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[–]roomspace12 points13 points14 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Can understand why someone would flip out after trying to reschedule a date at 5pm the night of.
[–]BrandanTech4 points5 points6 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
And when you’re in the “getting dressed” phase...that’s extra shitty.
[–]Hesitante10 points11 points12 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Play stupid games, win stupid prizes. Don't expect to have an honest relationship if you aren't bringing honesty and respect. There is no reason other than an emergency to bail on someone you've been in contact with right before an agreed meeting of any sort.
[–][deleted] 8 points9 points10 points 4 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
Got approval at 5pm on date night to launch a new product? Sure.
Rescheduling is fine. Rescheduling RIGHT NOW at the END of a workday speaks to poor time management and lack of investment in the date.
[–]partyorca2 points3 points4 points 4 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
Sometimes it happens like that, though, especially if you’re on the east coast and the decision was made on the west coast.
[–]Iwasfrozentodaay1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
It's a deliberate test from her part though, kinda manipulative no?
[–]partyorca3 points4 points5 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
I didn’t read it like that. I read it as her saying “wow, that ended up telling me more about him than the date would have” after the fact, rather than her setting it up as a deliberate test.
[–]Iwasfrozentodaay2 points3 points4 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Aye it's true, never said intentionally.
His reaction is garbage anyways.
[–]introvertedgoof5 points6 points7 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
She dodged a major bullet. People in this day and age will flat out ghost you and block you on all platforms instead of having the balls to tell you how they feel or what circumstance popped up. She has interest in this guy and even went above and beyond to reschedule on her end. She wants to be around this guy, and he goes off like a man baby. I would understand her completely because her situation is mandatory and deals with her job. Sure, I would be a little salty, but it’s not the end of the world. I’m sure he also carries the red pill philosophy that if she doesn’t sleep with you after date #1, than you should cut ties with her. She’s pretty much an object or piece of meat to you.
[–]nazarkovn-1 points0 points1 point 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Or perhaps, someone makes time for you a while in advance, makes reservations ect. and then whithin what I assume is one or two hours of the date beginning calls it off?
Hell no, they would be lucky to get a second chance even if they appologised unless it was some serious shit like their grandfather having a stroke. Especially if it is obvious BS as with 'launching a product' at 5pm in the evening.
She has interest in this guy and even went above and beyond to reschedule on her end. She wants to be around this guy, and he goes off like a man baby.
Frankly I am surprised that you had the gall to type this. As if the woman is somehow entitled to his company; oh how fortunate he is that she made time for him to be rescheduled! It takes two to tango and this 'rescheduling' has to be approved by the other party, are you really surprised that he would not bother rescheduling with someone that doesn't have the common decency to give at a bare minimum 24hrs notice?
[–]TheNicestFellow2 points3 points4 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I'm cool with rescheduling, but trying to reschedule the day of and I'm guessing like an hour or less before the date... Very rude.
[–]Rad1Red2 points3 points4 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Yeah, no. He wasn't necessarily redpill or MGTOW.
Then again, she gave a valid reason and was respectful about it herself.
I, as a woman, and I'm sure many women will understand what I'm saying, would have understood if a guy had to reschedule sometimes because of work. Men need to get with the program and do the same, and tbh I would not date someone who reacted like that.
Mate, you're important (or have the potential to be), but my career is important too, and although family and partner will always come first, work will occasionally get in the way of plans.
He overreacted (probably due to bad previous experiences). Whatever the reason, that is a good indicator of how inflexible and self-centered he's going to be during the relationship. Not an indicator of his "frame" or "self-respect" or whatever he thought.
That's a no from me.
[–]nazarkovn0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
It is common cutesy in the formal world to give at least 24hrs notice to a cancellation of some kind if not longer. This man was right to be pissed.
You should be able to foresee that you cannot make it on that day and ask beforehand to reschedule. Whenever dates have asked to reschedule and have observed this simple cutesy I have been happy to agree.
[–]Kurt7519901 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Go sell your product. You go make that money. She'll find another tomorrow. You go buy that new car and live in that new house. Live your best life my friend, you're worth it.
[–]brahmidia1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
I don't think it's unfair of her to ask (shit happens and she was apologetic and she even said "how do you feel" not "I need to" suggesting she was somewhat flexible.) I also don't think him being upset was unreasonable (my wife would give me major shit for cancelling at the last minute) but I think he could've handled it much better and actually answered the question instead of telling her to get lost.
In the end though relationships are about finding a match. If this is how her life is and she needs someone to be cool with that, then he wasn't meant to be. If he needs someone who is reliable and stable and committed, the she wasn't meant to be. What matters is that you're honest, sincere, humble, and gracious. Then even if there's conflict it's "healthy" conflict that results in the appropriate outcomes and not pathological outcomes.
It would be one thing if this was:
This is neither of those cases, she waited until it was so near that he was literally changing to go, the only way it could be worse is if he was waiting at the place only for her to not arrive and cancel on him by text.
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