Intro
Recently, there have been two high quality posts about anger by /u/whisper (here) and /u/IllimitableMan (here). If you haven't already read them, do so before continuing.
Body
The brain, as incredible as it is, has its limits. Any type of repressed negative energy, whether it be anxiety, depression, or anger will either be released or cause restructuring of the mind. If you are not provided an outlet or create one yourself, your subconscious will do it for you. There are 3 ways by which your mind will handle repressed stress...
- 1) Acting Out: The stress tank leaks and manifests itself into your actions. This is the most common. As a matter of fact, this sub has a term for a specific instance of this, the anger phase. You look back at your history and realize you've been lied to and suffered because of it; you were duped. Your ego takes a huge blow and want to redeem yourself but can't let go of your past failures; holding a death-grip on yesterday. Now you search for opportunities to make up for what you've done. Your anger is cocked and being held back by a hair trigger. Any act that you perceive to be a sign of disrespect is quickly met with conflict. The females, once innocent creatures, are now evil cunts that should be punished for what they did to you and continue to do so. You welcome shit tests and acts of entitlement so that you can put her in her place. You may explain to a woman about her true nature in hopes she will change her ways. You may start to proselytize TRP concepts to friends or anybody that's listening. You may just lash out without a good reason. The specifics and rational behind the action don't matter as long as you get to vent.
3) Mental Reconstruction: Your mind, believing it can't relieve the stress, will adapt, re-configuring itself to fit a new mental schema that resolves previous issues.
- ex 1): For much of your life, you were shamed for expressing you masculine nature. This frequently caused great frustration. Eventually, you start to believe your shaming was justified; you deserved it, it's your fault. This new schema of submissiveness gives you a sense of control. It solves the problem, but to your detriment.
- ex 2): Some people go through such psychological trauma that they couldn't escape from, that their mind divides itself into multiple 'selves' to cope AKA multiple personality disorder, or dissociative identity disorder.
- Documentary: here, optional, but interesting.
Ancient Rome Example): When your mind reconstructs itself too extensively, too quickly, you 'snap'. Instead of retreating into the deep recesses of your mind, like the example above, you act out.
Conclusion
Why am I telling you this? Because anger is a healthy response to wrong doings against yourself. Channeling this stress away from the self is paramount. You must attack the problem directly. Do not allow it to rot and fester. You can't tuck it away and make the bad feelz go away. You're allowed and should stick up for yourself. Acknowledging your needs and prioritizing them first is okay. To ignore your needs on a consistent basis is unhealthy.
Like a gun, anger can be used for good or evil. Don't lash out on others, something physical is best. Pump some iron. Go for a run. Play a sport. You can even talk it out with your bros or a therapist (a man). One way or another, let it out so that you can let it go.
edit: thanks for the gold
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