Most of the dudes you see on askTRP have incredibly shitty lives and think girls will automatically make their lives better.

SaltKoala · 2019-10-13T06:51:08+00:00

You’re exactly right in how you’ve identified the real problem.

Like many young people today, you don’t have meaning or validation in your life. Unfortunately the “solution” that most of these redpill guys come up with is to get laid, which isn’t going to fix anything.

Women don’t exist to validate men and vice versa. Sex will never be a source of true validation or meaning for anyone. Sex is a bodily function and no form of navel gazing is going to help a human being find more to life. Obsessing over it will inevitably lead to dissatisfaction, anger, and longing.

This is paralyzing. It’s also an easier and more obvious “answer” than trying to find a true passion or purpose in life so many people get permanently stuck here.

The real answer is hard to find and very personal, so I don’t think anyone can just tell you what that is, but I think the start to finding that answer is getting off the damn internet. The internet is a massive time sink and rots your mind.

Get off the web, read actual physical books of great men, and women, write down your thoughts. Learn to think (the vast majority of us don’t actually know how), work with your hands, build something, spend time in nature. Look at what people in the past did and try to emulate it. People in the past found it much easier to find meaning than we do today. We’re way too distracted, over stimulated, and coddled by all sorts of luxuries and constant instant gratification. It’s killing our spirits and leaving us completely lost.

And btw, this is obviously just my opinion, but you’re not going to find the answer in drugs. Just stay away from that stuff. It’s a cheap, quick “answer” that leads people into the same trap that obsessing over sex does. Drugs are not a shortcut to enlightenment, they’re just more navel gazing and escapism.

eboy4hire · 2019-10-13T06:17:14+00:00

Keep lifting weights. Just do it as part of your routine. It's not something to be passionate about usually.

tegdoofiest · 2019-10-13T07:22:22+00:00

The secret is to be so secure in the self and boundaries of the ego that external validation or the lack of it does not drive your movement through life. Not saying you should be 100% selfish and disregarding of humanity, but your internal purpose and drive to self-actualisation should be such a strong focus that getting external validation OF ANY TYPE is like a mild suggestion to your ego. It does not swing you high or low. There are many ways to know the limits of your ego and kill that desire for validation like meditation, psychedelic drugs, extreme physical activities like martial arts or rock climbing, introspection, etc but they all have one focus which is to be so knowledgeable about who you are and what you want to do.

Million-Suns · 2019-10-13T13:11:15+00:00

I have shitty life, and I genuinely think a woman in my life will make things worse.

Most people prefer being miserable with someone over the void of being single and lonely. I'd rather not.

Pontifex_Lucious-II · 2019-10-13T07:00:59+00:00

If their lives were good why would they ask TRP?

But yea your right. Guys think “if only I had a girlfriend”, instead of “what if I was the kind of person who attracted girls”.

shonenhikada · 2019-10-13T06:29:05+00:00

Another dupe male account by a female feminist.

lIllIlllIl · 2019-10-13T07:03:49+00:00

Their lives would be instantly better with girls but the improvement would be negligible.

-TheGreasyPole- · 2019-10-13T08:48:24+00:00

I've tried drinking, drugs, gambling, making music, screenwriting, religion, and lifting weights, but none of them stuck.

[deleted] · 2019-10-13T09:30:00+00:00

What do you think these girls are for? Banging? With no kids?

You're young and dumb, so create a life, and create a life for one of these dumb young girls. Guide her. Have children. Raise those children. Care.

What did you think you life was for?

[deleted] · 2019-10-13T15:01:15+00:00

Standard advice to these boys is "women are a lagging indicator of success."

SqueaksScreech · 2019-10-13T18:09:01+00:00

Manic pixie girl shit is annoying. Ain't no girl gonna come on and fix your life and chsnge you with the side of pussy. Girls you can't do it. If they want to change that's on them not you.

NalkaNalka · 2019-10-13T06:12:25+00:00

So let me get this straight, you are a sad sack and are on asktrp so that means that everyone on asktrp is a sad sack.

Truly indisputable logic there.

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Title	Most of the dudes you see on askTRP have incredibly shitty lives and think girls will automatically make their lives better.
Author	PM_ME_UR_1ITIS_SNAP
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Date	October 13, 2019 5:07 AM UTC (4 years ago)
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