When woman leave LTR,does she always has another man?

BlueAscetic · 2019-10-24T15:04:52+00:00

Yes, women do want a chance to be single without dating or worrying about men for awhile.

Rhazelle · 2019-10-24T17:57:17+00:00

sigh I see you're also asking redpill people about this. I suggest getting away from that sub - it's toxic and only fuels sexist thoughts and rage for women.

A lot of questions asking for advice on exredpill can be addressed by flipping the genders.

Men and women are not really that different. I'm not claiming they are 100% the same (there of course are things like physical and hormonal differences, and of course being raised with societal gender roles would have some effect), but none of that changes the fact that women and men fundamentally do and want the same things and think the same way, even if the approaches may be slightly different due to the above factors.

So ask yourself: "When a man leaves an LTR, does he always have another woman?"

To which the answer is derp, of course not.

There are Multitudes of reasons to leave someone, man or woman. Just off the top of my head:

1) Your partner doesn't fulfill your needs

2) Your partner is an asshole/is abusive

3) You don't align on major values (example: religion, kids)

4) You don't see a future with the other person

5) Your parents don't approve (could be a dealbreaker for some people)

7) You feel you don't love your partner anymore

8) One or both of you changed as you got older and matured, and now have different internal values/life projection/feelings/what you're looking for in life etc. (which happens all the time especially at your age since your brain is still developing and you're going through a lot of new experiences)

The list goes fucking on and on. Yes having someone else is one possibility. But to think it's the only possibility is just dumb and uninformed. Incidentally, that's the possibility redpill thinking pushes as 99% of the time true because they're a brainwashed cult that doesn't actually know how anything works.

Just step outside of redpill thinking and apply basic logic for a moment, and you'll realize it's frankly just super dumb to believe that people are that black and white, and sexist to think that women and men are that different.

Logically, there are multitudes of reasons that a person breaks up with another. Just think of all the legitimate reasons you might break up with a woman without another one, then flip the genders.

seeingredagain · 2019-10-24T13:31:40+00:00

Yes. Some women don't like to be alone and will have someone just like some men do, but some women like to be alone to work on their own lives without having to worry about someone else all the time. She's still young and has the whole future ahead of her, as you do. Spend sometime taking care of yourself and doing things you want to do. You'll find that you can be very good company for yourself.

Jamonde · 2019-10-24T14:35:27+00:00

In general, yes. Sometimes people ending finding someone else long after a breakup and may end up getting together with someone soon after unintentionally - ie, that wasn’t what they meant to do immediately after. But just as often, they don’t, and spend plenty of time single.

If she broke up with you, it meant that for whatever reasons, she did not want to be in a relationship with you at this time anymore. What you’re probably noticing is that she is trying to distance herself from you by removing the necklace, and that she’s experience some kind of relief. It sucks to hear, but people break off relationships because they anticipate feeling better outside of them, and it sounds like your ex was no exception.

The best advice is to try to move on yourself. Definitely reflect and talk about what you need to with good people, people you trust, but you have every right to move on and distance yourself from her, too.

brahmidia · 2019-10-25T00:07:21+00:00

Women are not a monolith. Just like men, they could do any number of things for any number of reasons. I understand it can drive you crazy to not know, but she's her own person and if you don't have evidence of something then it's best to put it out of your mind.

Even if you see her downtown with another man tomorrow, that doesn't mean anything. She didn't want to be with you anymore and that's that, for any number of reasons. And for all you know she just met the guy that day or is talking to a good friend about the breakup. She's her own person, you don't own her and she doesn't owe you anything. For whatever reason the relationship is over and closure will come with time. Don't assume that it ended for any reason besides you two not working out.

Rad1Red · 2019-10-30T14:41:24+00:00

I'm sorry, mate. I know it hurts, but it will pass. Virtual hugs to you.

If it makes any difference, I am a woman and I've broken up with people because we were incompatible, without having anyone on the sidelines. Just because I don't like wasting people's time, or my time for that matter.

Please get away from TRP. It will fuck you up badly.

There was a guy recently in a sex advice sub who was asking for help, he felt he was going nuts and didn't know what to do.

Guess what his problem was. :) His (loving) gf had been a virgin when they met. They planned to get married. But because TRP had rendered him incapable of trusting any woman, he was constantly torturing himself thinking that she will resent not having been with other men and will cheat on him in the future.

Mate, he'd been her effing first (so body count 1 for her!) and she loved him to bits. He said she was great. But he still couldn't trust her!

Can you imagine being this fucked up? It is incredibly difficult to recover. Please don't do this to yourself.

theoracleofosiris · 2019-10-24T21:59:56+00:00

Not in my experience

internet_username_97 · 2019-10-25T13:32:04+00:00

I've been there a few times, starting about 10-15 years ago. Breakups are painful on the receiving end especially when they come as a surprise. If you want to spare yourself some pain I have a few suggestions. Stop hanging around with her even if it is as friends, never go back even if she wants to, bear your grief gracefully because the pity of others only makes the feeling worse. Your mileage may vary, science might disagree, those are just things I personally have found useful for protecting the heart. Moving on is hard but when one half of the couple says its over, its over. At this stage you have to protect your sense of self worth and that's the main motivation behind my suggestions. You might find yourself on the opposite end of this situation some day and honestly that sucks just as much, breaking a girls heart makes you feel like an evil monster and the guilt is awful.

Girls do typically have an easier time finding new guys than the other way around but it shouldn't be your concern now that its over. My first one found other guys pretty quickly, possibly before she did the break up. Others did this shitty on/off thing with me before finally ending it and after enduring that pain I think I'd prefer that they'd rip off the bandaid all at once. I've had a couple that stayed single for several months before starting up with another man. But, I purposefully avoided checking up after things ended with most of them, so I don't know what happened in most cases.

Good luck out there

purpleyogi · 2019-11-02T21:09:16+00:00

Short Answer - No. She does not always have another man. Women do and will break up because the existing relationship is toxic/uninteresting/clingy or myriad other reasons. if someone has family and friend network support around them, it makes it easier for them (male or female) to make the right choice in relationships.

pandamojia · 2019-10-24T21:11:31+00:00

Having sex with someone creates a VERY strong bond (especially if you are a virgin). Usually the (unideal) way to break that bond is to sleep with someone new.

To be fair, rebound relationships very rarely work out long term. It’s best to remain single after a breakup for a while until you figure out what went wrong.

High SMV men do this as well if they had options. This is not exclusive to women, but just that your average woman has more options than your average man.

mabden · 2019-10-24T13:30:20+00:00

Young chicks change boyfriends as often as their underwear. Get used to it.

Title	When woman leave LTR,does she always has another man?
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Date	October 24, 2019 1:04 PM UTC (4 years ago)
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