I was never a true "Red Piller," but a little over a year ago I did begin to browse the sub frequently and found myself agreeing with much of what was posted. I felt like I definitely suffered from nice guy syndrome throughout my early to mid 20s and came off as weak in past relationships - I didn't want to be that way. In the last year I started getting with women just to see if I could fuck them using some of the red pill tactics. It actually seemed to work in most cases, but it certainly didn't make me feel better about myself, or caused any woman to respect me more.

I think what the Red Pill gets wrong is that the whole trope that women are ALL looking to be taken care of, lust after the so called alpha male but like to keep beta males at arms length for stability, their feelings toward single moms, their opinions on masculinity, even the whole notion of "alpha" all comes from sweeping generalizations. Every person, every situation, is different and unique. Not everyone fits into these cookie cutter stereotypes, especially those with complex emotions, complicated work and family situations, and even personal tastes.

At 28 years old, I'm glad the red pill was nothing more than a footnote in my life. I think I was feeling insecure about myself and my dating life and wanted to find a way to build that confidence. Red Pill seemingly offered that at first, but there's a fine line between gaining confidence, embracing positive masculinity, and being a strong grounded man compared to the misogyny, fragile masculinity, cynicism, and cookie cutter world view the red pill offers.