TL;DR: I ignored a ton of stuff that made me doubt TRP, until there were so many reasons to doubt that my belief in most of TRP's claims collapsed.

I had a friend, we'll call him Matt, growing up who was very staunchly Mormon. Matt woke up at 5 to go to Sunday school before school started, and he didn't ever drink coffee, swear, or fool around with chicks. After high school, right before he was supposed to go on a religious mission, he surprised everyone and completely renounced Mormonism. Years later, we were talking over some beers and I asked him why he left. He told me about this analogy that exists in Mormonism that might be applicable to /r/theredpill. When people in the religion hear or think something that makes them doubt the truthfulness of the LDS church, they're advised to put their doubts and questions aside on a metaphorical shelf, and eventually the stack of doubts on the shelf will either be forgotten or resolved. Matt said that his shelf eventually got too heavy and collapsed under all the accumulated sources of doubt, so it wasn't just one thing that made him leave, it was an assortment of issues.

I think I had a bit of a similar experience to Matt with /r/theredpill. I ignored a whole bunch of concerns/doubts before my faith in TRP finally crashed down this summer. (I'm using the word 'faith' because I had to actively put effort into believing in TRP for as long as I did). Here is a list of some of those things that I tried to ignore on my shelf.

  • The mods occasionally banning respectful, well thought-out posts because they challenged the community's consensus or something in the sidebar

  • The trust TRP puts in evolutionary psych theorizing done by amateurs on the internet.

  • The sexual market value graph that was based on nothing other than Rollo Tomassi's opinions, but got put in the sidebar and treated like it had actual data.

  • The insistence that academics in sociology, psychology, and biology only disagreed with TRP's ideas because academia has been infiltrated by feminism.

  • The occasional field reports where all the dialogue read like poorly-written fanfiction.

  • That post criticizing the sidebar that got /r/redpilldebate shut down.

  • Interactions with women and men outside of the internet.

Did any of y'all have a similar experience? If so, what things made you doubt TRP's truthfulness? What unanswered questions were on your shelf?