Never, ever, EVER dedicate any drop of your time with men who objectify a very specific type of women. More often than not, the woman looks like nothing like you and you will ALWAYS obsess over it and feel like shit about it. And even if you do fit that, it is still unsettling to be in a relationship with someone who objectifies women that way.

Storytime: on my LDR (more like virtual relationship since we never met up), the dude was obsessed with redheaded women. And when I mean obsessed, I mean he spent his entire adolescence liking Twitter pictures of redheads; followed accounts dedicated to redheads; created an Instagram purely to follow redheads; had over 100 tweets about it; if he saw a redhead on the street he'd post about it like a maniac, etc. This dude didn't have a cold chance in hell of hooking up with them, and had never hooked up with anyone anyway, but he'd still judge women on their looks and if they didn't fit his standards. He had the audacity to save a girl's number as "0/10".

Right after we started texting he started telling me the chatacteristics he likes in women: red hair, light eyes, wears glasses, has bangs. And then he said "every girl I dated before you had one or more of those things. And if you have any of it thanks for fitting my standard. If not idc and still love you" HE HAD NEVER DATED ANYONE BEFORE ME. He texted one girl at best who eventually dyed her hair. Then he would obsess over his redhead crushes and tell me whenever he saw a girl with red hair and make me feel like shit. I started hurting myself because I couldn't stand the emotional turmoil of feeling like I'd never be good enough, and I would torture myself picturing how he would feel whenever he saw a girl with red hair. He spent months convincing me he was over it, he realized it was ridiculous to be obsessed with a hair color, that he no longer found it "the most beautiful" etc. And I mean MONTHS.

We broke up and the dude went back to follow redheads LOL

The great thing is, my perception was so skewed when I was dating but now that I don't give a shit I realized how much I prefer blonde and brown hair over red hair and how most men like blondes anyway. Back then I thought I'd never be as beautiful as a redhead???

Anyway, obviously more red flags than a chines parade, but if a guy does any of this, even in small doses, DROP HIM. You will be miserable until you do. You are amazing and deserve someone who reminds you of that.