Hi All,

I could really use some advice here. I go to a very liberal college, and finding good women is tough to do. I found my girlfriend, and she's really great. She's conservative and strong, and she is very focused on advancing in her career and isn't needy/overly-emotional like a lot of girls I've been with. I get along with her really well, and the only concern I really have is her sexual past...

When I started dating her, I didn't want to know her sexual past, so I didn't ask until I eventually had to know. I asked, and I was really upset to hear she's had sex with 6 guys. The number makes me cringe. Had I known it was this high, I would have never dated her and moved on, but now here I am. She's given her life to God now, but I struggle with her past a lot and have ever since finding out. We've talked about her past, the first 2 guys were serious relationships starting in high school where it happened a lot, then when she gave her life to Christ, the 2nd guy broke up with her over not getting sex. She said she lost all confidence in herself because of this and had sex with 4 other guys because she was "lost" in that time and they gave her confidence, she said with the 4 other guys it happened twice each before she tried to repent again and failed.

I'm 24 years old now, and I'm still a virgin. She's been very faithful and does not want to have sex until marriage, but I'm just extremely torn. Her past eats at me. 3 years in and if it weren't for that, I'd have no question about marrying her. My number 1 thing is I just want a happy marriage and never have a divorce. Her past eats at me because, I've dated virgins, and their bond for me always felt stronger. I know that she loves me, but I don't always FEEL that way like I did with virgin girls. Is there anything I can do? Is there any way for her to develop the bond for me like a virgin would or any way to repair that? Should I marry this girl or am I doomed at having a happy marriage

Please help.