Hello you wonderful women of FDS!

I wanted to just remind you ladies that are currently experiencing heartbreak at the hands of an LVM or faux HVM: it does get better. BUT YOU NEED TO BLOCK, DELETE, EXORCISE AND SAY AMEN.

Having pined after what I thought was an HVM who turned out it be an ASM (ain't shit man) for months, I can't thank you all enough. I struggled, STRUGGLED to get over a man that I knew in my gut was not good for me. He made me cry and made question if he really felt things for me. When I asked for my basic emotional needs to be met and to be consistent with his effort, he said he was, "busy" and "dealing with his ex-wife." All the while being invested in a video game and making it seem like I was inconveniencing him. He whined and said I needed to be reassured of "us" every couple of weeks when he was straying. I tried to leave the situation, but a part of my low self esteem convinced me that this was my one shot and no one would ever be attracted to me like that again. Granted, I've never had a legitimate boyfriend, but I digress. The moment you feel like your needs are not being met or that you are bothering him, leave. Leave because it's going to be a cycle of doubting yourself and you're too damn pretty, intelligent, and VALUABLE to be crying over an ain't shit man.

To get over a guy, you need to listen to every single one of the wonderful woman on this subreddit and purge his very existence from you life. Block & delete. I don't care if it was a person you met online and got attached to or in person. Get rid of everything that reminds you of him. Work on yourself. Identify what made you stay and what trauma may be holding you back from levelling up to the Queen you can be. Take as long as you need to work on yourself. Your worth is not determined by a man. It does not start it end with a man.

I don't care how long it takes. You will get there. You will succeed. And then one day, one fucking day when you happen to see him and hear him, you'll feel nothing. ABSOLUTELY NOTHING FOR HIM AND THAT'S THE MOST LIBERATING THING EVER.

Side note: Guys will always make their intention know if they're interested. They set the stage for effort and communication. An HVM will remain consistent in that effort and communication, regardless of the type of communicator you are. It may evolve the longer you two are together and the more you get to know one another, but it will consistent.

I'm not going to lie when I say I'm completely over him. I still have my days when I wonder what he's doing and if he still wonders about me. But I now realize that it's better to go through the heartbreak now than 10 years down the line where I'm divorcing his pathetic ass. He can find a Pickmeisha to compensate for his low self esteem.

Keep glowing and remember: BLOCK AND DELETE. ❤️❤️❤️