Are Christian women any different than worldly women?

2020-10-13T23:05:43+00:00

they still fall short

Everyone falls short. That's part of the point.

pt5 · 2020-10-13T22:21:38+00:00

Just like there are "good people" that aren't Christians, there are "Christians" that aren't good people.

If you're looking in a small, conservative (ideally Southern Baptist) church for women that're uncorrupted, they won't be hard to find.

TL;DR: Where are you looking... and what (be honest with yourself) are you looking for?

Fantasiadreamcicle · 2020-10-13T22:37:41+00:00

Christian women living by their flesh are all the same, but hopefully you can find a wife who strives to live by The Spirit.

johngalt1234 · 2020-10-14T03:26:12+00:00

There are many women who seem Christian. But they drop the mask and wring the man through family courts and take his kids.

You cannot know until actions prove it.

DarkBlade360 · 2020-10-14T00:48:38+00:00

Christian women are definitely different than worldly women. When Christ is the foundation of your relationship, how strong is that relationship! Of course everyone falls short but it is better to encourage each other in the faith and build eachother up.

I used to always have relationships with worldly women and it never worked out for different reasons. It always seemed superficial. God knows us better than we know ourselves so I continuously prayed that God would send the right person for me according to Him and when she came into my life I knew God sent her. It’s my first relationship with a Christian woman and the strongest relationship I ever had. Praying together, reading God’s Word together, talking about life and what God puts in our hearts,... nothing beats this.

You’re no simp if you do things with the right intentions. Be kind and charismatic like Jesus and ask Him to guide you. You’ll know when He is showing you things in your heart according to His Word.

reenbeanie · 2020-10-14T14:21:26+00:00

As a woman who followed the ways of the world for so long and then surrendered my life to Jesus, I can say that I am different now. I have different desires. I dress modestly, and wear less makeup. I don’t crave attention and I definitely have a meek and quiet spirit to me now. I don’t feel the need to be like every other girl, or feel like I need to compete with other girls.

RunawayGrain · 2020-10-14T12:28:31+00:00

AWALT, but the theory is that Christian women are supposed to curtail those tendencies. The church is so watered down and many of the behaviors and beliefs proffered by worldly society are so ingrained that most don't. A few I've met that are very sheltered can maintain it as long as they are under the families thumb. They usually go hog wild when they are introduced to worldly influences, though. Some of the older gals that have been run through the ringer genuinely have a handle on it, but they usually have a lot of baggage associated with the journey that a guy might not want to buy into.

I often feel like Gomer because i'm often enticed by women and i'm not as faithful to God as I would wish.

Yeah, I've been there. I got burned bad, too. Realize that some of it is not just her putting up a facade, but also you wrapping your idealizations around her mortal coil. So you have to strive hard to discern whether she's faking it, you're ignoring something major because you don't want to see it, or it's genuine.

It's rough.

theoconomist · 2020-10-14T12:53:01+00:00

Christian women are different, if you go by the biblical definition of Christianity:

People who received the correct Gospel, repented, were baptized correctly, received the Holy Spirit and persevere for the rest of their lives in learning the teaching of Jesus by His apostles and keeping His commandments.

(Those people are the Church, or the disciples, whom the world called "Christians" just as we call Marxists, the guys who adhere to Marx's ways. And the vast majority of professed Christians, even in decent churches, still aren't that. And you most likely aren't either.)

If you meet such a woman, she will be the nawalt unicorn. But they are extremely rare and if you aren't "such a man" yourself, you aren't getting them either.

ENTPunisher · 2020-10-14T01:42:40+00:00

Yes, in the sense that they have at least one rational reason to not screw you over (God's judgement). Best advice I can give you is to analyze which direction the woman is trending towards in terms of holiness.

Willow-girl · 2020-10-14T15:50:13+00:00

Keep in mind that sanctification is a process. Generally we don't 'get' everything at the outset, but the general trend should be upward, so to speak.

escapethesolarsystem · 2020-10-14T16:36:54+00:00

It depends on where they are in their Christian walk. Unfortunately, most "Christian" women in the west are Christian in name only, but have no relationship with God and therefore act the same as any non-Christian western women.

To really know if she's actually different, you'd have to understand what's really going on in her heart, which is very difficult.

pandora_box- · 2020-10-21T16:32:30+00:00

AWALT really should be MWALT (most women are like that) but is phrased as AWALT in TRP to help prevent men from getting oneitis. The AWALT premise is based on instinctual drives— the drive to secure the best provider possible for your children and good genes for your children. AWALT is exasperated in certain circumstances (such as women with BPD, women who grew up with lots of uncertainty, or who had poor father figures) and the mainstream TRP tactics tend to attract women who fall into AWALT stereotypes which creates further confirmation bias that it’s truly all women like that— which is why RPC is better for men who want committed relationships. Even though AWALT is an instinctual inclination, the instincts are not as strong in everyone and as humans we have the ability to rise above our instincts.

NoFaithInThisSub · 2020-10-13T22:20:58+00:00

They're supposed to be but these days no, they are basically the same.

The Church looks and operates like the world. Can you expect those members to be different?

GunTotingFarmer · 2020-10-14T00:02:53+00:00

sliprymdgt · 2020-10-15T01:30:44+00:00

AWALT, yes.

But can God make dry bones live? Does he remove a heart of stone, and replace it with a heart of flesh?

Yes.

romeodeltaalpha22 · 2020-10-13T23:36:22+00:00

I would say my wife is different, and i HAPPILY play the doormat for her. It's a 2 way street though, she does the same thing for me.

amergent · 2020-10-13T22:47:13+00:00

It's not that simple.

Title	Are Christian women any different than worldly women?
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