Some context: I got pretty bad oneitis with a girl who liked me for over a year.
She now currently has a boyfriend and the only reason I found out was that I basically had to ask her if she liked this dude rather than her straight up telling me (who would've known right)
Anyway, I have told her that I understand it is what it is and that I'm cool with just being her friend. She also agreed to this (probably because it's easier than simply losing someone) and we speak maybe once or twice a day and hang out once every two weeks I'd say.
I sense no real effort from her end on continuing this friendship and I feel like this ship has already set sail.
Part of me will always be sexually interested, just not romantically. I've realized that she's probably one of the last people I'd ever date as she's riddled with red flags I ignored while being stuck in oneitis. I'd fuck a lot of girls I'm friends with, that doesn't mean I can't platonically just be their friend.
I'm not one to cut ties with someone negatively if there's always a chance that something could happen in the future. If I react salty and like I'm a needy bitch, there's obviously no chance we'd either be friends or something more. I'm not particularly fussed if something ever ends up actually happening, but I'm more-so wondering how to handle this situation.
I am not interested in being an orbiter and would simply be her platonic friend (which is absolutely possible from me) but I really sense this is kinda dead and I'm wondering whether:
- It's best to simply delete her and move on and forget about even being friends
- Have a civilized conversation saying that it's probably best to go no contact for a while and see if our friendship survives
At the end of the day, I've accepted that this friendship is probably going to end and while I made some mistakes, I was mature enough to just be happy for her and accept it for what it is.
We got along super well as friends, I just have no idea whether to have a mature conversation about it with her or hit that delete button and move on.
Thanks.
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