This happened a few years ago, but thought it was a good example of how men are a disposable commodity to women, because hypergamy.

Met her at a work function (would not be working with her or even see her) where I owned the room full of our peers. She had a boyfriend but didn't tell me at first. I always have a rule that I don't bang girls with BF's because I don't want any kind of drama in my life, and I also don't want to be shot because I picked the one in a million girl who lives with Joe Army. Way too many chicks in the world for that nonsense. She gave me her number the night of said work meeting (she worked for a company we were going to be doing business with), and the sexual tension started with the first text. She suggested she would bring me food and then we'd fuck. Basically from the first conversation on. I had a funny feeling that she was withholding some info from me because of how she phrased things: we HAD to meet at my house, didn't want to meet in public, etc.

I was bored one night and started doing some snooping online (something I never do because I don't care enough with most women), and come to find out from her Facebook that she has a boyfriend and we had a mutual friend. I called up this mutual friend and the dude (a trusted bro by the way, no way I do this if its a woman, all hell would break loose because women love drama) is telling me she has a fiancé, a really nice guy who she lives with, and he never knew her to be like this. When I told him about the sexting he sounded like he fell off of his chair. He said she was one of the sweetest women he's ever met and he feels like he's "in the twilight zone" hearing all of this. He said he's known her for a long time and no one has ever said a single bad word about her, quite the opposite,and she volunteers at soup kitchens and heads up fund raisers for homeless. Unicorn like qualities. I'm just lol as we're having this conversation because he's so shocked. I'm not at all because AWALT of course, but he is genuinely flabbergasted at all of this.

So, I play it cool and make sure the dude doesn't tell her or anyone, I tell him I don't want involved in any drama. He said neither did he so he would keep it between us. I play it cool and don't say a word to her about anything. She comes over to my house with some awesome food she cooked up, dressed sexy as hell and smelling to die for. I'm not sure about you guys, but when a woman has a good fragrance on, I'm like a caged animal. But I keep my cool. We sit down and eat and just bullshit about nothing. She's drinking wine, has a smile on her face the whole time, and I can see that she is just waiting for me to do whatever I want to her. It took some extreme will to not just say fuck it and bang her and leave it at that, but she was not my only option and call me a pussy IDGAF but I still feel bad for guys like her BF BC I remember my BP days where I could have easily been her BF.

I start to casually bring up her living situation to see what she says. I tell her I'll be in her neighborhood next week and that I'll stop by. She instantly gets a nervous look on her face and says she will probably be working late. I tell her I'll just come when she gets home then, and she insists that its not a good idea, she'll be going right to bed and getting up early. I laugh and say "What, you don't live with your boyfriend do you?" Instantly I can see the look on her face that screams "Yes, and we're engaged" but all she does is look down and says "no." I press her more to see if she cracks. She finally fesses up and starts to rationalize:

"yeah I do live with my boyfriend, I'm sorry I didn't tell you, but he has no sex drive. We only sleep together once or twice a month. We sleep next to each other every night and he rarely touches me. I just couldn't take it any more. I've never done anything like this, I just got caught up in the excitement and now I feel stupid."

I tell her it's her life she can live it however she wants, but I don't want involved in any drama. She says he's a great guy who treats her nice, and has a good job, but she thinks of him more as a friend. She starts crying as she's telling me this and finally says that she should go and gets up and leaves. I never hear from her again.

About 6 months later I run into our mutual friend and he brings her up and asks what happened. I tell him and he said he talked to her about a month before and she said that her and her BF are having troubles and she isn't sure he's the one for her because she feels like she's missing out on something in life. I just laugh and feel glad I never got caught up in any of the drama involved.

The point is, her BF probably paid all of the bills, and treated her well, and thought he had a unicorn that helped the homeless with a great reputation. But in the end, she saw me as an alpha eh own a room of our peers, got horny and wrapped up in the excitement of cheating, and was ready to upgrade to me over him.

In the end, it was a valuable lesson to me that the person who has the power in the relationship is the one who can walk at any moment. Never let yourself go and love of a woman with all of your heart. You are a disposable commodity and if she can upgrade from you she will. Never forget that.