So If the Red Pill is Toxic, what is the remedy for young men who feel disenfranchised by the American dating scene?

bunker_man · 2019-07-19T09:19:35+00:00

You can work out and try to be more assertive without being selfish and sexist.

https://www.psypost.org/2019/07/couples-experience-more-relationship-problems-when-the-male-partner-is-sexist-54023

The red pill isn't a path to success anyways. It might get you laid, but its not useful long term even if you are an egoist who only cares about personal benefit.

RaYnDaWg1123 · 2019-07-19T15:52:06+00:00

I’d say what works best is a mix between what TRP would classify as alpha and beta qualities.

You need the Red Pill in a few situations. You need to appear to have an abundance mentality and appear easygoing to initially attract women. TRP isn’t wrong about this, but most people misinterpret it. Where you should simply be playful and acting mildly disinterested, most guys take this as “I should act like a jerk to women”. Don’t do that; that won’t get you anywhere. Don’t be clingy either, that is also something that will cause anyone to lose interest in you. Not just girls, but friends too. In the context of a relationship, being able to hold frame, remain calm, and handle situations without drama is a very useful tool as well. It’s also important to keep your life going and not give it all to your girl. You can have all the fun with her you want and treat her with dates/gifts within your own budget, but you still need to have your own personal goals and not let the relationship take over your life. Another RP quality you should have is being able to handle her “acting up”. Yes, it’s okay for her to vent and get angry or sad sometimes, but if she’s consistently gaslighting you or getting whiny over the dumbest stuff, you need to call her out, not just “roll with it”.

Some Blue Pill qualities are also important in a relationship. It’s okay to talk to your partner about how you’re feeling sometimes. Just don’t be a whiny bitch all the time, that’s annoying to anyone. It’s okay to support your partner if she needs it. TRP says as soon as a girl fucks up, you should drop her, but everyone makes mistakes and women are obviously no different. It’s okay to do things that she wants to do sometimes. Don’t always just treat your partner like a second priority for literally anything else like TRP hints. Making time to just hang out and be with each other or do fun things that she wants to do is essential to a relationship. A girl that feels like she is important in your life is a happy girl, most of the time, contrary to what TRP says.

TeePeeDucks · 2019-07-19T09:24:24+00:00

I'm going to attempt and try to answer this:

My question is if the red pill doesn’t work as is claimed on this reddit, what should young men do to attract American women?

Red Pill NEVER works. It has fake effect on women whose self esteem is so low (often with a PD themselves) that any attention (including negative attention) would make them feel "love". The irony of this is that, no healthy relationship can be formed from this. Alot of men who are emotionally dead inside or suffer from a PD themselves might find these women attractive. Its basically emotional unavailable attracts emotionally unavailable. On top of that emotionally healthy women are extremely repulsed by Red Pill.

Why does it seem like men must do all of the work while women just sit there and contribute nothing to the dating game?

This is not true. Women contribute in their own way. Some might even do the chase. What you have is a massive misconception.

Why does authentic, strong willed men who don’t conform to American society or American dating have a hard time in this country but guys who are legit conformists seem to have no problems whatsoever?

I have no idea what type of women or what kind of traits you find attractive. I think that might be a clue to your answer.

And why is these problems only in the United States but men from non western cultures have no problems with females?

I think any men who uses Red Pill (from anywhere on this globe) will have problems.

Title	So If the Red Pill is Toxic, what is the remedy for young men who feel disenfranchised by the American dating scene?
Author	IndigenousNeo
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Date	July 19, 2019 6:37 AM UTC (4 years ago)
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