

atticusfinch1973 · 2019-09-22T21:21:09+00:00

I'm 44. There are older guys here. Many of us just don't bother posting much because of the population being much younger and the same advice doesn't always resonate.

If you post about your predicament we can all make a point of chiming in.

CaptainFajita · 2019-09-22T22:43:03+00:00

I was about 50 when I discovered it, newly divorced with three teen-aged kids, had just suffered a pretty bad business failure, and was 100 pounds overweight.

TRP literally saved my life.

Zanford · 2019-09-22T20:47:53+00:00

Not your question, but TRP advice always applies. Lift, get fit, and get out. Teenagers don't need to be micromanaged anymore, so you should have time to do your own shit like lift and date.

If you get shit test by women about your age, having kids, or divorcee status, don't ever show any sort of defensiveness. Nuclear script-flip with responses like "It's liberating to've secured a genetic legacy." You'll probably attract near-wall women with baby fever, so wrap it up unless you've decided you want a second family with so-and-so.

Organicana · 2019-09-23T00:07:58+00:00

53 yr old male ..... Divorced a few yrs ago after a 30+ yr marriage started right after high school after getting my girlfriend pregnant. Kids are now adults.
You have already received some good comments, so I wont elaborate on whats been touched upon.

Best thing I can saý being your new to both RP and being divorced is this ...... Focus on YOU while absorbing the info here and NOT just reading or immersing yourself in all this info. If you dont already regularly go to the gym .... Join one NOW. Get yourself on a schedule concerning your time and stick to it religiously. Set aside maybe an hour a day to read or absorb RP info and fight the urge to compulsively consume RP diatribe or its real easy to get stuck in theory mode and not get out and adapt within real experiences ..... Theory is great but practice, observation and failures will allow you to incorporate RP in your life in ways you will never realize just reading.

Let go of any anger or frustrations and channel that energy into improving yourself. Stay away from alcohol and/or drugs as they will make you slow and regressive. Maintain a solid relationship with your kids and prioritize those relationships right after YOU. No matter the obstacles, frustrations and injustices. ... know that you are setting the example for your kids so maintaining the high road is of the highest priority no matter the seduction of revenge, seeking pity or sympathy ..... Nobody cares and its just all ego masterbation.

Thats the best I can come up with off the top of my head, but feel free to reach out to me should you need some comradary from someone who has been there and done that. Keep your head up and know it gets better. In fact, you will eventually reach a point in the future where your perception changes drastically and what once was viewed as disastrous changes into a blessing.

Godspeed brother

SeasonedRP · 2019-09-22T20:40:18+00:00

I am slightly younger than you and have two teens at home.

Truedemocracy5 · 2019-09-22T23:10:34+00:00

Check out married red pill for advice from more similar people. Do wish we had age callouts here and on the redlill sub. A 17 year old giving advice to a 50 year old is ridiculous

MajIssuesCaptObvious · 2019-09-22T23:56:12+00:00

42 with 1 teenager left at home. Single, MGTOW but not a woman hater; I love women, I just won't commit nor cohabitate. I'm pretty straight up with telling the women I date that I'm non committal, but I never mention MGTOW. Some keep dating me, those who want marriage and kids move on.

Life is great!

Gtrplyr3838 · 2019-09-23T12:24:21+00:00

I’m 55 with 4 kids. Married twice (slow learner). No more. I have been dating a 25 y.o. for some time. When I split from the last marriage, I hit the gym hard and lost over 60 pounds. I am very fit and lean now, and it is much easier to game younger women. Getting fit and a flat stomach will help a lot to get their attention. The rest is your confidence and frame. Realize that many guys in their mid 20s are still living at home and don’t have their act together.

anonbast · 2019-09-22T23:46:26+00:00

45 with a teenage son with me full time. Found TRP about 1 year ago and the info and advice is gold and applicable. You must apply it yourself, i.e., get in shape, find your mission and develop abundance mentality.

Today was a good day, been with my kid, fucked 2 of my current women and now a deserved rest.

Gordon-G · 2019-09-23T06:03:20+00:00

I was divorce raped twice. Kids now in college.

_Ulan_ · 2019-09-23T07:51:49+00:00

Welcome to you young man, I hope you fully enjoy your 50's

MGTOWAlfa · 2019-09-23T09:55:05+00:00

40 yr old here. There plenty of us here. Old dogs can be taught new tricks.

Alot of us lurk because the young out weigh the old in here and some of the past don't apply to us. We're not in high school or in college for that matter.

We've lived, have or had families so there's somewhat of an age Gap but trp applies to every man willing to take said RP.

WakeUpAlreadyDude · 2019-09-23T11:47:16+00:00

We’re out here, just not as chatty as the younger men. Same advice for everyone. Read the material. Lift and maintain frame. I’m terrible at this so far, but better off than I’d be without TRP.

OfficerWade · 2019-09-23T15:33:39+00:00

I’m 27- came here after the mother of my only child start d dating guys behind my back while working out of town. (Hint: families fall apart if you’re not there to hold it together)

So I came here looking for one simple trick to make me remember who I was before locking it down in a 7 year relationship, the guy I was who was funny, humorous and had lots of guy friends. That wouldn’t turn down a drink with his buddies.

That one single trick was what I was looking for and I found out there’s many tricks

Relationships.

Work.

Families.

Friends.

Hobbies.

These are all tricks to keep the mind preoccupied so you don’t think about death, taxes and fall into a depression. Other than that my advice for older guys is to talk to guys your age. Even though we all go through the same patterns. I know that might not be the answer you were looking for. Peace out Girl Scout.

boardrider73 · 2019-09-22T22:27:28+00:00

45 here. Have one son whos not quite a teenager yet. I have him 4-5 days/week. Been divorced for three years. My ex wife got me here. Been working on RP principles for about 4 years. Feel free to DM me if you have any questions.

jrterry1969 · 2019-09-23T00:06:21+00:00

I am 54, divorced three years, three kids. TRP has helped a lot. I've had a fantastic series of sexual relationships with women from 39 to 59.

RicoDunne · 2019-09-22T22:13:55+00:00

Go to married red pill, men more in your age range and experience with ex's and kids.

HaroldTFinch · 2019-09-22T22:40:05+00:00

52 not married, no kids. I prefer late twenties and up. Just get your things in order. Most guys have 'mailed it in' by 30. Up and coming kids are more obese than ever. Plenty of opportunity

Herdsengineers · 2019-09-23T16:25:08+00:00

44, one 15 year old son, 50/50 custody. Divorcee, and remarried about a year and a half ago to woman that's as close RP'd as you can get.

Been through 3 custody fights, but that phase seems to have settled down. TRP has been great, I had a naturally RP'd dad, but he wasn't real good about transmitting it and he was also a bit messed up by FOO issues and Vietnam combat related PTSD. Most of TRP I knew, but TRP put it in articulated fashion and made it easier to recognize playing out in life. I'm down 50 lbs, lifting more than ever, and dominating life.

The lesson is easy - build yourself into the best version of you that you can be. Have boundaries that prevent time wasters and leeches from distracting or leeching off you. Only allow people (women especially) into your life that bring value to it and are good matches to your values. Never think that a woman who will let you fuck her brings value in terms of sex. They all have vagina's, they all bring that. It's not special. In fact a woman that only brings sex with her is nothing more than a time waster and isn't worth the trouble. Only let women into your life that bring something to the table besides their asses. Turns out most think that's all they need to do, there are precious few that actually want to bring more.

Pussyshack · 2019-09-23T19:44:39+00:00

43 yo here, divorced twice. Zero divorce rape both times. Probably something to do with the fact that I'm a ruthless motherfucker when it comes to being betrayed by bitches and I enjoyed putting both of them in poor houses whe I still make almost 300K.

You're not in any "predicament." Get fit, get your shit in order & you'll be just fine.

Compeliminator · 2019-09-23T22:15:22+00:00

55 year old here. I just put a post up about a month ago on here about my girlfriend leaving me for someone who is older shorter fat and out of shape. being in good shape has alliwed me to pick up numerous hot girls in the last month. i was amazed at how well i did

LAdude71 · 2019-09-25T13:45:30+00:00

I'm 48. Divorced @ 28. Been single & blue pilled for 12 yrs. Got into a relationship @ 40. Dumped her at 46.

Got red pilled last year @48

RedPillFusion · 2019-09-23T00:24:23+00:00

I'm 36 divorced with my son at home with me. Good to have another older feller around.

treesplease12 · 2019-09-23T01:41:17+00:00

36/m, divorced, no kids. Took the red pill several years ago at most, still doing my best to absorb it. The theory rings true, I believe it, I see my glaring faults and I am struggling to internalize these truths. Little by little I make progress

matrixtospartanatLV · 2019-09-23T04:26:11+00:00

I’m 57.

Check out askMRP and MRP.

Along the way check out The Unchained Man by Caleb Jones at Blackdragon.

Welcome to your new reality.

It can suck for awhile, but it is ultimately much better than the alternative.

00chuffer · 2019-09-22T23:52:02+00:00

I'm in nearly same spot but my kids are in their 20's. I'll never get married again. Way happier being single even though I lost my health.

Obnoxiousjimmyjames · 2019-09-23T03:23:11+00:00

44 never married, no kids, currently single. Trying to implement more redpill in my life.

rednailz · 2019-09-23T03:56:56+00:00

Welcome! I'm 55 and have a 20 year old and a 16 year old at home. It's not too late. I started reading TRP a few years ago when people were slamming it. There's wisdom here if you let go of some preconceptions.

QSDT · 2019-09-23T04:11:51+00:00

45, two kids 7,9, divorced, remarried.

matrixtospartanatLV · 2019-09-23T04:26:05+00:00

I’m 57.

Check out askMRP and MRP.

Along the way check out The Unchained Man by Caleb Jones at Blackdragon.

Welcome to your new reality.

It can suck for awhile, but it is ultimately much better than the alternative.

troyohchatter · 2019-09-22T23:27:00+00:00

I am 51 but not in your situation.

wagweb · 2019-09-26T02:00:00+00:00

Thank you all for chiming in. It is nice to find a community. My story is not unique. In fact after finding RP, it turns out my story is so common you could have written a scrip. Thanks again. I feel I am in great company.

wagweb · 2019-09-30T20:28:30+00:00

Just a little update as to my life since divorce:

I got married became a dad and was very involved with the church for 17 yrs - until my ex decided she didn’t want to be married and had an affair with Chad.

Anyway - since the divorce at 50+ yrs old I’ve learned about RP and practice it in an LTR. I’ve started getting gigs playing guitar as a singer songwriter, I’ve skied more that I have my entire marriage, I mountain bike (and for the first time own a decent bike), workout 3-5 days a week and travel. I have a great relationship with my kids - I have them a majority of the time.

I feel like life is just starting. It is certainly better because of RP. I see women and men differently - and I am teaching my boys about it now.

wagweb · 2019-10-01T22:11:47+00:00

Thanks for all the replies!