I'm 25. About 2.5 years ago, I discovered TRP. I had never been successful with the opposite sex so it immediately appealed to me and gave me many satisfying answers.
About 8 months ago, I met a girl at my job and we hit it off really hard, really fast. The entire relationship has been wonderful. I've never been so relaxed around another human being. Constant laughs since the day we met. Amazing sex 3-7 times / week since about a week after we met and hasn't slowed down. Both of our families and friends think we're a great couple.
The only thing TRP has helped me with is not being timid about escalating the interaction. I went from walking up to her, asking for her number, setting up 1 date, then sex the next time we saw each other.
Beyond that, TRP has only hindered me and threatened a beautiful relationship for no fucking reason whatsoever.
Like 1 or 2% of the content on TRP is helpful, yet common sense stuff that wasn't originally conceived by TRP anyway. The usual advice: stay fit, don't be dependent, have a thing/hobby, don't be boring, dress decent etc. People have been saying this shit forever, and TRP gives shallow advice anyway. There's tons of personal development material out there that will give you much better advice without the unnecessary, dubious, anecdotal, insecure redpill shit shoveled on top of otherwise good advice.
I wasted so much fucking time on TRP reading and contributing to the circlejerk. When I look at TRP now it's so cringey some of the stuff that gets posted there. I don't even care that it's misogynistic, or false, or whatever, it's just straight up embarrassing and cringey.
It's often said on TRP that redpillers "hate how much TRP works". What if I told you that after a good 2 years reading that garbage the only field report I can provide is that TRP doesn't work and I am now a bluepilled beta cuck?
Anytime I tried to use any advice from TRP/asktrp, it ended up backfiring. The beginning of the relationship was slightly rocky which was entirely my fault and I almost ruined something good due to my insecure manchild behavior.
Anything positive I may have learned from TRP was cancelled out by the additional insecurity and overcompensating behavior that comes with a subscription.
I struggle with mild anxiety and depression. I remember one time a few months ago I was having a very bad episode and I broke down crying in front of her while we were in bed. She just held me and told me she loves me and she'll always be here for me and petted me to sleep. The next day she went out and fucked Chad because she realized she was dating a huge pussy.
Actually that didn't happen. She initiated sex in the morning and again that same night. Weird.
"There are no unicorns. AWALT." I always cringe when I read "AWALT". Shut the fuck up kid, holy fuck.
It's fucked up how TRP thinks your significant other is going to instantly leave you and/or break your trust because you're a human being. This causes you to bottle up a lot of things and take on a fake persona instead of learning how to be comfortable with who you are right now. It causes you to create an unnecessary wall between you and your significant other, preventing you from reaching deeper levels of emotion and connection. It causes unnecessary anxiety and fear that will affect your relationship by creating problems where there aren't any. Then of course you're going to "hamster" it by saying, "Yep, TRP said this would happen. AWALT."
Just looking back at these past 8 months. It's amazing how forgiving and loving my girl has been. One bad habit I used to have is overthinking and overanalyzing small things she did because I was expecting her to be shitty because AWALT and relationships between the sexes are inherently antagonistic right? And I would ignore a lot of the good things about her and our relationship.
Sometimes I simply tell her when she does something or says something that bothers me, and she changes her behavior. I do a lot for her (beta bux amirite?) and she recognizes that, so when I ask her to do something, she does it because she loves me and she wants me to be happy.
I wish I could go back and trade in all that time I spent reading TRP and manosphere material for classic personal development material or just actually doing something productive instead of wasting time on the internet attention whoring with morons.
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