EDIT: Thank you for the thoughtful replies and advice and also to whoever gifted me gold. You are amazing. I've doubled my efforts and I can see it is being appreciated. (He also noticed, and thanked me, which validated everything.)

My husband works full time and I'm home on an extended mat leave. Lately he's been really, really struggling. Last night he shared with me just how angry and sad he is about the fact that he hates his job and feels unappreciated and underpaid.

I will take some financial pressure off when I'm back at work in November, as my salary is higher than his, but in the meantime I'm wondering if you ladies can help me.

What do you do to support your partner when he's struggling? I'm trying to stay on top of as many chores as possible so he can focus on other things. I'm limiting my texts to him during the day even, so it's one less thing for him to worry about checking his phone. I do all the groceries, meal prepping and laundry and admittedly the house is not as tidy as it could be as I'm constantly running after a 1 yr old and 5 yr old, so I'll work on that.

What are the things I'm not thinking of? I struggle with depression and anxiety and always have but I do not discuss it with him because I don't want to add to his mental load. How can I be a quiet support?

Just looking for some new perspectives. Thanks in advance.