How do I overcome my fear and negative outlook of women?

pandamojia · 2019-11-30T16:05:57+00:00

You are surrounding yourself in the wrong crowds if you want a wife. Avoid club and tinder for sure.

Religious minded women will certainly be open to marriage (consider that more women are religious than men). Or consider those that come from strong knit family backgrounds (whom might be involved in academic societies, charity work etc).

Sure some women don’t want marriage. But some women are willing to do sacrifice a lot to get married and have a family- but the man needs the emotional and financial means to do that. Women all being the same and men all being the same is a lie spouted by the red pill.

wiggityspliggety · 2019-11-30T15:15:03+00:00

There are a lot of different people in the world and they most often associate with others who are like them. So the places you go and people you see will likely lead to meeting more of the same women.

So determine what kind of woman you want to find. Think of the traits and attitudes you find appealing. Then (if you've been realistic) determine where women like that would spend their time. Spend time in those places.

Now here's the critical part - while ditching the old unhealthy notions, determine through actively listening to and conversing with these women what kind of people they want to spend time around. Is that the sort of person you want to be? Cool. Take purposeful, individual steps to becoming that person.

Your post throws up a few big issues to be aware of:

It sounds like the ideas you have about women are tied to very specific ideas about sexuality. Keep in mind that a vagina is only a very small percentage of what makes up a woman.
You're trying to learn new ideas, but you are using old experiences to inform your point of view. It's important to acknowledge that women, like men, are on an asshole spectrum. Sounds like maybe you met some on the wrong part of the spectrum.
You need to go deeper. Do you have a friend that is a Chad, or do you have a friend that with a personality disorder who uses sex in a damaging and misguided way to feel better about himself? Are you so wrapped up in your ideas about sexuality that you judge others who don't share those views? Are you choosing to view women as individual complex humans (like yourself) without reducing them to sex vending machines for douche bags?

Good luck on your journey. If you honestly want to change your views I believe you can do it.

Yesm3can · 2019-11-30T17:45:46+00:00

You wrote this:

https://old.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/bgddn1/what_is_your_childhood_memory_that_you_thought/emq0zdv/?context=3

And you have negative outlook on women? I knew someone a long time ago, who also grew up getting beaten black and blue by his father and seeing his father tormenting his mother. He grew up to be a woman hater.

We see some guys with mommy issues grew up to hate women (more or less understandable), but some boys with daddy issues also grew up hating women and not hating his fellow men instead. Interesting, isn't it?

Title	How do I overcome my fear and negative outlook of women?
Author	e_Pluribus_Unum1
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Comments	3
Date	November 30, 2019 2:58 PM UTC (4 years ago)
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