They've always rubbed me the wrong way, and I don't know why.
Guys that talk like this:
"It was love at first sight"
or "the second I saw her my heart ___"
or "You're the most _____ girl I've ever met" even though they barely know her, and they seem to say the same thing about many girls.
Cause it's a lie, right? They don't know me. I can't stand seeing things like this on TV.
I really don't know how to explain this. I feel like many of these so-called good guys use their "love" for love as an excuse to hurt people. They think their "romantic-ness" makes them right or good somehow. I've seen guys like this post on r/relationship_advice. They cheated or are about to cheat and they say things like "this other girl is the most ___ girl I've ever met" and "I've never felt like this before" even though they have, probably about many girls before. They MUST act on their feelings cause its "true love" and who is their current partner to deprive them of this?
I think this type of thing is glamorized in movies. The guy cheating or being just terrible to the partner they are with at the beginning cause the main female lead is their "true love". I used to love movies like these but then I realized how terrible it must be for the girl who got cheated on or left. The guy seems like this great person because of how romantic he is to the female lead or the girl he leaves his gf for, but he's not so great to who he was with at the beginning.
That's why I'm wary of "romantic" guys. Or at least guys who are overly talkative about their "love". I prefer action rather than words that probably don't mean anything if that makes sense. These "sweet talkers" seem like great guys but they really rub me the wrong way. Literally always saying the same thing.
"You're the most beautiful girl I've ever met". It means nothing to me. Don't get me wrong. I like sweet and sensitive guys, but not one's that can't control themselves and idealize the "perfect woman", who seems to be anyone but their current partner.
It would mean a lot to me to build a relationship with someone who I am compatible with and who loves me for who I am as a person, and appreciates what we built together with time and effort, rather than just be told lies from someone who barely knows me. And I am terrified of being left for someone who is "perfect", and their "true love" apparently. When really they are probably just super attractive.
Know what I'm saying?
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