This is kind of a rant and has probably been asked/adressed several times before but this has been on my chest since I swallowed the pill 2 years ago and I have yet to find a suitable answer from the main redpill subreddit.
I'm 20 years old in college. Never had a girlfriend. Still a virgin. Finally after 2 years of improving myself I have the power to start dating if I choose to. The problem is I don't see how its possible for me start dating without having sex or if I should have sex. I know how important it is to not have sex before your married but I dont see the point.
Every single girl who is even remotely attractive has had sex possible multiple times, christian or not. We all know this. So, should I give up looking for a girl who is still a virgin? Should I widen my search to girls who are christian with sexual experience? This seems to be the only option in our society.
And this leads me to thinking, how can I compete sexually with women who have had multiple partners when I have had zero? In a situation where I'm dating a girl with a n-count of 5 or more, which seems unavoidable, and I have had zero, I'm at a huge disadvantage in terms of experience and frame. It doesn't seem fair. We know women like men with high n-counts and virgin men as weak and beta.
Whats the point of trying to stay celibate when women have given themselves up so easily and I'm sitting there like a chump clingling to my chastity belt even though I could lose my virginity whenever I want? How am I supposed to start a relationship with a christian women with multiple partners and I have had zero. How is that right? How is our relationship supposed to be strong and good by God's standards. Even if I forgive for having multiple partners theres no way to know if she's even sorry, which we know already she's probably not.
Should I just say screw it and up my own n-count to compete? I really don't want to do that but I could very easily. I won't lie, it would be very enjoyable, but it would not be as fullfilling as finding a girl who has made the same commitment as me. And I guess I should admit, I'm not exactly sexually pure since I was addicted to porn until I was about 19. (been porn free for over a year).
And is it selfish to want that? I've seen pua guys and redpill guys say 'who do you think you are expecting a girl not to sleep with anyone until shes married?' 'You think you deserve a virgin?'
And they might be right. So whats the point of staying celibate myself and trying to find someone willing to wait?
Sorry for the long rant. Thanks in advance for reading.
[–]rocknrollchuckMod | 50M | Married 11 yrs13 points14 points15 points (3 children) | Copy Link
[–]MeglovRT4 points5 points6 points (0 children) | Copy Link
[–]SubhumanOxford1 point2 points3 points (1 child) | Copy Link
[–]rocknrollchuckMod | 50M | Married 11 yrs0 points1 point2 points (0 children) | Copy Link
[–]ThoughtCaptive4 points5 points6 points (0 children) | Copy Link
[–]Zeldafan10235 points6 points7 points (1 child) | Copy Link
[–]iLoveBrianWilson27 points28 points29 points (40 children) | Copy Link
[–]rocknrollchuckMod | 50M | Married 11 yrs18 points19 points20 points (12 children) | Copy Link
[–]iLoveBrianWilson29 points30 points31 points (9 children) | Copy Link
[–]rocknrollchuckMod | 50M | Married 11 yrs5 points6 points7 points (8 children) | Copy Link
[–]iLoveBrianWilson16 points17 points18 points (7 children) | Copy Link
[–]rocknrollchuckMod | 50M | Married 11 yrs1 point2 points3 points (6 children) | Copy Link
[–]iLoveBrianWilson11 points12 points13 points (5 children) | Copy Link
[–]rocknrollchuckMod | 50M | Married 11 yrs1 point2 points3 points (4 children) | Copy Link
[–]iLoveBrianWilson8 points9 points10 points (3 children) | Copy Link
[–]rocknrollchuckMod | 50M | Married 11 yrs1 point2 points3 points (2 children) | Copy Link
[–]WhitifiedBlue Target BAZOOKA2 points3 points4 points (1 child) | Copy Link
[–]rocknrollchuckMod | 50M | Married 11 yrs4 points5 points6 points (0 children) | Copy Link
[–]RedPillWonderMod | American man6 points7 points8 points (18 children) | Copy Link
[–]iLoveBrianWilson4 points5 points6 points (5 children) | Copy Link
[–] points points points | Copy Link
[–]rocknrollchuckMod | 50M | Married 11 yrs0 points1 point2 points (0 children) | Copy Link
[–]rocknrollchuckMod | 50M | Married 11 yrs2 points3 points4 points (2 children) | Copy Link
[–]iLoveBrianWilson2 points3 points4 points (1 child) | Copy Link
[–]rocknrollchuckMod | 50M | Married 11 yrs1 point2 points3 points (0 children) | Copy Link
[–] points points points | Copy Link
[–]RedPillWonderMod | American man0 points1 point2 points (0 children) | Copy Link
[–]WhitifiedBlue Target BAZOOKA0 points1 point2 points (8 children) | Copy Link
[–] points points points | Copy Link
[–]WhitifiedBlue Target BAZOOKA0 points1 point2 points (3 children) | Copy Link
[–] points points points | Copy Link
[–]WhitifiedBlue Target BAZOOKA0 points1 point2 points (1 child) | Copy Link
[–]RedPillWonderMod | American man0 points1 point2 points (2 children) | Copy Link
[–]WhitifiedBlue Target BAZOOKA0 points1 point2 points (0 children) | Copy Link
[–]Red-CuriousMod | 34M | Married 11 yrs0 points1 point2 points (0 children) | Copy Link
[–]rocknrollchuckMod | 50M | Married 11 yrs0 points1 point2 points (0 children) | Copy Link
[–][deleted] 1 points1 points1 points | Copy Link
[–][deleted] -4 points-3 points-2 points (3 children) | Copy Link
[–]iLoveBrianWilson1 point2 points3 points (2 children) | Copy Link
[–][deleted] 1 point2 points3 points (1 child) | Copy Link
[–]iLoveBrianWilson0 points1 point2 points (0 children) | Copy Link
[–]cornthians123453 points4 points5 points (0 children) | Copy Link
[–][deleted] 2 points3 points4 points (1 child) | Copy Link
[–]OsmiumZuluMod | Tulip Peddler | Married 6y0 points1 point2 points (0 children) | Copy Link
[–]g_e_m_anscombeCatholic | 28F Married 3y2 points3 points4 points (27 children) | Copy Link
[–]rocknrollchuckMod | 50M | Married 11 yrs4 points5 points6 points (24 children) | Copy Link
[–]g_e_m_anscombeCatholic | 28F Married 3y8 points9 points10 points (22 children) | Copy Link
[–] points points points | Copy Link
[–]WhitifiedBlue Target BAZOOKA6 points7 points8 points (5 children) | Copy Link
[–]Red-CuriousMod | 34M | Married 11 yrs2 points3 points4 points (0 children) | Copy Link
[–] points points points | Copy Link
[–]WhitifiedBlue Target BAZOOKA7 points8 points9 points (1 child) | Copy Link
[–]g_e_m_anscombeCatholic | 28F Married 3y5 points6 points7 points (4 children) | Copy Link
[–]Red-CuriousMod | 34M | Married 11 yrs5 points6 points7 points (1 child) | Copy Link
[–]RedPillWonderMod | American man2 points3 points4 points (0 children) | Copy Link
[–]RedPillWonderMod | American man2 points3 points4 points (0 children) | Copy Link
[–]WhitifiedBlue Target BAZOOKA0 points1 point2 points (0 children) | Copy Link
[–]rocknrollchuckMod | 50M | Married 11 yrs0 points1 point2 points (0 children) | Copy Link
[–]WhitifiedBlue Target BAZOOKA1 point2 points3 points (7 children) | Copy Link
[–]g_e_m_anscombeCatholic | 28F Married 3y3 points4 points5 points (5 children) | Copy Link
[–]WhitifiedBlue Target BAZOOKA0 points1 point2 points (1 child) | Copy Link
[–]rocknrollchuckMod | 50M | Married 11 yrs1 point2 points3 points (0 children) | Copy Link
[–]rocknrollchuckMod | 50M | Married 11 yrs0 points1 point2 points (2 children) | Copy Link
[–]g_e_m_anscombeCatholic | 28F Married 3y0 points1 point2 points (1 child) | Copy Link
[–]rocknrollchuckMod | 50M | Married 11 yrs0 points1 point2 points (0 children) | Copy Link
[–]rocknrollchuckMod | 50M | Married 11 yrs0 points1 point2 points (0 children) | Copy Link
[–]rocknrollchuckMod | 50M | Married 11 yrs0 points1 point2 points (0 children) | Copy Link
[–]Denny_Craine0 points1 point2 points (1 child) | Copy Link
[–]g_e_m_anscombeCatholic | 28F Married 3y0 points1 point2 points (0 children) | Copy Link
[–]g_e_m_anscombeCatholic | 28F Married 3y0 points1 point2 points (0 children) | Copy Link
[–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points (0 children) | Copy Link
[–]tranadex0 points1 point2 points (0 children) | Copy Link
[–]seiyonoryuu0 points1 point2 points (0 children) | Copy Link