One of the biggest tenants of TRP ideology is the very notion that women are drawn to "alphas" who are confident, charismatic, charming but above all else, emotionally unavailable, aloof, and secretive about their feelings. I think that in particular, some women will be drawn to emotionally unavailable men but not because it's "in their biology", and not because being unavailable says that you have status, or conveys non-neediness. After spending a lot of time researching the subject and examining real psychological studies and practice - not "field reports" - it seems that there's something in the aloof, unattached guys that remind these women of her father, or any other important men from her childhood days. Her father, or whichever men she related to the closest, help shape how she expects to be loved. In fact, it seems like this kind of "emotional map" is truly the key to creating that "spark", and why some people just do something for you that others can't.

If for example, a father is emotionally distant or even abusive, she'll unfortunately become attracted to men who relate to her similarly later in life. Much of male dating advice, particularly that of the "red pill" variety, tells you that being unavailable is the way to keep her interested. What they're really saying is you should attempt to attract someone who has intimacy issues and will see familiarity and desire in someone who acts that way. It's a really sad state of affairs, because it's essentially telling men to take advantage of women's issues so that they can have sex with them. This isn't how relationships should work, at least not ideally.

It's actually pretty sad to think about, because it's turning into a viscous cycle where men "learn" to attract women by becoming emotionally unavailable, then meet women who are drawn to this and end up in relationships with them. Worst case scenario, they have a kid or two, and dad remains emotionally available to the kids who will end up adults that seek emotionally distant partners. To be fair, not all or perhaps not even most men consciously behave this way because they think it's the only way, but it sure as shit isn't helping that there's groups of folks out there telling men that they HAVE to behave this way unless they want to be single forever.