Hi all,

Stats: 6' 200, Bench: 325, Deadlift: 545, OHP: 205, Squat: 335 (poverty squat, lol)

Long time subscriber on my main account and have chatted with a few of the mods via PMs. After reading u/deepstrength 's blog post earlier about obesity in America, I wanted to ask for advice on screening for a suitable mate. I live in a major metro, went to a good university, have a good job, and take care of my self.

I never had a problem pulling very attractive girls before I fully gave my life to Christ, and while I recognize that a wife is not the end-goal, I agree with OZ's sentiment that we should always be aware of and approaching prospects. (Paul was blessed with a gift, but it is better to marry than to burn AND not everyone has the gift Paul had -- the preacher I came up under went as far to say as he has never met someone with said gift)

I am engaged in the young adult ministry at my church (it's sorta mega -- looking for a new one, but it's a good pond!) and I have noticed the same trend in obesity and/or general unattractiveness among my female peers. That is to say in a city known for extremely attractive women, there are virtually no attractive women in my congregation. Anyone noticed something similar? It's mildly disheartening and I recognize that my past sin has created a comparison matrix in my head but how do you weigh "settling" vs. "longsuffering"?

I don't mean for this to come off as self-promoting; we are all on the self-improvement train for life but I want to know how to navigate "kinda having it together" and hear any feedback you guys are seeing in your churches/hometowns. I think the "world" is too easy for (most) hot girls to come to Christ if they were not raised in a Christian home.