I, 19F, have realized that I fear losing my virginity. Not because I'm afraid or sex, but afraid of the consequences. And no, I don't mean pregnancy.
After informing myself of the psychological effect that mutiple sexual partners have on a woman's psyche and ability to pair bond I have been overprotective of my virginity. (Strange seeing how slogans like "virginity is a social construct" are popular) Even if I'm with an amazing person that I can certainly see myself marrying and having a secure future with I hesitate; I don't want to let go of this "trophy".
I'm also, perhaps wrongly, afraid of being "tainted" after I have sex for the first time. I enjoy the label of being a virgin quite a bit and sadly have developed a habit of looking down on people (both male and female) who have had sex with a lot of different partners.
My question: Anyone feeling similarly? Any ideas on how to overcome this hesitance and mindset? Are my actions justified or am I overreacting? Because obviously it is affecting my sex life in a negative way to some degree.
Thank you reading and have a great day! :^)
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