Ihave been lurking this sub-Reddit for a long time, i stumbled across it somehow but remember how apalled i was initially reading it . How chauvanistic , abusive, and misguided i felt the "knowledge" spouted here was. In my blue pill philosophy this sub-reddit was just a bunch of losers who didn't understand and appreciate women the way i did. A bunch of sour pusses angry at women for no real reason. Meanwhile i sat in a temple of vaginas as their non-aggressive loveable teddy bear...that they could never consider fucking and honestly was there more often for their to be their shoulder to cry on and offer emotional and inspirational support as they bemoaned their desire for aggressive asshole exes that used them up and spit them out.

Still despite that first impression i found myself stealing brief moments increasingly to get a glance at this sub-reddit . I Read anecdotes, quotes, acronyms, mantras and began to see some parallels of the themes presented here that mimicked my own personal relationships. Which truly began to confuse me, all my life women had told me i needed to be a prince to get my princess , perfect, handsome, and women would rever and respect me and yet when doing that i hardly if ever garnered real interest from the opposite sex. Little by little i began to see parallels in The red pill philosophy and how women responded to me when i unintentionally did things that aligned with it.... Maybe...maybe this sub-reddit was onto something?

I mean how is it that recent calls with my ex girlfriend of 6 years and highschool sweetheart are filled with more respect and love after not having seen her in nearly a year (and that was a short dinner ) than most of our day to day conversations when i was hopelessly in love with her and treated her like a princess? Also during this princess phase she cheated on me twice ..and yet now every text or phone call i get she tells me how she loves me or misses me in my absence.

Well in the last few weeks the tenants, anecdotes, accronyms, and logic spouted on this board has resonated withing me louder than ever. I find myself increasingly wanting to be a man of value and that is now my focus . Still it has felt like for the longest time something was missing , i feel like an Old boy...not a young man. So i have been looking for TRP media , listening to Patrice oneals radio show archives , watching youtube clips, and finally i looked on the reading list and see that No More mr. Niceguy which is referenced here endlessly has a free audio book available.

I decided to start listening to the 6.5 hour audiobook yesterday and will finish the final hour today.

This book has been SUCH a revelation into , into what it means for ME to be a man , it does such a good job of showing you the direction aman walks but as a man only you know what kind of man you are or wish to be. They author pushes you off the dock and asks you to row yourself out i to the sea of masculinity .

It has been eye opening because technically in age I am a man(26) , in terms of responsibility sure I am a man (have my own apartment, have a car, have a solid career) , but that feeling of being a man has just never been there and the book essentially showed me that it's because I have been a filtered man.... I am a PC man, a man without the ugly bits, I am a man with a muzzle...that was true until yesterday. I have only begun rowing my boat but i owe it to myself to row as hard and fast as i can to get lost in the wide and deep expanse of masculinity.

It's fascinating how i now see that my needs, my desires, my deeds and accomplishments, i have lived for every creature around me except for myself and how i told myself i was happy yet clearly i expressed resentful and clearly unhealthy behaviors.

I tried so hard to be a man without fangs that i didn't realize that sometimes you need fangs , sometimes being passive isn't the right answer, sometimes it's ok to do EXACTLY what you'd like to do, not just what you say you'd like to do because of percieved limitations.

Anyway i can go on and on about this book it even has me considering trying to reconnect with my absentee father, for me this is massive considering my father has been an emotional boogeyman for the entirety of my life, a dark monster i pretend doesn't matter to me and yet i never appreciated in my hatred or disdain that refusing to understand and even attempt consider him as a human being that i was denying a part of a root part of my conception, a key contributer to my literal DNA. It's trying to create the best version of me without understanding the successes , pitfalls, and perspectives of a prior iteration a blue print of a man so to speak.

This book has been eye opening and it gives me hope, inspiration,and fills me with excitement towards the prospect that i can and do have the power to become a man that can respect himself. I'm not there yet but i'm on my way, i feel like the road for me to follow has been paved and i plan to continue down it. I offer my eternal thanks to Dr. Robert Glover and a million thanks to TRP and all its contributors. If you're the least bit curious about this book i reccomend you read and / or listen to it. It's magnificent . I plan on going back through it and exploring the excercises within it further.

Edit: i think after praising it it's only right to include a link to it as well for anyone else traveling the path and fix a few typos. http://yourlisten.com/aceofplace/no-more-mr-nice-guy