Some Men Have Dead Bedrooms or Get no Sex Because They Don't Care about Women's Sexual Pleasure

HarassMyAnger · 2019-12-10T12:58:35+00:00

And?

There's a lot of reasons for dead bedrooms, and this is one of them... So, what can be done? The woman can let him know what she likes, as opposed to letting the relationship rot because she's too meek to do so.

Especially if the woman acts like he's good in bed, even to placate his ego, how would he know thats the issue? In his world his performance is out of the question.

brokendownoldman · 2019-12-10T14:09:18+00:00

The only men I ever met with this attitude were really good looking and had no problems getting sex. And women put up with it because they get to be seen on his arm. Most men WANT repeat business because they never know when the next opportunity is coming!

cappeca · 2019-12-10T13:24:08+00:00

Why would women stay in a relationship with them?

Why aren't women responsible for their own orgasm?

Blaming men exclusively for dead bedrooms - especially based on sex performance - is so 90s it's like blaming women for using sex as a weapon. We're beyond these points now, people should know better about who they choose to share a bed with.

2019-12-10T16:24:02+00:00

And some men get away with "spinning plates" because they very much care about women's sexual pleasure.

2019-12-10T13:54:54+00:00

That assumption doesn't make sense, unless you're talking about a Chad. For guys that don't have many options, it behooves them to learn about female pleasure. Cause who knows when they'll get laid again, better make sure she has a good time so a encore performance can happen.

Guys who don't care either have enough options they feel like they don't have to try, or the woman wasn't hot enough to warrant effort.

It's the only thing that makes sense. That, or women have ruined themselves with vibrators so much so regular sex can't get the job done. But I don't think that's the case

MrHerbSherman · 2019-12-10T15:14:06+00:00

Wrong wrong wrong

There are a boatload of women who will keep coming back for bad selfish sex even just casual sex, if they think you are hot. You don’t even have to be that attractive just enough that they think of you that way

SqueaksScreech · 2019-12-11T00:35:33+00:00

If the sex is bad I'm telling them. I ain't holding back. If he doesn't care then bye.

762Rifleman · 2019-12-10T21:38:47+00:00

caring about her pleasure at all is "cucked" or "gay".

Please tell us more about your experience with a forum full of time travelers from the 1730's.

jonascf · 2019-12-10T19:28:53+00:00

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Iamthegirliam · 2019-12-10T21:33:41+00:00

True. I would never want to have sex if ir meant just penetration. Some reason men fail to undersand that penetration is not really pleasurable for many women. They want us to orgasm just from their dicks, which will never happen for me and for many women out there. I had only two partners but they both belived this shit. I had to teach my fiance that no, I won't enjoy penetration and he has to go down on me to make my orgasm possible. He is an amazing man so he has no problem with that, but still it was a bitter pill to swallow for him.

cxj · 2019-12-10T23:28:53+00:00

Once again, I’ll post that out of the 20 something girls I’ve boned in my life, only 4 of them came, and they knew exactly what they wanted, stayed it clearly and it worked fairly easily and quickly.

Of the ones who didn’t come, most of them flat out told me when I asked what felt good or what made them come, “I don’t know.” Many of them texted me off and on for hookups for years. Go figure 🤷‍♀️

My only conclusion is that most of these women don’t actually know what they want and expect their minds to be read, which is consistent with what I observe with the rest of female behavior .

geyejoe7 · 2019-12-11T09:19:27+00:00

Exactly. Would you wanna keep having sex with a woman that doesn't make you cum? Ever? No.

Why not? Because that's kind of the point of sex.

Sure, women enjoy having sex the whole time, and then there is the big finish.

While guys just try to cum asap.

churnthrowaway123456 · 2019-12-10T15:45:55+00:00

Is the idea that men are bad at sex really true for guys younger than 30-35 (i.e. ones that grew up with access to porn and in more enlightened times)?

This point comes from frequently, but it seems to be a reflection of the fact that a lot of Boomers post here.

DubsPackage · 2019-12-10T15:29:47+00:00

You lie

I gave that woman the best 3 minutes of her life

wtknight · 2019-12-10T16:48:49+00:00

Yet women still will have sex with a handsome Chad the night she meets him having no idea whether he will care about her sexual needs or not, while using the excuse that you post to support not having sex with lesser men.

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FatmanSlim93 · 2019-12-10T20:13:00+00:00

Where are you finding these freaks?

geyges · 2019-12-10T13:31:28+00:00

I've read what men post online

There's your problem.

Why would a woman want to have sex under those circumstances?

Question I ask myself everyday, and yet, they do.

How about women look for a man that does care about their sexual pleasure? PM me nudes, I'll see what I can do.

Taipanshimshon · 2019-12-10T18:48:45+00:00

Your orgasm is your problem. Fin.

crookedsummer2019 · 2019-12-10T16:05:04+00:00

I really don’t think most men are that selfish in bed, the men who are or think its beta to care about the women getting off are the guys who already know they suck in bed and their egos are too fragile to do anything about it.

Even on the RP sites, there is advice on how to get her off and the importance of doing so. Many of them talk about enjoying sex more when she gets off.

I think we have to remember that there are some very inexperienced men, plus very bitter men, mixed in with TRP who are more likely to have the view that her enjoyment doesn’t matter. Those views don’t represent the majority of men, in my opinion and experience.

I also think that us women need to be more upfront about what we like. If he gets defensive about it then we know he’s going to suck in bed and we know to move on.

D_D_BA4 · 2019-12-10T16:08:22+00:00

Is there any scenario in life, let alone relationships, where women are responsible? Seriously.

jonascf · 2019-12-10T19:14:37+00:00

The most important factor in making a woman orgasm is how good looking you are. That's it.

If a woman is in a dead bedroom it's cause she's not as physically attracted to her husband as she used to be, and no amount of "pleasure serving" or w/e you think a guy would need to do to make a woman orgasm is going to make a difference.

Refusal to go down and 10 mins of being banged out by a hawt man with status = orgasm.

2 hr session of candles, massages, oral, positions, etc. with balding chubby accountant = nadda

gimpgirl555 · 2019-12-10T14:30:42+00:00

Because you get dick? *Some* dick is better than no dick IMO.

wtffellification · 2019-12-10T15:02:13+00:00

what has (risking) STD's have to do with women dead bedrooming men?

abaxeron · 2019-12-10T17:42:21+00:00

why would a woman want to have sex with them again?

Because she chose to get into an LTR or marriage with one of them. DUUUUH. "Dead bedroom" implies sexual exclusivity. It's not a problem among FWBs, open relationships, or random strangers. The problem is not that men "have" dead bedrooms, and never was; the problem is that women lock men in dead bedrooms.

redditaccountFN2187 · 2019-12-11T03:09:57+00:00

In my experience most women love jackhammering

Title	Some Men Have Dead Bedrooms or Get no Sex Because They Don't Care about Women's Sexual Pleasure
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Date	December 10, 2019 12:46 PM UTC (4 years ago)
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