I see a lot of posts from men talking about the 20/80 rule, and that "most" men don't have nearly enough 'sexual access' (for the lack of a better term) because all the women want a certain kind of "top tier" guy, and all other men get the "scraps leftover."

But more often than not the suggestions is always that women need to change to meet them. The 5/10 women should only date 5/10 men, regardless if they have interest from a 7/10 guy (I don't like the rating system, but I'm using it here for example). I read "teach women not to want tall men!" "Hypergamy bad!" "Woman need to not be so shallow as to want a "chad" if it means the other guys will miss out." etc etc....

When the topic of betterment comes up, becoming a more attractive person to attract the partner you want, it seems to often be dismissed as either "I've already done the work on myself, women are still superficial and it doesn't matter because I'm not 6'" or "There is no point even trying to better myself in todays dating climate." Like, the fault is always on the women.

So what are some genuine, actionable things men can do to raise their game (if that's what they want) that doesn't involve women changing their behaviour?

EDIT: Thank you!