Learn to shut the hell up. Never talk about your sexual experiences, even when asked.

strikethrough123 · 2020-10-24T08:40:10+00:00

I agree that you shouldn’t reveal your n-count. But many women (especially young women) are very interested about wild sexual experiences. I have plenty of stories to tell, and the girls I sleep with love them.

The only downside I see to this is if you are trying to use these stories to impress her, she will see through this. Only speak of these things after you fuck her, if she seems like the type to be interested in such things, a lot are.

ChummyChad · 2020-10-24T12:32:10+00:00

I never kiss and tell, said with slight smirk, ignites the hamster

RedPillDad · 2020-10-24T23:22:25+00:00

Sex is abundant for women and scarce for all but a few men. You've had 20 partners over the years? She can pull that off in a month, a week if she wants to. Getting a man into bed isn't a woman's challenge, keeping them in a relationship is.

She'll act the wholesome pretender, but her chasteness is as fake as everything else about her. She hides her mileage while resenting the latest crop of untainted youthful gals and the increasingly rare good women who don't 'empower' themselves through hookups.

RevolutionaryPea7 · 2020-10-24T10:10:13+00:00

I agree with this. A gentleman never discloses details of his private life. The only people who do are insecure and are trying to maintain a façade. They are almost always lying and any numbers are exaggerated. You should be confident in who you are and maintain a private life, not a façade.

Zech4riah · 2020-10-24T09:01:08+00:00

Never. Ever. Talk about your sex life. Even to most male friends. Nothing good comes out of it.

I guess having sex is something really special to you. It never hurt me to discuss my past sexual experiences with my plates. With some plates the discussion has been really vague and with some I've gone into specifics but I've never mentioned any names or number of women I've slept with.

With my male friends we talk about sex when there is something new/special worth mentioning but we react to discussion like it's weather forecast. It's normal and there is nothing special about - like listening to weather forecast.

Anyway you have to know when and with whom you can have these conversations. Every girl is different. When you are advanced enough, you can start breaking rules. Some day you will get it too.

EDIT: In some situations I think it's even a mandatory to talk about sexual experiences. Sometimes girls need a bit of a persuasion to have 3some and I've noticed that a great way to do it is to tell the positive experiences about 3somes and of the actual situation.

2020-10-24T19:53:27+00:00

Or don't answer seriously. She asks "how many girls have you slept with" and you say "what today?" Or she asks "when is the last time you had sex" and you say "oh I'm a Virgin" then wink. Just don't give a straight answer and be playful

z2a1-9 · 2020-10-24T23:21:16+00:00

There are many basic answer to this as stated in the sidebar, such as:

"I don't kiss and tell"

"I lost count after 50"

I does depend on the woman you are with, but the above should keep you golden.

Rkingpin · 2020-10-24T10:05:07+00:00

That’s true man, women don’t want to hear that a girl gave u a blow job with ice cubes in her mouth.

ChummyChad · 2020-10-24T15:44:24+00:00

Even tho I’ve racked up close to 25+ and friends insisted on me opening up about myself and ask about my escapades cuz I’m seen as the player with the stories, I’m slowly starting to see how talking about it to my friends (including just guy groups) is getting to them. Even if you’re crushing AND ASKED ABOUT it, people get annoyed for you. It can trigger some jealousy.

I’m also 28 and friends are slowly getting blue pilled (relationships, and talks of marriage and leaving the game) even tho they were red through most of their 20s

chateauhearstielive · 2020-10-24T09:22:18+00:00

This is insanely on the money. Had a ONS a few days ago with a new plate from Hinge. Followed this advice, among other things to a T and banged a younger (21yo) HB7 within 4 days of matching and 4 hours of meeting. She HOUNDED me about my n count!

So we meet up for drinks 7.30 weds... SHIT TEST: within an hour beforehand she tries to push the date 15 mins back. I hold frame and keep it at 7.30 “let’s do 7.30. That’s when the reservation is for. Haha” She says “Ok!:)” And ends up getting there before ME (with wet hair - rushed appearance).

When we got there she said she researched my background and my criminal record. And my social media to see if it matched my profile. She found my accounts complimentary, and no criminal history. As a black man(28) 7 years her (21 W) senior this was notable. undoubtedly a filtering mechanism regardless of race/age.

I made a small riff off of one of her stories that I had no nipples at birth, and that I tattooed nipples. I did this to get her to picture me with my shirt off. I teased her about this later after she saw my normal chest.

She talked and talked. I buttered her with drinks and listened. When the restaurant closed I asked for the check and gently invited her to my house. She asked if it was an apartment or house. (It was half a block from the meetup. Literally on my street. I said “it’s a house-parment, idk you tell me.” As I got up and led her to my place.

It was literally a 40 second walk. She tells me she almost cancelled the date at 7. I laugh and said “I wasn’t when showered at 7. “ “And I cancelled a date Monday night, so I get it.” Shower true. Canceled date, lie. (actually someone flaked on me the night before). Lol @ dating apps

We get to my house and my roommate is there with a neighbor in the kitchen. Instead of rushing into my room. I introduce her. Talk for 15 mins til they start jamming instruments. And smoothly say. “Let me show you my room.”

She followed and gave my space a once over. Complimented my bed. And stood in Front of my full length mirror admiring inspirational quotes on the mirror frame. I grabbed her tits and joked about the quotes to lighten the mood.

TLDR: the moment we got hot and heavy it it snapped in her mind what happened. LMR KICKED IN. She asked how many girls I’ve brought there. Bc it’s so close to my place to the restaurant. She wasn’t planning to do this. Musicians don’t seem sexual and she’s surprised. How many girls have you brought there? Blah blah

Then she KEPT asking “how many women? How many women?”I blankly responded “I don’t know.” “I forgot”... keep escalating... “I used to count when I was younger”... keep escalating...

Eventually she realized I had normal nipples. Lol

The number of partners was a constant theme almost to annoyance. I let her paint her own picture. Since I seemed like a “bachelor” in her own words and I’m in good shape, so meh. Just let her imagine she’s having a ONS with whoever she thinks she is.

Absolutely don’t answer this question. If the number is Too high. Too low. It can only go wrong because she’s “just another #” if you say a specific one. They’re persistent about it too. I’ve also had success with “<100.” (Less than 100) as a response. But that was in the nightclub scene in my college days.

Great work OP. (Sorry if this is overly detailed) her LMR was “how many? ..how many? ... how many?” Truth be told if she were hotter I may not have have handled it as well. Thanks to posts like this, I had another fun night. Thanks Everyone for reading.

bouncypoo · 2020-10-25T03:58:19+00:00

After you fuck it’s free game . Women get jealous soooo easily . Competition gets em wet . Just plain moist

meerita · 2020-10-24T08:55:34+00:00

Now, start giving examples how to avoid this shit test. Most of the articles agree and tell the same: never tell, but these articles, including your post never tell others how to avoid this. Remember women give ultimatums all the time when they feel you're trying to dodge.

sawyer94117 · 2020-10-24T20:28:16+00:00

What's sad is that most guys get into the PUA lifestyle to get closer to women and most of the advice - which admittedly works - has to do with keeping one's distance. Like there has to be an emotional distance for the physical distance to be removed.

So women have many an opportunity for the intimacy men crave but if men are found seeking it they'll be shooting themselves in the foot. In other words women have what men want but if men ask for it they can't get it.

TrenWarrior · 2020-10-28T12:45:44+00:00

Pure Gold... i always tell my boys they need to STFU.... stop bragging about getting laid... by this broad or that broad... word spreads quickly especially amongst females.

Trp2727272 · 2020-10-24T08:17:32+00:00

She may seem impressed and call you a fuckboy,

Is this term used interchangeably? Most girls I know use it to describe thirsty dudes. Most dudes are never going to have a high n count anyway. So it's probably about the ones that try a lot. That's how it is everywhere I've read it.

Happy_Soup · 2020-10-24T13:52:38+00:00

“I don’t kiss and tell.” Classy and helps create trust in your intimacy. Gossiping in general can bite you in the ass anyways.

I personally don’t even keep track of my number though so I couldn’t honestly answer. Just give a ballpark estimate.

bestsparkyalive · 2020-10-24T13:00:25+00:00

I never thought about it like this. That is an excellent way to frame it. You're not revealing it out of respect for her at the end of the day... That's classy.

DTron2332 · 2020-10-24T14:54:03+00:00

Yeah it’s not smart to try and brag about it, or be obnoxious about, but revealing sexual experiences with past women in my experience has done me wonders. Instead of talking about the women, I say I like this, or this is what I love doing... I take it through my frame. If she asks me what kind of girls I’m into, well I tell her. Simple as that. She asks me how freaky I am? I will usually give some bait to attract or straight up tell her I will fuck the stupid out of her 🤷🏻‍♂️ it doesn’t matter, if a women wants you enough that’s not much you can do wrong, trust me.

fuddubandha · 2020-10-24T20:59:22+00:00

I met a post wall 45 liberal single mom, who spilled her own beans about guys and sexual experiences with me. As the talk continued by the end of the talk I was feeling so disgusting as she was talking about the past experiences as well as guys and still talking about what she wants from a next guy. I told her straight that basically you were hookup type of gurl who is still fucking her ex and looking for new guy to be different. She was executive for este Lauder. She blamed me for not pursuing her and not buying her tea Starbucks then blocked me.

PepinoSF · 2020-11-22T22:48:01+00:00

Many here dont get the point. If she is asking if you like anal sex, regardless of have you already or not slept with her, just bang her in the butt, but dont answer verbaly yes or no.

Lurkingnopost · 2020-10-24T14:35:20+00:00

OP is being overly simplistic and overgeneralizing. I once had a woman ask me my most enjoyable blowjob experience because she wanted to top it. She was not worry at all about my talking about her. At all.

I have noticed on this sub that many posters are throwing low effort or simply incorrect statements up just to karma whore lately.

buttgoogler · 2020-10-24T10:29:24+00:00

Eventhough I do agree that you shouldn't brag about your past shenanigans to anyone, sometimes you can still share a funny story or two while drinking beer with your buddies or whatever.

McBlakey · 2020-10-24T21:17:50+00:00

I've experienced the opposite of this. Not saying the principle isn't valid, but my experience has been different. I'm talking about older women when I say this, maybe that makes a difference?

Thizzlebot · 2020-10-24T21:38:57+00:00

Yah I know not to do it and keep doing it with the same result. Just stfu!

spartanblood1 · 2020-10-24T22:41:48+00:00

I wish i knew this earlier

arakouzo · 2020-10-25T18:59:38+00:00

Women like stories both among each other and occasionally with guys, but only casual guys not boyfriend prospects. If you're a boyfriend prospect, hide and be vague with your sex history because there is no right answer that won't seem like you're either qualifying yourself in her frame or less of a man than she initially thought, neither one of which is good.

But if you're a fun casual guy in her world, fun stories are okay, but just stories, not information.

Girl sex stories go something like, "Oh yeah. I dated a guy once who was into that. One time we did that in the parking lot behind my office. I was so nervous!"

No names. No number of times or number of guys. No specific time when it happened. No specific description of positions or foreplay or graphic acts other than she "dated a guy who was into that". Just the story that makes her seem fun, not the information itself.

If and only if you are a fun casual guy, if she starts swapping stories, vague stories of your own that are similar can be fun for her. Not information, just stories.

RagingMayo · 2020-10-26T22:48:14+00:00

Does this also count for virgins? 29-year-old virgin here. I am not expecting to get laid anytime soon anyway, but I wonder if it would bring any harm to tell a woman before that I haven't had sex before.

onlycrazypeoplesmile · 2020-10-29T13:30:54+00:00

Huge difference between bragging and being open/honest. If you don't answer the question or you lie, you ain't ready for a partner.

jackandjill22 · 2020-11-26T22:46:19+00:00

This is alot harder than it sounds man. Like it's really difficult.

ShawnSimoes · 2020-10-24T09:24:22+00:00

Her desire for casual sex now has a potential to be leaked to the public because you have just shown her that you will likely speak about your sexual experiences with her to another person.

You're just wrong about this. Most women don't care. Certainly not to the extent that you imagine. If they know you've slept with a lot of desirable women, it only works to your benefit.

Yes, there are situations where it might be a better idea to just shut up about this stuff, depending on the dynamics of your social circle, particularly if you happen to have many mutual acquaintances.

But for the most part... no. This isn't the big deal you're making it out to be.

Inappropriate_Comma · 2020-10-24T18:46:08+00:00

I've always communicated openly and honestly with *all of my partners*. If they hit me up during the week to hang out and I have a conflicting date with another woman I'll even happily tell them that. The way I see it is everyone deserves the opportunity to decide for themselves if they are OK with that kind of lifestyle. There are plenty of plates to fill your cabinets with out there, but the biggest lesson I've learned is the more honest I am with myself and my partners, the more I attract open-minded humans into my life. Any woman who doesn't sleep with me because of my honesty is simply a bullet dodged in my book.

isthisalreadyused · 2020-10-24T12:29:25+00:00

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Magicus1 · 2020-10-24T19:32:27+00:00

It’s funny, because women always assume, correctly, that I have a lot of sexual experience.

They usually figure it out when I know how to turn them on, what buttons to press, and how to takeoff their bra incredibly quickly with only one hand.

They try to walk me into a trap by saying things like:

”Woah! You’ve got a lot of experience.”

Or

”Someone knows what they’re doing.”

At which point the only correct answer is what they want to hear: I’ve been a lot of long term relationships.

They don’t want to know how many threesomes you’ve been in, they don’t want to know how many girls you’ve been back to back, they don’t want to know about the time you were overseas, and they definitely don’t want to know about all the pictures you have stashed somewhere.

In fact, they would ironically think you were disgusting.

Tell them what they want to hear: relationships.

It’s, after all, how she learned to suck a mean d¡ck — “relationship sex”.

aloneseeker · 2020-10-24T17:01:26+00:00

how do you explain an STD where someone lied to you, how to describe the situation and still maintain frame, any advice?

mugatucrazypills · 2020-10-24T18:21:21+00:00

> But then she doesn't sleep with you.

Not been my experience.

although the strongest endorsement(since anything you claim will be discounted) will come from seeing another woman trying to sleep with you, they go insane at that point.

oooKenshiooo · 2020-10-27T21:26:18+00:00

Yeha, IMHO Rollo is dead wrong about that part. Maybe back in his day that was a thing, but my experience is quite the oppsite.

I always reveal my n-count when asked. I first start out with "probably way more than you" and if she presses on, I will tell her straight away. (My n-count is high double digits and during my man-slut times I would probably have had sex on the same day already.)

It has NEVER cost me any pussy. Ever.

Title	Learn to shut the hell up. Never talk about your sexual experiences, even when asked.
Author	Simptopimp-co-uk
Upvotes	874
Comments	76
Date	24 October 2020 07:53 AM UTC (6 months ago)
Subreddit	TheRedPill
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