So to keep it short, I’ve had this female group of friends I thought I used to like hanging out with. But eventually I figured out they just liked me validating them and stroking their ego.

Mainly by playing on my thirst and craving female company? Especially one of the girls there was my former “oneitis” who I liked for a very long time but who I’ve had to move on from after o figured she was just leading me on?

She got with some other guy in a mere minutes while making me wait for months to even have a slight chance of having sex with her?(and still haven’t had sex with her mind you)

This cemented my AWALT beliefs even more and I’ve withdrawn from them. It just felt like the whole relationship rested on me chasing after and desiring my former oneitis, once I stopped chasing her, they stopped inviting me to hang out with them.

But on the other hand I also feel that I just want to be my genuine self and deal with them in this way? So I don’t totally ignore them but just try to be my authentic self, rather than my old, supplicating, validating and validation seeking personality?

What is your guy’s opinion on this?

Am I doing the right thing withdrawing or am I a “bad” guy for withdrawing when I don’t get sex?

For your interest: I don’t mind being friendzoned or being friends at all, it’s the continued flirting that annoys me and confuses me. If she just stopped flirting and just treated me as a regular non romantic friend, I would’ve been fine with it. But I feel like she continues to flirt to validate herself about me desiring her at my expense