Intro

Recently, there have been two high quality posts about anger by /u/whisper (here) and /u/IllimitableMan (here). If you haven't already read them, do so before continuing.


Body

The brain, as incredible as it is, has its limits. Any type of repressed negative energy, whether it be anxiety, depression, or anger will either be released or cause restructuring of the mind. If you are not provided an outlet or create one yourself, your subconscious will do it for you. There are 3 ways by which your mind will handle repressed stress...

  • 1) Acting Out: The stress tank leaks and manifests itself into your actions. This is the most common. As a matter of fact, this sub has a term for a specific instance of this, the anger phase. You look back at your history and realize you've been lied to and suffered because of it; you were duped. Your ego takes a huge blow and want to redeem yourself but can't let go of your past failures; holding a death-grip on yesterday. Now you search for opportunities to make up for what you've done. Your anger is cocked and being held back by a hair trigger. Any act that you perceive to be a sign of disrespect is quickly met with conflict. The females, once innocent creatures, are now evil cunts that should be punished for what they did to you and continue to do so. You welcome shit tests and acts of entitlement so that you can put her in her place. You may explain to a woman about her true nature in hopes she will change her ways. You may start to proselytize TRP concepts to friends or anybody that's listening. You may just lash out without a good reason. The specifics and rational behind the action don't matter as long as you get to vent.

  • 2) Psychosomatic Illness: The brain transforms the negative mental energy into the physical (e.g. rashes, fatique, and muscular tension) without any physical reason for its presence

  • 3) Mental Reconstruction: Your mind, believing it can't relieve the stress, will adapt, re-configuring itself to fit a new mental schema that resolves previous issues.

    • ex 1): For much of your life, you were shamed for expressing you masculine nature. This frequently caused great frustration. Eventually, you start to believe your shaming was justified; you deserved it, it's your fault. This new schema of submissiveness gives you a sense of control. It solves the problem, but to your detriment.
    • ex 2): Some people go through such psychological trauma that they couldn't escape from, that their mind divides itself into multiple 'selves' to cope AKA multiple personality disorder, or dissociative identity disorder.
      • Documentary: here, optional, but interesting.
    • Ancient Rome Example): When your mind reconstructs itself too extensively, too quickly, you 'snap'. Instead of retreating into the deep recesses of your mind, like the example above, you act out.

      • Roman Emperor Caligula Biography (Video, skip to 50 secs)

        • Summary: Though born into the most powerful family in Rome, the Julio Claudiens, Gaius Caesar AKA Caligula, was like any other boy. That was until great tragedy struck his family after his mother, despite his father's warning, decided to speak out against the current emperor, Tiberius. Without giving away too many details, lets just say they suffered dearly, except Caligula, he was spared and adopted by Tiberius as a "pampered prisoner". For the sake of his own survival, he had to suppress his anger and treat the man who murdered his family with respect everyday for many years. Soon Caligula began to act out, taking his hate out on others, somewhat resembling the sexual deviant behaviors of Tiberius.

        • Eventually, Tiberius died, likely by the hands of Caligula, leaving 24 year old Caligula as his heir. The Roman Senate titled him as sole, absolute ruler of the entire Roman Empire (unlimited power, no consequences. Sound familiar?). He became the most powerful man on the planet, and one of the most powerful men to ever exist. The people were excited, believing Caligula to follow in the footsteps of his father, Germanicus, a great military officer. At first, it seemed like a dream come true. "He freed citizens that had been unjustly imprisoned by Tiberius, and eliminated an unpopular tax. He also staged lavish events, including chariot races, boxing matches, plays and gladiator shows. However, six months into his rule, Caligula fell severely ill. For nearly a month, he hovered between life and death. In October of 37 A.D., he recovered, but it was quickly apparent that he was not the same person." All those years of repressed anger took its toll. He snapped and goes on a rampage against his family, peers, and the masses without just cause: cross dressing, incest, murder, you name it. For more details, watch the video, it's worth your time.

Conclusion

Why am I telling you this? Because anger is a healthy response to wrong doings against yourself. Channeling this stress away from the self is paramount. You must attack the problem directly. Do not allow it to rot and fester. You can't tuck it away and make the bad feelz go away. You're allowed and should stick up for yourself. Acknowledging your needs and prioritizing them first is okay. To ignore your needs on a consistent basis is unhealthy.

Like a gun, anger can be used for good or evil. Don't lash out on others, something physical is best. Pump some iron. Go for a run. Play a sport. You can even talk it out with your bros or a therapist (a man). One way or another, let it out so that you can let it go.


edit: thanks for the gold