[Q4M] Think of the least conventionally attractive girl that youve dated and were serious with, describe her, and what qualities did she have that made up for her looks that made you want to date?

qantuum · 2019-12-24T11:12:33+00:00

Once I matched a girl on Tinder. It was my first successful match in 3 years of game, although I am 1.90m tall and 90kg bold. Well I ain't muscular and don't like to sell myself too much.

So this girl was more overweight than I am, I won't go into details. What I liked on her Tinder profile is she was 420-friendly, so I invited her over for a small smoking session. Shortly after there was some chemistry so it turns into a kissing session. I escalated the situation quickly enough to make it physical, and made her doubts vanish. On the sex side it really was good and nice. I don't think the objective beauty of a girl has to be linked to her sex drive, because even if the body is not visually attractive, well it works just fine.

The relationship lasted for a while, we were having good time, hanging out, going for restaurant or hookah, she shared with me some of her fav series, etc.

I was ok for going next-level, as in dating long-term, because she was nice, but I was living abroad on a short-time contract and she was a resident, so I made clear from the beginning I would have to leave the country, then I did. I think the relationship lasted 4 monthes, maximum.

Now we are still giving "likes" on Facebook and Instagram from times to times, I learned she's got engaged and pregnant as of recently, so life has it rolling for her, I'm happy for her.

If by next level you mean : involving the partner in my social life and basically showing the beauty I have at my arm, I don't do it either for my more attractive partners, because it's not my style. And wedding + having kids is not in my plans.

jonascf · 2019-12-24T12:37:28+00:00

What made her the least conventionally attractive; Kind of a coarse, androgynous face. Also the resting bitch face thing.

The qualities she had that made her interesting; She was smart and liked to use her intelligence which made it easy to connect with her. She would listen to things I said, ask good questions or point out flaws in my reasoning. She also enjoyed having a conversation about things she liked and to explain areas that she was knowledgeable in (mainly mathematics). She also shared my enjoyment and fascination with the natural World in a way that I still find rare.

Also important; she was stable and low maintenance and she won me over by making it very, very clear that she wanted me (I was hilariously bad at seeing signals back then, and all my previous gf's had also more or less thrown themselves at me).

Our relationship lasted for 9 years.

wtknight · 2019-12-24T09:10:45+00:00

She was attracted to me. Most average to below average looking guys can’t really choose. We just talk to not so great looking women until one of them is actually attracted to us.

Tyler_Gatsby · 2019-12-24T16:32:24+00:00

The least conventionally attractive woman I've ever loved admittedly had boobs, and a butt combo. Go ahead and get that out of the way. She had healthy hair, and I thought she was pretty, hot actually, in an over all way.

My best friend didn't see it, even my own mama was like, "what do you see in her?!" But when she kind of captivated me on multiple levels. She tended to dress down, and try and cover and hide her assets, so they couldn't really see her figure either. She'd wear Tshirts, but women's clothing in general tends to be revealing, so she had attractive clothes she'd break out occasionally. I like the comfy girl look though.

After physical assets, her smell was intoxicating to me. Some women just have that right pheromone mix for you that's like male catnip. You just wanna roll in them, and not get up. There's at least one woman here who could give the female account/perspective on that, but I don't really like calling people out cough cough Smurf but that's not something women can really learn to do, I don't think?

She had me mentally with her weird knowledge of things, and interesting/intriguing quirks. She was basically an encyclopedia of random facts, pop culture, and very knowledgeable on other cultures, cuisine, and such. I felt like you could drop us off anywhere in the world, and she'd be like, "Ok, this is what we need to go see, this is what we're eating/trying, this is how you ask for it/take it and eat it."

TL;DR: Pulled me in with boobs and butt, smelled too good to wanna walk away from, and kept me entertained trying to figure out just what all she knows. Also having weird or unusual interest can give a guy something personal to bond with. Like having an inside joke together, kind of thing. Have something that he can know, or learn from/about, that most other guys and people in general not know.

MikepGrey · 2019-12-24T09:05:49+00:00

Chelsy was 5 foot nothing, black, great curvy body and loves to compete with me physically, great in bed, big personalities... but alas she went into college instead of coming with me and well =.= that as they say was that.

GYN-k4H-Q3z-75B · 2019-12-24T11:02:41+00:00

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Kitty015 · 2019-12-24T11:46:52+00:00

She was medium fat (not obese) and had a bitchy personality.

But she had nice titties and loved anal. She would beg for anal. And her ass was so clean I never got poop dick.

anonymous9616 · 2019-12-24T13:43:13+00:00

Is there a post like this for women? Would like to see what women have experienced

BluesyWeasel · 2019-12-24T11:32:58+00:00

She was my first GF, at that age I wasn't that attractive yet either but that aside; she was very much into philosophy like me and was fascinated by everything I said. I am an introvert and not really a talker but with her I could talk for hours and she remembered every word I said.

Never found a girl like that again, my last ex was the opposite and could not stop interrupting me.

diladusta · 2019-12-24T12:39:26+00:00

She was funny and we clicked. A nice girl and i was a bit desperate. It lasted a couple months.

2019-12-24T16:12:08+00:00

The fact that she existed was a big plus. She was also one of my best friends of 9 years at that point.

9 months

Yes, I was. What stopped me was the reality that we wanted different things, in different places.

We got physical immediately once we started dating. It was a significant part of our relationship, we were both very horny for each other, a lot

darudeboysandstorm · 2019-12-24T16:48:31+00:00

I was FWB with this gal for a long time, she was pretty goth, short, had weird ass hair and a pretty big beak. Not exactly my exact type but she fuck like a good one so it lasted a long ass time.

Maybe thought about pushing it to the next level, never did.

EspyPsyche · 2019-12-24T19:26:22+00:00

She was 5'10" and upwards of 350 lbs, and she had her hair cut really short. She didn't have the "plus size model" shape either, she was kinda blob shaped and her belly was a lot bigger than her boobs or her ass.

We had sex on our second date. I never had a problem with her body. Quite the opposite, in fact, I loved how she would jiggle during sex and squish when I touched her.

We were together close to two years. She liked having sex and was actually attracted to me. She was really soft and warm and it felt really good to cuddle her. She was a gamer and played D&D and shared a bunch of hobbies with me. She had an appreciation for good food and drink, and she enjoyed the theatre. We could go and do pretty much anything as long as it wasn't a physical exercise activity (which I'm not super into either).

It was the best relationship I've ever had and I'd take her back instantly if she wanted me back.

CallMeHaseo · 2019-12-25T03:29:28+00:00

Her face was uglier than mine. But she treated me well. When i didn’t have a car she would pick me up for dates and when we went to the movies SHE would pay for BOTH of us. Plus she knew how to use her tongue 🤤.

WIA20XX · 2019-12-24T10:03:23+00:00

Looks - Short but not in a cute way, chunky, always wearing low cut tops (but I'd find out that there was a push up bra involved). Always "helping" by doing things that I didn't want or need.

Her skills - Proximity, persistence, and jumping on me when I was vulnerable.

Damn you Christina. I thought we were friends, but you schemed your way into my life.

I now have trust issues with women that want to be "my friend" that I haven't already slept with.

Guyz be careful of any guy that says she wants to be friends first. She's probably plotting something against you.

maruthescruffydog · 2019-12-24T09:06:23+00:00

Blow jobs!

LosVangelis · 2019-12-24T12:50:37+00:00

I hated her. We hated each other. Best sex I've ever had in a relationship too. That's when I realized I'm doomed to be single.

M4sterDis4ster · 2019-12-24T11:57:19+00:00

She was 5ft 7", skinny, pierced nose and lips, bleached blonde hair. Sex positive with divorced parents.

She was my first girlfriend when I was 20 years old. We got sexual between 1st and 2nd date. We lasted for about 3 months, before I went home for Summer. She found someone else.

I wanted to date her, because I was shy and scared boy at that time and never recognized my true potential. I was sensing that she was "wild", but I just didnt want to believe to my instincts. I was rerouting everything about my feelings to make perfect picture of her in my head.

I am grateful for her lesson, it made me work on myself, attract better girls, demand respect, never lower standards anymore and avoid women like her.

Ubermensch-1 · 2019-12-24T15:06:49+00:00

She played for the university women's basketball team, not attractive but was big and strong. Had never had any serious relationship before me (EDIT: was a virgin too, probably important). There was some death by snu-snu shit, it was pretty hot. I'm tall and tend to attract strange 4'10" types, so it was a nice change of pace.

It only lasted six months, but she also thought I was great and went to the world's end for me. I left because I thought I could do better lol, one of the more regrettable choices I've made but you live and learn.

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Workaholiconew · 2019-12-24T14:13:03+00:00

what qualities did she have that made up for her looks that made you want to date?

Empathy and reasonability.

How long did your relationship last?

5 years.

Were you thinking of pushing it to the next level? What stopped you if you did?

Yes. Resources.

Did you get physical soon or did you wait?

Soon, very soon, we were FwB before we became lovers.

Paranoidexboyfriend · 2019-12-24T14:37:28+00:00

Probably highschool. Relationship lasted about a year. She was my first girlfriend really, I was a late bloomer. She was funny and very talented musically. She was fun to hang out with, good sense of humor. She actually pushed for sex first about 6 months in, I hadn't had sex before but she had with one person.

but I really didn't know my value quite yet or how hot of a girl I could actually get. I didn't figure that out until freshman year of college. Once I dated my first actually hot girlfriend, there was no going back.

Pastelitomaracucho · 2019-12-24T14:48:33+00:00

I mean, chubbychasers exist for a reason

HectoSexual · 2019-12-24T14:50:12+00:00

Short, chubby in the wrong places, short hair, pimples, not great hygiene.

Her moans stirred something deep inside my soul.

psychicpsyclone · 2019-12-24T15:44:13+00:00

She used to make me laugh in class all the time. Once dating, she would take me to work when I didn't have a car, sex often and whenever/wherever, nice body.

bonusfruit · 2019-12-24T16:45:05+00:00

Cuteish, kinda pudgy girl I put very little effort into pulling, which probably drew her to me. I was at a low point. I think my only requirement has ever been a nice face. It can make up for weight to a certain extent.

Godot96 · 2019-12-24T17:39:32+00:00

Last time I dated was beause I wasn't sure how to dish out a rejection

How long did your relationship last?

One to two months iirc

Were you thinking of pushing it to the next level? What stopped you if you did?

Yeah, I was trying but since I didn't know what I was supposed to get out of it - other than sex which I wasn't getting - I ended up breaking off

Did you get physical soon or did you wait?

She asked to wait, but after some point I would just break up and go back to my old days

Yuo_cna_Raed_Tihs · 2019-12-24T17:55:40+00:00

The fact that she wanted to date me was enough.

Then I realised I'd rather be alone than be with someone as controlling as her, so I eventually noped out

762Rifleman · 2019-12-24T18:07:45+00:00

A combination of me being stupid and clingy, her having a wet pussy, and her threatening to charge me with rape if I ever left. 3 years.

DocNMarty · 2019-12-24T19:15:37+00:00

I once had a thing with a girl who had at least 100 pounds on me.

She had a pretty face, was very sweet and caring of people when in a good mood, and when she was into sex, she was really into it.

It lasted less than 6 months. Never thought of taking it further than FWB, but we ended it because the FWB arrangement started to be more difficult as our lives changed and differences emerged. We got physical from Day 1. She initiated.

Haste- · 2019-12-24T19:32:40+00:00

We lasted 7 months, i never thought about going to the next level, and we were fucking within the first week of the relationship.

Overall she is overweight (not obese), other cons included face piercings, small wasteful tattoos, and dyed her hair. Other than that she was liberal in some areas that i didn’t agree on and was more of a sad person overall.

What kept me with her? She has a cute face, nice ass, was available to me 4-5 days out of the week(each time we hung out we fucked), low cost $ wise, gave me the biggest ego boost when fucking, and i could go raw.

After she ended things with me we became FWBs about a month later. We both had a 2 mo relationship that put that on hold for about 3 months but got back to it. Though idk what happened about 3 weeks ago because she ghosted me. Oh well

El_Guapo2020 · 2019-12-24T22:47:22+00:00

She liked me back

MOSFETBJT · 2019-12-24T22:53:03+00:00

Kindness

TheseAcadia · 2019-12-25T00:47:55+00:00

4'11, round nose, no ass or tits. Didn't have sex, lasted 2 years.

xoxuv · 2019-12-25T01:47:23+00:00

She wasn't pretty. HB5. But she was 18, small, and looked and acted as a minor, which is feminine and attractive.

I was only walking casually with her. We were going to our houses, which were close, so it was natural to walk together.

When we were parting, she hanged from my neck, to kiss me. (A salute kiss, but with full body contact), so I knew she wanted more. I took her to my home, and had sex.

We lasted some months. But she couldn't stand me dating other girls.

If polygamy were legal, I would have a place for her, because she was very pleasant, and I liked her personality.

But if I have to renounce to prettier girls for her, that's a non starter. Non negotiable.

Even if she were a 10, all the other girls in the planet do weight more. And 10's are only 10 when young. So women pretending exclusivity are never worth it. Beauty is temporary. There is always a new batch of 18 girls.

noNooodleArms · 2019-12-24T14:31:19+00:00

Quite a few years. Went to a much higher level than it ever should have. Still casually tap her on the regular. Short, bright brown eyes, nervous about everything. Struggles with weight and is in a full on existential crises. It's adorable.

Does she want more? Yes, and no, all at once. She'll find some to pair bond with eventually.

What made up for everything? Her absolute veneration of me, and that wasn't exactly healthy, unless I wanted kids, which was off the table. The spell is broken, though, so an honest friends with benefits relationship is way healthier than what we had before.

By the way, my very next girl was the most conventionally attractive woman I ever dated, and reconciling the two led me into online explorations.

2019-12-24T17:39:04+00:00

She had a boyfriend and I wanted to see if I could get her to cheat, she did. Then I ghosted.

geyejoe7 · 2019-12-24T17:53:16+00:00

I didn't go into a relationship with her, but she was definitely less conventionally attractive.

(Reason for not doing so, is because I take relationships almost as serious of a commitment as marriage. So I'd go out with someone, but not start a relationship if not really sure I wanted/potentially could spend my life with that person)

Anyway, her looks and some personality traits are the reason.

Just a couple of kisses. Didn't want to lead her on

2019-12-24T14:04:24+00:00

She was fat, I was desperate. I didn't pay attention to any qualities, I was too grossed out. I left her as soon as I possibly could.