How to get over oneitis?

MonxtahDramux · 2020-10-12T14:22:30+00:00

You are starting to put her on a pedestal. And believe me, it's going to bite back (been there, done that.)

This is bad for her because you'll put her under too much pressure, signal she's worth more than you and could do better and give her all the power to manipulate you to her wits end. (And she will hate you for it, no doubt!)

Time to think rationally:

What makes you feel she's the best woman for you?
Will she be the best woman for you 3 years from now? How about 10 years?
What baggage is she carrying?
Are there other women more beautiful than her with less baggage?

You only commit to someone when you know they are the best for you. If she was a piece of stocks and you're investing your life-savings, you would want to do a thorough research instead of deciding based on the look and feel of the product. And even at that, you will keep an eye on other options (without investing) should incase it blows!

But you're not investing your lifesavings right? Wrong! You are investing more than mere money. You are investing your life. Your essence! So guard that shit with all the shit you got.

One sure way to get over oneitis is to know your value. Ask yourself, what the fuck do I bring to the table?

Once you can give yourself a good answer, you will know why it's called a Sexual Marketplace ~ because we trade time and commitment based on Sexual Market Value. With a goal of hitting a high ROI (for me, that is a hot, fertile, submissive, and attractive woman with good understanding of boundaries that is good for me)

You will know why all this is simply a trade and know if you're selling yourself too low.

What is love? Hollywood and the chemicals in your brain are just mixing things up! Dude, get off that shit.

Edit:

BTW, my idea of having more options while considering investing your all doesn't include sleeping with multiple women. I have a soul and that shit sucks the life out of it. I don't care what the rules of TRP are. If it works for you, do it. If it doesn't DON'T.

BNEDub · 2020-10-12T12:49:59+00:00

She's not yours it's just your turn.

Eventually she's gonna be fucking and sucking another dudes dick.

Keeping that in mind usaully keeps the oneitis in check. Also there are literally billions of chicks on the planet my dude - it's madness to think you've found the best one.

Hopefully this helps.

Askada · 2020-10-12T13:00:36+00:00

You basically asking textbook questions about textbook problems. Try to actually read some of the sidebar in TRP sub, because you clearly read none of the important stuff, or you gonna have a rough time mate.

catsdontsmile · 2020-10-12T14:12:02+00:00

Whenever you have those thoughts replace them with her taking a really bad shit. That does it for me.

JameisBong · 2020-10-12T13:59:57+00:00

Stop spending too much time/ quality time with her. Out of sight out of mind. You are falling for her because you waste all your time thinking about her. Go lift, learn a new skill and game other bitches.

mrrooftops · 2020-10-12T15:20:24+00:00

Get moreitis.

cleanitupcuck · 2020-10-12T17:39:32+00:00

You haven't been with enough girls as hot as or "cool" as her yet. Probably don't truly believe that if she broke things off today that you could find another girl just as good as her within a month (which you can if you have true abundance mentality and zero approach anxiety).

Every man who gets with their first chick they consider on their level (or higher) ends up with oneitis and acting the way you do. And it always ends with becoming a needy pussy and fucking it up.

After you fuck this up (which it sounds like you will), make it your goal to get multiple girls at her looks level on your roster (even just 2 would be fine), and completely crush your approach anxiety. You don't act needy and desperate when you know you can pull these girls over and over again.

cglehosit · 2020-10-12T17:26:04+00:00

This is the same pattern as addiction. There are lots of fun things in life to do, but ugh they just are not as fun as [insert substance here]!

The best way to break an addiction pattern is to abandon your reliance on it by building abundance. Write down three hobby things you what to DO this week. You can start with simple stuff like float the river, explore a forested area, or go to a park to relax, and plan to do it by yourself or with your dog. Then the next few times she’s asks you to hang out or something, TELL HER YOU ARE BUSY doing those things but you’ll be open after. This will help build your mentality of abundance, that you are fine doing stuff without this chick. Once you have that mentality you can bring her along with no pussy on the pedestal problem.

And she will adore you for it, trust me.

bluepilljesus · 2020-10-12T19:25:59+00:00

Fuck new Women, lift, eat clean, meditate, friends, improve yourself.

throwRA3141565 · 2020-10-12T19:47:30+00:00

When I did a few aproaches and even though I was succeeding (number close), i didn't feel like I did something.

Been there. The answer is to find hotter plates. The single best, most efficient way to help yourself is to spin MULTIPLE plates. You will naturally not care if your plates are all hot. Just make it a habit, and things will fall into place. Half-assedly picking up #'s and not closing - will eventually lead you to cry later once she starts swallowing another man's loads.

phisch13 · 2020-10-12T12:44:38+00:00

I have had the same issue in the past.

I think you have the right idea, keep gaming other girls. The best approach here is to play a numbers game. Eventually you’ll find another girl just as great in your mind. And then another. And another. Eventually, your subconscious will acknowledge that there are other girls just as “perfect” as your current.

Or. All else fails. Imagine this current girl taking the absolute steamiest, most explosive, dump in the game. That’ll knock her right off the mental pedestal.

319Skew · 2020-10-12T13:27:32+00:00

Well at least you're self aware.

Like others have said, you should really read that side bar but since you can't be bothered or don't know how we'll just tell you.

"Falling in love" boils down to a perfect mix of chemical dependence and social condition brought on by evolution.

In a logical world, you'd realize that you put this average woman on a pedestal and are embellishing her positive characteristics while down playing her negative.

There's nothing truly special about her. It's all in your mind. She's just as shallow as the same girls you got numbers from but didn't fuck.

How do you know this? Easy. You fuck more women and date more often. You also read that side bar.

Most guys fall into love when they are ignorant to red pill, some guys try to eat the cake and save it too, and some just are afraid to accept reality.

The reality is that the same cute woman that's coming to your work to drop off a home made lasagna because she loves you so much was the same woman that used to blow some other guy while he drove to pick up toilet paper at Walmart.

RIGHT NOW. She has the feelz for you or realistically you have them for her, but the moment that dries up, it WILL be another guy(s) that will be slapping her ass and pulling her hair. She will love it.

When you expose and internalize the side bar, you take women off that pedestal and accept female nature. You live with more awareness of what you have. So while you're enjoying the feeling of free falling, you know when to pull the fucking cord.

Wish you the best. Enjoy the ride.

DerpJungler · 2020-10-12T13:23:29+00:00

Spend your time doing your own shit so you don't think about her. Don't overtext. Don't be available all the time.

Keep in mind that she's not a unicorn and most probably you won't be with her forever.

Abundance mindset even if you think she's the hottest.

mickenrorty · 2020-10-12T17:15:18+00:00

You have to get to the point where you really don’t care so much if she leaves you for another man... you’ll never really be free until you reach that state of mind.

Best advice I have is be consistently working on yourself, wealth and health

2020-10-12T20:38:45+00:00

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RedEyeBlackEye1 · 2020-10-13T01:19:45+00:00

Fuck that bitch Mayne!

Acquire self improvement

pornodio · 2020-10-13T09:29:58+00:00

Get experience and dont do dumb shit

LuniOPS · 2020-10-12T12:42:01+00:00

realize that there are other quality girls in the world. All these other hoes are just attracting attention. stop drooling over them. look elsewhere. have you tried taking pre-med classes? they are full of chicks. you don't have to become a doctor but your not even trying to find out where the quality chicks are at. probably for the best tho.

jedd101 · 2020-10-12T13:46:20+00:00

You pretty much eluded to your issue. You went out and talked to other girls, but found none of them attractive.

The way to get over a oneitis is bring girls who are MORE attractive than her into your world. Once you start plating and sleeping with better girls, you will have no emotion for her in the future trust me.

But you need to put in the work to attract these better women. There's no easy fix.

Legitimate-Lies · 2020-10-12T13:48:28+00:00

She probably isn’t that special, and you aren’t considering yourself a prize. Even if she is special, one of things making her special is realizing what a catch YOU are, and taking your lead. If she’s bratty, not reciprocating, or you’re just striking out, you’re literally wasting time. You don’t even gotta fuck other women just go talk to them.

Oneitis always return especially after you’re over them

drkinferno72 · 2020-10-12T13:51:34+00:00

Find a new girl

Timely-Warthog · 2020-10-12T20:40:22+00:00

And this is where exredpill would be useful

hwhitefarmer · 2020-10-12T12:54:03+00:00

Oneitis =woman is your god. If that isn’t the dumbest Fuckn thing you ever heard then you deserve everything you get

Title	How to get over oneitis?
Author	justmy_alt
Upvotes	75
Comments	49
Date	October 12, 2020 12:23 PM UTC (3 years ago)
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