Many struggle with the concept of frame.


WHAT IS (A) FRAME?

A frame is an interpretation of things in a specific context.

Let's have a deeper look at that sentence:

  • interpretation of things: it is specific to a person. A person interprets things according to his knowledge, experience, beliefs, ..

  • things in a specific context: there is no 'one' frame. There are an infinite amount of frames per person.

Example 1

You're playing soccer with a kid. Accidentally, you hit the kid with the ball. As the kid has no experience nor knowledge on life (i.e. no/weak frame), he looks at you to see how you react to the accident. He is ready to enter your frame because his frame is non-existent/weak. What is your interpretation of what just happened, what is your frame? If you show compassion and feel sorry for the kid, the kid will start to cry. If you laugh it off and act as if nothing happened, the kid will toughen up, laugh, and keep playing soccer. The next time he is hit with a ball, he has a frame and will interpret accordingly. If however, his mother is present who acts all dramatic, compassionate, protective and pampering, and her frame (something bad happened) is stronger than your frame (all good), the kid will enter the frame of the mother and start crying. The stronger your frame and your expression of your interpretation, the easier the kid will enter/remain in your frame.

Context: kid was hit with ball

Kid frame: unexisting frame

Your frame: all good frame

Mother frame: drama frame

Example 2

A man who is extremely blue pilled teaches math at a university. His (simplified) frame on math is: 1+1=2. His frame on math is extremely strong, as it's based on years of experience, knowledge, studying, books, .. Chad Thundercock and Billy Beta enter his class. Chad proclaims: 1+1=3! Even though the professor is a blue pilled beta, he will never enter this (math) frame of Chad. He will then show/prove that his frame is stronger in order for Chad and Billy to willingly enter his math frame.

Context 1: math

Blue pilled, loser professor frame: strong logical frame

Chad frame: strong illogical frame

Billy Beta: weak frame

Context 2: social dynamics

Professor frame: weak, beta

Chad frame: strong, alpha

Billy beta: weak, beta

Takeaway

A strong frame in one context doesn't mean you're 'alpha'. It does however make you an authority in that context, it grants you power (whether you use it or not).


THE MOST IMPORTANT FRAME IN A RELATIONSHIP

When we talk about frame on TRP, we're not talking about math. We're mostly talking about relationship dynamics. As you know, there are 2 common frames:

Alpha frame: The man (AMOG) is the leader of the relationship, decides what happens, is the authority. He choose the direction the pack is going, generally his way of looking at things (in relationship context) is better than anyone else's. He understands the nature of men and women (AFBB, hypergamy, SMV, The Wall, AMOG, ..), he knows what to do and stays firmly in his frame. No matter how hot she is, he holds frame.

Beta frame: The woman is the leader of the relationship, the man (BMOG) refers to his wife (or AMOG) for all decisions, women are the authority. Happy wife happy life, he thinks she knows what she wants and how the world should be, he supplicates to her and enters her frame.

Having a strong relationship frame (alpha) does not mean you have a stronger frame in every context. E.g. sewing, if your plate knows better how to sew, then respect her frame on sewing and follow her lead on that subject.

Likewise, having a weak relationship frame (beta) does not mean you have a weaker frame in every context. E.g. mechanics, math, ...


WHAT MAKES A STRONG FRAME?

A strong frame is a personal conviction that the way YOU look at things is the right way. The more confidence you have that your interpretation is the right one, the stronger your frame. What creates confidence?

  • knowledge (TRP theory)

  • experience (TRP action)

  • social proof

  • having money

  • having high SMV

  • collection of other strong frames on other subjects: the more things you know everything about / are an authority at, the more confident you are in all your frames

You need a strong frame to make others want to enter your frame. It needs to be better, more accurate and stronger than theirs in order for them to change their interpretation to yours.


WHAT IS HOLDING FRAME?

Sometimes 2 frames collide. Holding frame is sticking with your interpretation in spite of another. Holding frame in TRP context is often, but not only about the relationship frame.

Example 1

One of your plates wants your commitment.

Her frame: exclusive relationship is better than plating

Your frame: plating (or dropping the plate) is better than an exclusive relationship

Holding frame is sticking to plating (or dropping the plate) instead of getting into the exclusive relationship because you need the sex.

Example 2

You're an expert at eating healthy and a plate tells you to eat loads of sugar because it tastes so good.. Stick to your frame.

Note 1

You should not always hold frame: if you believe that 1+1=3, and a professor proves that 1+1=2, then adjust your frame / enter his. The professor has authority on that subject. Don't be a sperg / narcissist who 'is always right' and always has the strongest frame.

Note 2

IDGAF is you not caring which frame someone else has, or whether or not they enter your frame. If your frame is that everyone has to enter your frame, then your frame is wrong, needy and weak.

Do not try to force others into entering your frame.


STRONG FRAME AND LEADERSHIP

A good leader is someone who has a strong relationship frame. He doesn't need to make all decisions, sometimes he delegates or defers to someone with a frame he doesn't control himself. He however does approve all decisions made.

E.g.: a military squad is on a dropping. The squad leader will ask the navigator of the group on instructions for what way to go.


IN CONCLUSION

  • For increased sexual success, adopt the alpha relationship frame

  • Build strong frames by gaining knowledge and experience. Stick to your frames, but also keep an open mind for ways to improve them and make them even stronger

  • Don't enter someone else's frame if you don't agree with it

  • The higher your SMV, the stronger your perceived frames. If you're rich, successful, have social proof, .. people will enter your frame way faster. After all, if you've made it that far, you must be doing something right (by using the right frame)