My “First MRP Moment”, I believe. It will never be the same.

2ndal · 2019-10-18T15:43:33+00:00

Headline: Blind man stumbles his way into pot of fool's gold

theunconquored · 2019-10-18T16:23:35+00:00

So, you DEERed and went Rambo, then act validated that she sucked you, quite literally, back into her frame?

If you’re asking for sex, she’s still in control of sex. When you have frame and real confidence and move past the Rambo anger phase, she will ask you and you’ll decide. She will pursue you.

You’re not the prize yet. Keep working. Keep reading. Keep improving. This takes time and consistent effort. Work on the dread levels and take them seriously. They all apply. Even the ones you think you can skip.

Zer0FuksGiv3n · 2019-10-18T17:47:20+00:00

Maybe I did a shit job telling the story or maybe I was a faggot and it wasn’t fucking red pill, either way It was a different experience compared to the past.

Appreciate the raw feedback, it’s what I was looking for and keep it coming.

I’ll keep reading, learning, and improving and go from here.

ibelieveican1982 · 2019-10-18T15:48:34+00:00

You went Rambo. Acted butthurt. She felt sorry for you and/or could not stand your resentful butthurt so agreed to fuck you.

I would not get so excited. You have a lot of work to do. And stop arguing with her and negotiating sex. STFU.

mindfulbutgutless · 2019-10-18T19:44:57+00:00

So you said no sex tonight! Then when she said she wanted sex you jumped right in? I thought you made your decision?
Ok, I get it now, you showed her you can't hold a decision and that she in fact has a stronger stranglehold over you via sex than you thought.
You should've went to the gym instead.

Vegasman20002 · 2019-10-18T19:15:54+00:00

You are going to get a lot of shit for this one from this reddit. But the fact is that you stood up for yourself and didn't act like a total pussy. We all have to start somewhere and move forward. And you did better than most (BP) men would have.

mrgrizzlor · 2019-10-18T21:12:57+00:00

Your wife has excellent frame.

[deleted] · 2019-10-18T20:53:32+00:00

It’s a start. Congrats.

But these words should never, ever come out of your mouth: “Sex, yes or no?”

No negotiating for sex buddy.

JameisBong · 2019-10-18T16:30:46+00:00

Idk about this one,it always felt odd for me to ask for sex or even argue about it. More than two rejections was enough for me to start cheating in my blue pill days. Post red pill, I would remove myself completely and let her figure it out. "A husband needs sex from his wife" that's the only statement she would ever hear from me before leaving for a few days. If she was unmoved then fine, relationship over. Having said all that please do the work before issuing ultimatums.

RedPillGlasses · 2019-10-18T16:27:09+00:00

You just got topped from the bottom. Your frame is dog shit. The moment you asked what she wanted you fucking blew it faggot.

Then she changed her mind so you changed yours. Zero frame and she manipulated your dumb ass with sex because she is the prize.

I know because that was me a few months ago.

Edit it was even before that. You need to learn AA and nuke that shit by seeing her as hilarious. Rambo.

ArborioRice · 2019-10-18T17:46:17+00:00

I stopped her mid bitching and called her out that she was just trying to deflect and argue to ensure sex was off the table.

Then I asked for a strait answer, "sex tonight, yes or no".

While we are arguing

I expressed to her that I am talking and that it's bullshit to just walk away.

I told her since she can't give an answer, then I am making the call, no sex

Or how about 1. STFU (you missed it in MRP101) 2. don't engage in a pointless argument, refer back to #1 3. Find her tantrum amusing because it is, and 4. employ any of the following to her nonsense with a smirk: Fogging, negative inquiry, A&A, AM, dirty joke, ass slap, grab a tit, etc.

You're in classic "I'm gonna show her I don't take her shit anymore" mode and picked a useless fight. Somehow you still got laid, congrats i guess.

WISNIFG and every post on STFU as your remedial homework.

Voidslan · 2019-10-18T21:52:34+00:00

You immediately didn't stick to your word. You Just demonstrated how empty your threat was.

lololasaurus · 2019-10-19T01:56:30+00:00

So you "made the call" no sex, and then had sex

You should probably start studying your wife to learn what real frame looks like 😂

primordialawe · 2019-10-18T16:26:18+00:00

Where’s the MRP part?

sidepiecebandit · 2019-10-18T17:21:53+00:00

Been following MRP and RP guidance since Jan this year. Reading, working out, and letting go of shit and fear.

Bullshit. You haven't swallowed the pill until you start owning your shit. Weekly. Which you clearly haven't. Your mrp journey is predicated on you, not on your wife. Don't post here again. Head over to OYS.

dolanthesemicolon · 2019-10-18T20:34:24+00:00

I was like this some time ago, just not quite as ballsy. Things like this:

While we are arguing

Why were you arguing back? If you're "arguing" to demand respect (which is what it kind of sounds like to me) then that's pretty frame-less. I argued my ass off like a BP bitch too. Doesn't work, I have started to discover that. I'm still beta as fuck but this is one thing I have recently switched off.

she was just trying to deflect and argue to ensure sex was off the table

She's got every right to take sex off the table. If you think RP is about fixing your sex life or being able to "put sex on the table" you got it wrong. Again, This was similar to me a few months back, it's something you need to get over.

After the shower, I didn't sulk or complain about no sex. Just sat in the bedroom, ignored her, and watch some TV in silence.

This whole sentence doesn't compute. You didn't sulk, yet you sat in silence ignoring her? Not saying you weren't butt hurt, but I can almost guarantee you that's how it looks. And she's a woman, she doesn't give a hoot about logic, she's going to jump straight to emotion and think "he's not speaking to me... why's he not talking... he's pissed off we're not having sex"

Got to agree with the others. There's a whole lot of lifting and shutting the fuck up missing from this post.

seabeeaj · 2019-10-19T05:37:17+00:00

Sir... I salute you. Isn't it amazing when they realize that they can't control you with sex. They begin to realize their true value.

Taipanshimshon · 2019-10-20T00:36:09+00:00

Betas gonna beta

SteelToeShitKicker · 2019-10-22T19:27:45+00:00

You got what you wanted that night, but you lost long term. Keep working. And don't think that your wife capitulating one night is cause for celebration and telling everyone how it's done.

shadowentityrising · 2019-10-19T08:20:59+00:00

You still negotiated desire, even if you used reverse psychology.

What you should have done is stfu completely and just made a natural move when she jumped in the shower. Who the fuck asks for permission or has a commity meeting about sex.... Game, kino, escalate, get rejected, hold frame, push through, ASD, face fuck the cunt. Next.

[deleted] · 2019-10-19T14:51:45+00:00

As a first MRP moment, well done and good for you. I agree with r/unconquored that you need to keep working the dread and make yourself the prize. Great first step tho.

FereallyRed · 2019-10-19T22:48:25+00:00

Talk talk talk.

Wonder what would happen if you cancelled all debate hearings and just did what you wanted to do instead.

bowhunter857 · 2019-10-18T16:28:58+00:00

Wow, pretty shitty. Everything that happened between “she was in a bitchy mood” and “she came over and gave me a blowjob” should have never happened.

“Sex or not?” Don’t ever say that again. That just sounds desperate.

I read a lot of posts here from guys that I think should never talk about sex and just initiate with kino alone because when you talk weakness just pours out.

JoeBuckYourslf · 2019-10-22T18:20:51+00:00

“Sex tonight; yes or no?”

Now that’s some funny shit right there.

mrpmonk · 2019-10-24T04:18:21+00:00

Indeed, what a nice MRP moment. I was hoping the first one you experience is coming of you, not her. She's the redpill here. But you're on the right path. Call her shit out, but use amusing mystery. I like you didn't get hung up on her intial rejection and received that blow job with a pleasure. But you set the border, you lead and she follows. When you said there's no sex tonight, she can't override you into doing the very thing you draw the line for. So here's one tip: respect yourself and command respect.

SBIII · 2019-10-25T09:00:52+00:00

It works. Let go of fear, be a fucking man, own your shit, and your wife will beg to make you happy.

While all this is true, your wife isn't exactly begging to make you happy, is she? If she was, there would be little need to negotiate for sex the way you did.

In the end, you got what you wanted, so your tactic worked but under whose terms and in whose frame? Regardless of that, "tactics" have a limited life span. They might work once, twice or even a few times but they soon run past their expiry date.

Take it as a win, but don't get carried away by one success, try talking less and be careful you don't doxx yourself... delete that fucking photo, my man before someone sees it (unless you're 100% OK with that).

And start doing some upper body work - your chest and lats in particular need a lot of work.

Title	My “First MRP Moment”, I believe. It will never be the same.
Author	Zer0FuksGiv3n
Upvotes	56
Comments	90
Date	October 18, 2019 3:28 PM UTC (4 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/MarriedRedPill
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