I'm getting really impatient with how things are going with dating/relationships.

I'm 24 with Asperger's Syndrome, I've been single for 3 years now and the dates I've gotten are few/far between.

I've been in and out of therapy for the last 6 months or so. It really hasn't given me much to work with beyond a bit more emotional resilience. Of course I've also been working heavily on following my bliss, to paraphrase one of my favorite bands Senses Fail(whom i saw last night.) I've been trying to work on my own personal passions more when not busy with work and school(this time of year I'm always busy with writing papers or work and prone to random anxiety related issues, so I haven't had much time to do much outside of a few concerts like SF last night.) Concerts, skateboarding, playing my guitars when I can and trying to write music as well, and video games are my main hobby.

Socially I'm thriving fairly okay for what it's worth. I have tons of friends both at school and outside of it, and i love going to concerts and my favorite goth club and just talking to people there, I know at the Senses Fail concert Friday I had quite a few people, women mostly going up and talking to me like they'd known me forever and I complimented one girl on her cool blue hair and she said my dyed blonde was beautiful(lol I was a mess from headbanging and cry singing.) Point is, I know I'm more socially adept than i give myself credit for.

Now, on the subject of dating. I've gone on two dates this year that ended up blowing up in my face. One the girl was having serious mania issues and ended up going out with me during one of her mania episodes and telling me she had no interest in me the day after, despite telling me the days before how she wanted to cook for me and do cute things as well as have kinky sex with me. The other time was a coworker of mine earlier this week who I took out, who as it turns out, was already with another coworker of mine, but "just wanted to see how I'd do on a date" which was confusing and infuriating to me, especially since she denied it to said coworker when I confronted him about it. But yeah, it was a pretty bona fide date, esp. since we held hands.

To get to the meat of the subject, I've been seriously wanting to try to use pickup tactics again after these two incidents, but I also know manipulation is bad. How can I correct my mindset and approach? Felling rather disheartened.