"there's a bluebird in my heart that wants to get out but I'm too tough for him I say, stay in there I'm not going to let anybody see you" - Charles Bukowski
Inaction is the root of anxiety. It is one of the largest problems facing men today. Social anxiety has never been more prevalent, as the smartphone generation struggles with it's inability to make things as simple as a screen. But in reality, their problems are easily solved, easily defeated.
Inaction, is when you have the ability to do something, and instead you wait. Most of us pretend that we are waiting for a better offer, or a better time, but we aren't. We are making excuses. Action, is a trait of the elite. It is what makes money, what gets deals done, what seduces women, and what conquers empires. Deliberation is fine, but action is the final piece and if you wait to long, you can watch it all crumble to the ground.
How does this help is with women? Most men when talking to the fairer sex often get uncomfortable, sweaty, and overall just faggier because they are agonizing over the interaction. "Oh God, what if I say the wrong thing and she doesn't like me? What if I fuck up and don't get laid?"
It's nerve-wracking to talk to someone you want to sleep with because you think they are evaluating you. Well, they are. And that's why the anxiety comes in. Because of every single word you say is a matter of innermost soul-searching and deliberation, how the hell do you know if you picked the right one?
Here's the kicker. You can't know. Me, and every other user on this forum can relive your convos and somehow make you more alpha. For one thing, reliving convos needs to stop. Don't live in the past, look towards each interaction, rather than thinking about something you can't change.
Here's some good news. It doesn't matter if you get it right. There's a trillion stars, God knows how man planets, and enough organisms that fill up the universe that if we knew our puny heads would explode. With that in mind, does how Conversation #5 went matter at all? Or is it just another way you keep yourself in a box instead of letting yourself be free?
Anxiety is destroyed by letting go of thought. The Thinker can ponder a great many things. But he isn't going to accomplish much. Next time you are in conversation, here is the only thing you should do.
"Just do it"
Now I'm no Shia Lebouf fan, but honestly just saying what you want, doing what you want, acting how you want will make you feel as weightless as a cloud. You aren't ties down to our struggles anymore, you float above them. This helped my career, because people want a leader who is certain of what he want and what he is doing, this helped with women, because women want anything that has a sense of belonging, and this helped me, because no longer does anxiety trouble me. This, is what every man needs.
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