I met my girl over 8 months ago. And things started off so fucking awesome. We both went above and beyond for each other and even still everyday we try to do something to show how much we love each other.

Up until last month we started arguing out of no where constantly. Most of the time it’s over stupid stuff but I feel I can’t communicate properly with her. I’m not even saying she’s fully to blame. I just can’t seem to sit down and get her to see my side when I see hers but I am working on it. I believe I need to STFU more instead of always talking logic. Listen to how she feels and make her feel understood. The problem comes where My point of view doesn’t even come close to hers and I see her just being irrational.

The fights really have discouraged me into putting in the full 500% I was giving. And with that issues I kind of over looked in the beginning are starting to bother me. I’m thinking this is a me problem but I can’t seem to get over this stuff.

  1. She used to be a stripper back in high school.

Granted she is 33 now. But when I first met her I never in a million years would have believed it. We were new so I don’t think she was comfortable with telling me yet. So instead I had to find out from a friend who used to go to high with her who new we were seeing each other. This blew my mind but she had got really upset when I asked her and said it’s the biggest regret she has ever had in life. She needed money to go to college and her parents never told her she would regret it. Or it would harm her in the future. She swore she never slept with anyone for money. Just danced.

I was understanding at the time even thought it fucked with my head. Everything was going so good I was sure I could overlook it.

We had been talking for sometime before we hung out. But on the second date we slept together. She didn’t ask me to use a condom even though I had brought them. I also found that to be a little weird. And then asked me to cum inside her after our like second time having sex. Now I had slept with a bunch of women and never had any of this happen. But with her innocent and sweet personality this confused me.

I’m wondering am I dating a closet slut?

She said she hasn’t slept with that many people and I let it go and believed her.

She’s had been going out back to tan in a thong.

We now live together and she has been going out back when I’m at work and tanning in a thong. Now I think logically this is stupid for me to be upset about. But it does bother me first why does she have this thong bathing suit and how she can so feely go into public (even though it’s in the back of the house) with out caring.

She also said to me she was at the gym the other day (crossfit) and she tried to twerk and she can still do it. And I’m thinking why are you a grown woman with a boyfriend twerking in front of people at the gym?

when I first met her. And we talked I told her these type of behaviors make me uncomfortable. I like a woman who doesn’t do these type of things in public and every time something like this happens. I will make a little joke about it and try to ignore how I feel but I can’t help it. It eats at me and I think about it all day. I get really uncomfortable and it makes me feel like I’m dating a slut and don’t know it. I would never tell her that. But this is how I feel. Am I wrong for this? Things are great but these things eat at me. I feel like I’ll come off insecure if I bring them up but I keep suppressing them. Should I just leave and allow her to be who she wants to be. Or should I bring it up?

I feel like this stuff makes me stress in the relationship along with the arguments. And I’m having trouble trying to sort it all out. Can I get some outside input on this