TLDR: Feminism is destroying the west. Women who buy into our culture are lost. The solution for men is not to figure out our rights but instead to become like Jesus and to seek beauty instead of hotness. Jesus din't come to be served, but to serve.

The Problem

Men today are facing a huge threat. It’s a threat to masculinity and to a thriving society. The threat is the quest for power.

I heard an excellent podcast by the Red Man Group (RMG) called “DDJ on the Feminist Lie”. This podcast outlined the history of feminism and all the problems with it. Another excellent podcast was Authority vs Responsibility, also by RMG. This one went into how some are advocating that there is a “crisis of masculinity” but the solution isn’t just for men to take more responsibility when they get no authority in our society.

Both of these podcasts got me to thinking, the issue is men and women are heading down a path of conflict rather than cooperation. This conflict is a quest for power.

Surely men can complain. The family courts are not in our favor, we have carried the burden of the hardest jobs throughout human history, we have built things, planes, trains automobiles, societies, government, fought wars – it’s hard to imagine a society without men. I don’t pretend to think women haven’t contributed, their complimentary nature was needed to do all these things – without women supporting their men, many of these things would have been impossible. Men and women haven’t worked together for centuries to improve the world. And while feminist want you to believe that it’s been us vs them, largely everyone has had difficult lives. It’s a struggle for survival that could only be overcome with cooperation.

But today things are different. Girl power is the mantra for the day. Women are always right. Happy wife = happy life. Women should never be told what to do. Strong independent woman! I’m not taking your last name if we get married – I have my own identity, I’m not your slave.

If your wife leaves you, you’re going to go through family court hell in a largely feminized system. Why? It’s good for business. The government is happy to siphon your resources off to the women – the women will spend it all and pump up the economy. Divorce is good business. The same for women having children out of wedlock (reaching a staggering 40% now, up from 15% decades ago. And for black females, it’s 70%). This is all to say feminism is starting to show it’s fruits. The nuclear family is being decimated. The surrounding largely family can’t exist because nuclear families are broken (how can you have aunts, uncles, grandparents when everyone is divorcing?).

None of this could be possible without a strong socialized government. In countries where these social programs or family court laws aren’t so feminized, women have no power. They have to get along with men because if not, they will starve. It’s expensive to raise kids and pay for yourself, healthcare, etc. But not if you can take half of your mans income. A physician in the CNN MGTOW piece cheated on his wife (I’m not excusing his actions here) – only to find himself lose his family, get depressed and attempt suicide – which lead him to lose his job and income. But the courts said he should pay $9,000 a month even if he had no income because he COULD earn that much and wasn’t trying hard enough. They put him in jail, still accruing the $9,000 a month – totaling now over $650,000 and he was unable to practice medicine and forced to take a lower earning job of $3,000 a month still with the $650,000 in owed child support. If you’re interested in this segment it’s below (it shows many of the problems with family courts)

CNN Segment Featuring MGTOWs: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ITN0ABmtck4

The government or your rich parents are now the provider. The government will somehow ensure that you get enough to pay for everything, you don’t need men (well, you need them to create resources and value, but you take that from taxes/court rulings and distribute it to women). We’ve literally come to a case where a woman can say, “we don’t need men”. Which in some ways she’s right – with everything men have created (with the help of women, yes) – this society is so rich and able to siphon off resources from men when women need it that women no longer need men. Men are now entertainment for many women. This is why dating has become a show to prove your worth. Artists like Ariana Grande’, who got into a twitter feud recently about using nudity and sexuality to sell record, stated that it’s a woman right and it’s dignified to do things like that. Her songs are titled, “thank you next”, hinting the disposable nature of men. She even says it to men to end an argument. Men are disposable utilities. It’s not just her saying it, it’s a theme in our culture.

And our country is getting fatter. 70% of people are now overweight with around 1/3rd being obese. Surely looks are not everything, but when only 1 of 3 women can even get their weight to normal… these women are hot commodities. Combine this with social media endlessly praising women to tell them how hot they are, while society tells women how great they are, and you have these feminist monsters who truly believe they are God’s gift to the world. Yet, these women are finding themselves single into their 30s and beyond? Why? Because many of the men praising them are just trying to have sex with them. They aren’t trying to build relationships. So these women find themselves having many sexual adventures with desirable men but with no families being built.

MGTOW men believe that women should lose their rights. That it is the right to vote that caused all these issues. What many people don’t know is that men didn’t have the right to vote much sooner than women did, maybe a decade in advance. It was the landowners who had the right to vote all along, not men. It’s this idea that responsibilities gave you the right to vote. Fighting in wars, owning land, etc. The right to vote was a privilege. This idea also piggybacks on the idea that we live in a patriarchy. What women don’t understand is that while a very small percentage of men have had power, the large majority of men have had it much rougher. One person said, the story of history had 2% of the population having it very good while the other 98% struggled and suffered. International men’s day had this quote: https://www.reddit.com/r/interestingasfuck/comments/7e0kkb/happy_international_mens_day/ 76% suicides, 85% homeless, 70% of homicide victims, 40% of domestic abuse victims, most victims of violent crimes, are all men. 64% of men will serve longer in prison than women, and they are 3.4x more like to be imprisoned than women for the same crime. So yes it’s difficult to be a man. Women will look at the 1-2% of men in high places and say that men have it good, but they are forgetting the 90% of men who are working extremely hard, being taxed extremely heavily, being destroyed by family courts, basically becoming what the MGTOWs call slaves on the plantation.

So what is the solution to this mess? I would say Jesus.

The Solution

I have a problem with the red pill, first off it’s hard to define – I try to say that it’s understand the truth about male/female relationships. However there is so much disagreement in the red pill community. Is making sex a god and trying to get a notch count of 100 red pill? Hundreds of thousands of men reading the red pill forum would probably agree. But Jesus wouldn’t. Jesus would say to have no other God before God. Should a man sacrifice for his wife? Many red pillers would say no, but Jesus certainly set a model for sacrificing himself and even Paul recommended, “Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself up for her;” In other words, the man should lead by being like Christ – a tall order for any human. Yet many red pillers only talk about how we should find a submissive wife or how women should submit. I don’t find this discussion worthy of Jesus, if we want to complain about our rights without mentioning our responsibilities then we play the same game the feminists do. So yes, Jesus is the solution.

For many men, Jesus is hostile to the red pill although he shouldn't be.

I don’t pretend to know how a man should go about finding a wife because I haven’t successfully done this. But if I could take a few recommendations from scripture, I would say this. Put your relationship on the altar and be willing to give it up. Jesus gave us the model with his words, "Father, if you are willing, take this cup from me; yet not my will, but yours be done." Abraham was willing to sacrifice that which was most important to him and God rewarded him. I think a man must let go of what he wants first to move in the right direction.

Next understand the difference between hotness and beauty. I saw this idea first discussed on a podcast: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PvQrFBOyDs0. Essentially as men we want to capitalize and have sex with hot women but the reality is that beautiful women are what we should desire. There is an idea of sexual market value and relationship market value, being that one is all about sex and another could be how valuable this woman would in a relationship. Things like having good values, being a good mother, being able to serve a man and submit, these are all extremely valuable. Every man who has married and divorced a hot woman would surely tell you what I’m saying is true. And unfortunately because of western women getting fatter and more feminized, this hot woman problem is being exacerbated by making their egos even larger than ever before.

So yes, Jesus is the answer. Become like him and find your purpose in him. Avoid hot women and find a beautiful women. Surely there are many practical steps a man should take but this post mainly outlines the problems of the west and the direction a man should go. The red pill is dangerous because it can teach a man to go his own way. To serve yourself, find a woman to please you, find a woman to submit to use, or just use women and throw them away. Improve yourself, you you you you. It’s all about you. I don’t see Jesus as a person who was constantly thinking about himself. I wrote this down reading the Bible the other day:

24Then Jesus said to his followers, “If any of you want to be my follower, you must stop thinking about yourself and what you want. You must be willing to carry the cross that is given to you for following me. 25Any of you who try to save the life you have will lose it. But you who give up your life for me will find true life.

So yes, Jesus is the answer.