tl;dr: The only person who can fix you is you. NO exceptions.

I got a divorce last year, and started hitting the gym and reading TRP. It was immensely helpful and pulled me out of a hole, and gave me the confidence and information I needed to start dating again.

I wasn't really happy with my job when I got back into dating. I wasn't happy with my health. Some of my best friends had recently moved away and I felt isolated and lonely. I drank too much, smoked too much -- even with the gym, it just felt like I was giving into those short-term dopamine hits instead of working towards a long-term goal.

But SURELY the problem was just loneliness, right? Once I had a girlfriend I'd be normal! I'd be happy! All my problems were because I was living alone -- once I had that special someone this would all somehow correct itself, like a ship finding its north star.

Within six months I had a chain of girls I was dating. Eventually one got serious. Now we're exclusive. She is eager to do everything I want in the bedroom, is happy to take me out to places I like, is happy to listen, is doing everything in her power to be the best girlfriend on the planet for me...

...and it's changed nothing. Zip. I am getting regular sex, in any position I like, with whatever crazy fetishes I can think of, as many times as I like. She's eager to listen, she loves taking me out places. But that doesn't change me not liking my job. That doesn't help me wanting to get quick dopamine fixes out of drinking or smoking.

So I started reading TRP again. And this time, apart from dating, REALLY understanding its teachings.

A woman can give you PHYSICAL satisfaction -- she can perform every act in the bedroom you've ever dreamed of, and concoct a few others you hadn't even thought of.

She can give you EMOTIONAL satisfaction -- she can relate to your problems, and be a good listener, and be empathetic to your needs.

A woman can give you INTELLECTUAL satisfaction -- she can stimulate you in debate, and make you think about things differently, and challenge you in clever and engaging ways.

A woman can never change you if you want to be changed.

A woman can never fix you if you want to be fixed.

A woman can never make you forget the things that need changing and fixing.

A lot of times, we're running from ourselves. And for a lot of guys, that means running into a relationship. There's nothing wrong with a relationship. But you're never going to find what you're truly looking for there. If anything, you'll have a BETTER relationship if you find what you're looking for FIRST.