I’ve been reading for a while but haven’t really had anything to post. My situation is a little unique because the above quote was said a few days ago by my high school sweetheart ex. We’re early-mid 20s now for reference.

Backstory: We had a great but tumultuous high school/early college relationship and I finally ended it for good after he left for boot camp and I was finishing up college later that year (age 20, for reference).

We reconnected earlier this year (March) after I went through a terrible breakup with an ex. First it was just friendly reconnecting but turned into something more at the middle of this year. The military had been wonderful to him and he has absolutely changed for the better. He and I both acknowledged that neither of us had been fantastic partners back in high school and, while I’m still in the vetting stage, I really think that this could be something long term.

Real Story: He’s mentioned a few times that it’s so difficult to find a woman that is supportive about a military lifestyle, with the constant trainings and deployments. He’s actually deployed right now, but coming home soonish, which is when I think things will be made official! I’ve been staying supportive by sending (really cute, I must say) themed care packages. I’ve also made it a point to only be positive while he’s gone, because there’s no reason to bring him down any more when he’s been gone for his birthday and will be gone for the holidays as well.

Well it seems to be paying off, because he’s constantly saying how happy he is and that I’m such a valuable support system while he’s gone. He’s also joking-but-not-joking about me moving to his duty station. I am so happy that I can be there for him and I’ll be even happier when he’s home!

I also saw a post recently about getting back together with an ex. One of the top comments mentioned that it’s only feasible if both parties have changed pretty dramatically (for the better!) and I definitely agree. I feel that vetting is even more important with an ex but it can also be easier because you have the past as a reminder of what was actually wrong in the first place.

I hope you ladies have a lovely Sunday!