TL : DR : What you need to get is the fact that the prison of betaization exists for those who haven't realized that they aren't supposed to be betaized and that society does it only because you're haven't mastered your masculinity yourself. Those who get it don't need to be told to leave it, nor do they ask permission - they break out. Because they're the men in charge of themselves now.

The biggest reason why society and your family and the people around you try to betaize you into compliance, minimize your attraction and hide your authentic sexual energy right from when you hit puberty is because you don't get it. Those who listen to them and play by those rule-books end up as males who have no mastery over their sexual energy and are therefore unable to figure out how attraction works, how to raise their SMV, how to avoid spiraling into destructive and covert sexual behaviors and so on.

When the people around you realize you're not a master who gets it, you are seen as a threat, and maybe later, a non-male. These rules, the things people say, all those were not meant to help you master your sexual dimension, they were made specifically to limit it where it would be safe for others. Because you don't get it. People talk a lot about how sex, love and relationships should be logically, precisely because the actual nature of those instincts are different.

This facade continues to be maintained by society as long as they see that you don't get it and you're still a potential threat because you're green and ignorant of your own power. But at the same time, by making it safe, they are also completely eliminating the possibility of your masculine energy finding expression and relationships. As you grow older, their rules and words are the very things that hamper you ever further, like a solid rocket booster that is spent and is now dead weight dragging you down and off course. They also eliminate the possibility of you getting the respect you need in your life, or the possibility that your life is in your own frame at all. They are also unable to respect you and hope behind their words that you'll get it and won't stay as a castrated piece of life in a masculine body forever. When you walk half steps, you will never run at your peak.

All this is already known stuff, right? Besides, we've all been there in beta hell. So what's this post about?

You must recognize that society by itself has no way out of this Catch-22 - left to themselves they simply create a bigger problem in response to a potential one. They stay in a mess of conflicted needs forever - they cannot solve the issue of you. The solution can therefore only come from you. Only you can get it.

Masculine energy at the root of it is all about finding the solutions that do not yet exist. the stuff that others can never give you, but you must create them and give them to others. It's about the stuff that others need not tell you, because you're the one who knows. This place is what it is today because of that. The books and writings exist because a man walked the dark path and then wrote them where they did not exist. Hell, the world is where it is because of it. Everything you see around you did not exist at some point in the past. When the men of the past saw that they had nothing, they made everything.

And this is the first thing about being a man that you need to get - a man is self actualized. Masculinity is not a crown someone can place on your head. You have to make the crown, the throne, and your own kingdom - that's what it's about. Realizing that is a moment of clarity - the first "getting it".

I had this moment at a point where ultra blue pilled beta me was frustrated at everyone telling me what to do and getting irritated with me in general and looking down on me - I was constantly getting fucked over everywhere, treated with contempt, taken for granted, and was always wondering, "Why is all this happening to me?". Then I realized the problem - they weren't supposed to do this in the first place - telling me the obvious. I wasn't supposed to let all this happen to me. This shit I ought to have known myself. And I could do that only when I took responsibility over my own life. I was supposed to be in the driver's seat of my own car and get in there myself, without waiting for someone to tell me that.

And I did have the ability to figure it out - we all do. We don't use it until we realize we're supposed to and no one else can be responsible for that.

Kids are the ones who get nothing, and are told everything. Men need not be told any of that, because they get it.

And then you need to get the art of mastering your own masculine energy and taking it to its peak. The Catch - 22 of society is a giant shit test - what needs to come from within cannot come from outside by definition. That's what you need to get. The solutions are not with them, they're with you.

Help from other men who've walked the path and got it can and should be taken, but they're the passengers ultimately - no one can be in the drivers' seat but you - the responsibility for your life is yours. Ultimately no one can make you better than they themselves are. If you are capable of going further, then you're truly on your own. You have to lay the road.

An expert of the game has the knowledge, the skills, the SMV, the experience and the mastery to put it all together and get it to work. These people get it. Society and women treat them very differently. These people do not need any rulebooks designed for to keep the ignorant under lock and key, they write the rulebook that works. The highest level of masculinity in any dimension of life appears only when a man is good enough to actually write the book on the subject himself. The same people who told you the rules do not tell those guys the rules, they listen to them and submit to their rules.

These people can tell you what women and society is like when the facade has fallen, when they need not hide who they actually are, when they can actually drop their guard because they need not tell you the stuff to limit your sexual self and can instead enjoy it -- because you're the guy who gets it. Then they enter your frame instead. So utterly different from what they claimed they were right? Damn, now it's obvious why.

Society respects a man who has mastered his masculinity (or rather made to by his frame) while castrating those men who they see as not having mastered their masculinity. Only you can get yourself out of this hole, by mastering yourself.

There are no shortcuts to mastery - all the experts here who've walked the path have fallen more often than you've tried. And the same thing is true for reaching the peak of your SMV. Now that virtually all that needs to be said has been said and written here, you at least know honestly what you need to do. You must now stop listening to your betaizers and defy their rules and eventually get out of their frame altogether. The path must be walked, and one will stumble and fall before one learns to run.

Real mastery won't come overnight from just a moment of clarity, being angry about what you were fed, or by being a mere rebel of the rules, but it will come with the knowledge, skills, experience, the transformation. But knowing that you are supposed to become a master of your masculinity and that it is only ever your responsibility all along -- that is the first step out.

Naturally if you make a big show of your growth before you're a master, with the maturity of a 13 year old, you'll set off alarm bells around and be seen as a threat. Although the people around you may be logically aware that this is in your best interest, disrupting the status quo and your past equations is scary to them. But when they see that you've got it, their resistance drops, and acceptance happens.

So rule zero - you do not talk of fight club or mastery, but be aware that subtler is better, and at the highest level, when mastery is in your being, you need not do or say anything to show it. Others know. The level of being is the highest level of authenticity, where your mere presence gets the message across. That's the level you need to aim for.

Being a nice betaized male, operating in someone else's world and frame, is a paradigm specifically designed for those seen as unfit to be a master of masculinity and who don't get it. Those who get the secret break out of it by themselves. They do not stay in the followers's prison nor do they wait for anyone to give them keys to the door - they make their own key, break the lock and get out themselves, because now they know. The rulebook is given to you because you do not realize you're supposed to be a master. When you're a master, you write the rulebook where none exists. That's the secret. Get it, and you'll start taking the first step out of beta hell.

Sure, the guys here can guide you more honestly that the rest of society, but you're a master only when you are good enough to guide others. Till then, you're still don't get all of it. The good news is that we all have the ability to get it, the point is, we're supposed to and no one can take responsibility for that.

So the most useful question you can ask yourself when in doubt is : "Do I really need someone to tell me this anymore? Don't I know what I really need to do? And am I living true to that?" - then you get it. You can use this question for anything in your masculine life, and soon you'll realize that yes, you do have the ability to get it.

If I could sum it up, once the truth is obvious to you, no one needs to tell you. You know. Then you get better at knowing.

PS : If the mods had a dime every time they had to tell someone "Read the sidebar", they'd be Uncle Scrooge by now. For your own sake, it can't be stated enough, the sidebar of this and the mrp subs, the best posts and the books and at least getting your ass to the gym, lifting and walking the path for sometime, failing and then succeeding -- are mandatory stuff. By the end of that you should have got it yourself, in which case, you don't need to read this post. Thing is,even after all things man are available in front of you, do you still need some else to tell you you're supposed to read the stuff and do the work? Or do you not get it yet?