Two questions here, packed into one post:

Date Nights

As part of my "I'm gonna fix my marriage come hell or high water" campaign, one coach we worked with earlier this year recommended a weekly date night. I plan the date, and she goes along for the ride.

It seems to give her a lot of good feels when I do it right, but sexually it never seemed to move the dial.

What feedback do you guys have on date nights? How frequent? What's the motivation? As you can imagine, in the past there have been a lot of covert contracts packed into them that I might still be trying to disentangle.

Bedtime

My wife is a night owl. She always has been. I'm a morning person.

Lately, I've been accommodating her bedtime preferences in order to ensure we have adequate time for devotions and prayer before bed. However, either because of work, gym, or the kids, I'm always up by 6a every day.

I definitely need to go to bed earlier, but I'm wondering if I should get my wife to go to bed earlier. How do you navigate that? My first inclination is to simply do devotions and I personally go to sleep when I want to. I wanted feedback from ya'll if you've learned any lessons that I might be about to stumble into.