Hi all,
Stats: 6' 200, Bench: 325, Deadlift: 545, OHP: 205, Squat: 335 (poverty squat, lol)
Long time subscriber on my main account and have chatted with a few of the mods via PMs. After reading u/deepstrength 's blog post earlier about obesity in America, I wanted to ask for advice on screening for a suitable mate. I live in a major metro, went to a good university, have a good job, and take care of my self.
I never had a problem pulling very attractive girls before I fully gave my life to Christ, and while I recognize that a wife is not the end-goal, I agree with OZ's sentiment that we should always be aware of and approaching prospects. (Paul was blessed with a gift, but it is better to marry than to burn AND not everyone has the gift Paul had -- the preacher I came up under went as far to say as he has never met someone with said gift)
I am engaged in the young adult ministry at my church (it's sorta mega -- looking for a new one, but it's a good pond!) and I have noticed the same trend in obesity and/or general unattractiveness among my female peers. That is to say in a city known for extremely attractive women, there are virtually no attractive women in my congregation. Anyone noticed something similar? It's mildly disheartening and I recognize that my past sin has created a comparison matrix in my head but how do you weigh "settling" vs. "longsuffering"?
I don't mean for this to come off as self-promoting; we are all on the self-improvement train for life but I want to know how to navigate "kinda having it together" and hear any feedback you guys are seeing in your churches/hometowns. I think the "world" is too easy for (most) hot girls to come to Christ if they were not raised in a Christian home.
[–]Red-CuriousMod | 34M | Married 11 yrs6 points7 points8 points (1 child) | Copy Link
[–]RPChristof[S] 1 point2 points3 points (0 children) | Copy Link
[–]Deep_StrengthMod | Married | deepstrength.wordpress.com3 points4 points5 points (6 children) | Copy Link
[–]RPChristof[S] 1 point2 points3 points (2 children) | Copy Link
[–]Deep_StrengthMod | Married | deepstrength.wordpress.com1 point2 points3 points (1 child) | Copy Link
[–]Stryker72000 points1 point2 points (0 children) | Copy Link
[–]ruizbujcEndorsed0 points1 point2 points (2 children) | Copy Link
[–]Deep_StrengthMod | Married | deepstrength.wordpress.com1 point2 points3 points (1 child) | Copy Link
[–]ruizbujcEndorsed0 points1 point2 points (0 children) | Copy Link
[–]JT-Anderson3 points4 points5 points (5 children) | Copy Link
[–]Stryker72001 point2 points3 points (1 child) | Copy Link
[–]JT-Anderson0 points1 point2 points (0 children) | Copy Link
[–]JT-Anderson0 points1 point2 points (2 children) | Copy Link
[–]OsmiumZuluMod | Tulip Peddler | Married 6y0 points1 point2 points (1 child) | Copy Link
[–]JT-Anderson2 points3 points4 points (0 children) | Copy Link
[–]wildnight982 points3 points4 points (2 children) | Copy Link
[–]rocknrollchuckMod | 50M | Married 11 yrs2 points3 points4 points (1 child) | Copy Link
[–]wildnight981 point2 points3 points (0 children) | Copy Link
[–] points points points | Copy Link
[–]wkndatbernardus1 point2 points3 points (19 children) | Copy Link
[–]Willow-girlParticipation Trophy Wife2 points3 points4 points (0 children) | Copy Link
[–]RPChristof[S] 1 point2 points3 points (16 children) | Copy Link
[–]wkndatbernardus1 point2 points3 points (15 children) | Copy Link
[–]RPChristof[S] 1 point2 points3 points (1 child) | Copy Link
[–]wkndatbernardus1 point2 points3 points (0 children) | Copy Link
[–]rocknrollchuckMod | 50M | Married 11 yrs1 point2 points3 points (9 children) | Copy Link
[–]wkndatbernardus1 point2 points3 points (8 children) | Copy Link
[–]rocknrollchuckMod | 50M | Married 11 yrs1 point2 points3 points (7 children) | Copy Link
[–]wkndatbernardus1 point2 points3 points (3 children) | Copy Link
[–]rocknrollchuckMod | 50M | Married 11 yrs1 point2 points3 points (2 children) | Copy Link
[–]wkndatbernardus1 point2 points3 points (1 child) | Copy Link
[–]Willow-girlParticipation Trophy Wife0 points1 point2 points (2 children) | Copy Link
[–]rocknrollchuckMod | 50M | Married 11 yrs0 points1 point2 points (1 child) | Copy Link
[–]Willow-girlParticipation Trophy Wife0 points1 point2 points (0 children) | Copy Link
[–]Willow-girlParticipation Trophy Wife0 points1 point2 points (2 children) | Copy Link
[–]wkndatbernardus1 point2 points3 points (1 child) | Copy Link
[–]rocknrollchuckMod | 50M | Married 11 yrs1 point2 points3 points (0 children) | Copy Link
[–]RPChristof[S] 1 point2 points3 points (0 children) | Copy Link
[–]OsmiumZuluMod | Tulip Peddler | Married 6y0 points1 point2 points (0 children) | Copy Link
[–]OsmiumZuluMod | Tulip Peddler | Married 6y1 point2 points3 points (0 children) | Copy Link
[–]the_cheesiest1 point2 points3 points (0 children) | Copy Link
[–]wildnight980 points1 point2 points (0 children) | Copy Link
[–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points (1 child) | Copy Link
[–]rocknrollchuckMod | 50M | Married 11 yrs0 points1 point2 points (0 children) | Copy Link
[–]etaomega0 points1 point2 points (0 children) | Copy Link