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Guy's girlfriend pushes him to open up the relationship. Guy decides he deserves better and dumps her. Girlfriend subsequently has a mental breakdown.

by TheRedPilsner on /r/TheRedPill
24 May 2015 11:20 PM UTC

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I was just browsing the relationships subreddit and saw this thread which gave me my good laugh of the day.


Whoever the guy who posted this thread is, he's red pill as fuck. Listen to some of the remarks by him:

My girlfriend works in a job where it's basically her a bunch of women and this one guy. This one guy that works there is a real ladies man type guy, and my girlfriend is enamored by this guy. Nothing new, here I get it we have been in a relationship for a long time, and lusting after something new isn't bad.

Good old Chad Thundercock. You can always count on him to show up and give 'gina tingles to women who are already in a relationship.

However, my girlfriend started pushing more than that. She basically started asking me "what if I was to have a threesome with you, if I was to sleep with another guy." She started pushing more and more, about things we should do before we tie the knot and become boring old people. Then she started saying that I worked out so much, and look so much better, now than when I first got with her, now was my chance to get some more action etc. And she started really pushing this idea of an open relationship.

But unlike in many of these threads, the woman's boyfriend is pretty alpha himself. He works out, he takes care of his appearance, and he's capable of getting other women.

I realized, that her crush was something far more than that. And I didn't need her in my life, there were some complaints I had about the relationship, and now was my chance to find someone new that didn't have those faults. So I simply told her that this isn't something I want to do anymore, and that I think we should see new people.

The guy is smart enough to realize what a shitty deal he's getting and bails from the relationship. Like I said: Red pill as fuck.

I don't think it sunk into her, until like the day after when I deleted her off social media. Then she legitimately snapped. She forced herself into my apartments (roommates were there), and just sat there crying. She ended up buying me some really expensive shirts ($300+) for me to show me her love. And in general she is going crazy, she has taken sick from her work.

I think it hit her that she sacrificed an exclusive relationship with an alpha because she wanted to have her cake and eat it too. Worse, she's 28 years old and on the verge of hitting the wall, so she's probably gonna have to settle for a beta bucks if she wants kids. Meanwhile, her ex-boyfriend will likely spend the next little while banging hot women in the 19-24 age range.

I don't have any desire for getting back together with her. I know a lot of people will say I am bad for giving up on a relationship after so many years. But the thing was, I cared about her, but when she started talking about her lust towards the other guy, it basically killed my feelings towards her. And honestly, I am at a point in my life where I am happy with how things with just me are. I know I am an awesome person, and I don't need to convince anyone to stay.

Holy shit, even if this guy has never visited this subreddit before, he's truly got a red pill mindset. He doesn't depend on other people for validation, he provides it to himself.

The rest of the thread is him looking for advice on how to stop his ex-girlfriend from messing with his life if she gets vindictive. And also people patting him on the back for dumping her (there are a lot of RadFems and white knights in the relationships sub, but on a whole that subreddit hates infidelity).

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Title Guy's girlfriend pushes him to open up the relationship. Guy decides he deserves better and dumps her. Girlfriend subsequently has a mental breakdown.
Author TheRedPilsner
Upvotes 898
Comments 221
Date 24 May 2015 11:20 PM UTC (4 years ago)
Subreddit TheRedPill
Link https://theredarchive.com/post/32903
Original Link https://old.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/3753lc/guys_girlfriend_pushes_him_to_open_up_the/
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498 upvotes • [deleted] • 4 years ago

These stories give me a raging erection. I get a deep satisfaction anytime a guy actually stands up for himself and behaves like a man, because it seems like this sort of behavior is so rare.

108 upvotes_the_shape_4 years ago

Conversely, every time I hear a story of a guy sinking into the furthest depths of manginary, graduating from med school in his early 30s and immediately wifing up his psychologically unsound, raging cunt of a gf because he has "no choice" but to do so, that annoying losing all hope for humanity feeling rises up in me, but these days, mostly if I know the guy personally since these stories are so common.

135 upvotesfoldpak1114 years ago

"Lets go to school for 14 years, start making 300k a year, then give it all away to some 6/10 because I'm in scarcity." -said by every beta male

35 upvotes • [deleted] • 4 years ago

Even if shes not a 6/10 today, in 10 years she probably will be. So why lock that in.

4 upvotesthehonestdouchebag4 years ago


4 upvotesthehonestdouchebag4 years ago

You'd think that these guys would get used to being alone. Lots of people aren't comfortable being by themselves, I think thats part of growing to be a man, comfort in solitude. I'm not saying live/be alone your whole life if you don't want to, but you should at least be at peace in your own company.

8 upvotesscumtriedtoknifeme4 years ago

lock it down by wifeing it up.

Wow... just wow. A phrase that can be funny, incredibly offensive, and laugh your face off funny at the same time...

3 upvotesShiningknight124 years ago

There is this misconception that marriage somehow protects your relationship.

If you are poorer than your spouse, sure, but as a rich doctor it only gives your LTR a bigger reason to leave you.

2 upvotes • [deleted] • 4 years ago

I personally don't think LTR s work for most people. That's why they should no longer be the standard. Don't enter into it and then violate it when it doesn't suit you. Have the integrity to end it or don't become exclusive. But marriage is a horrible idea almost every time.

16 upvotesthewrightstuff884 years ago

my younger brother is currently 25 and getting married to his fiance and they are both in med school. They're starting the marriage off by her going to a residency in NYC while he is doing a 2 year research thing in baltimore. I just got out of a 6 year relationship where I was about to pop the question to a girl I thought I could spend the rest of my life with. Too bad they're all fuckin crazy. Marriage is rough enough as it is, I can't imagine how it will be without a good start

73 upvotesXeRefer4 years ago

My old platoon sergeant used to give young guys his three rules about women. "One, they're all fuckin crazy. Two, they all want dick. Three, they'll give you the fucking you don't deserve." after a particular long story about his crazy ex wife, one of our squad leaders who was getting married walked in, and decided to Ultimately chime in. "some are less crazy than others." trying to sow seeds of doubt in the old man. Crusty PSG turns his head, and just yells out at the top of his lungs "CRAZY DOESN'T IMPROVE WITH TIME". And he just storms out. Good advice, hilariously executed, he refused to be undermined by a squad leader even then, was fucking hilarious.

65 upvotesscapeity4 years ago

same story... but my old squad leader told 18 year old me...

"there are two flavors of women, the type that need medication and the type that are on medication. stay away from both"

7 upvotesbluedrygrass4 years ago

Those mottos are pure gold

1 upvoteslolwalrussel4 years ago


1 upvoteslolwalrussel4 years ago


1 upvoteslolwalrussel4 years ago

It is fucking sad. I had to watch a bunch of documentaries to figure out how to not eat cancer every day.

We are so marginalized and subverted. Look at all the new betas coming out. You can't say fuck on the internet without 120 of them coming out of the wood work crying about being polite. No wonder I haven't been in a fist fight in four years, less and less men are showing up to the bars.

3 upvotesHS-Thompson4 years ago

Sadly common sense is uncommon.

2 upvotesIVIaskerade4 years ago

Think of it this way: it's another easy piece of tail on the market, and you don't even have to deal with her trying to use you as an emotional tampon.

73 upvotes • [deleted] • 4 years ago

I agree. Women have a way of needling and henpecking until they get what they want.

You can slap it down the first time and that helps but they start at it again soon but more subtle.

It's like you have to write the terms of everything down and then refer to it later to make sure she hasn't pulled one over on you.

One thing women like to do is to talk to you while you are busy doing something else. If you are distracted and can only give half your attention they will ask for all kinds of things. The more important the thing you are doing is the more she asks for.

Things that she would have no business asking when you could give you full undivided attention are things she will ask when you are tired or busy.

The solution is to stop what you are doing when she talks to you. Often, if they were going to pull the wool over your eyes they will back pedal and say they will talk about it later and they don't want to disturb your game or project.

And always look a woman in the face when she talks. That's the only way to detect her lies. Watch those facial expressions, tone, and body language. Once you catch her in a few lies you will see the same thing again and again. Ask her questions about things you know and that she might lie about and observe the result.

23 upvotesCyralea4 years ago

The fucking "Something is bothering me" talk when you're about to drift off to sleep. You'd think there were seminars where they all learn this shit.

11 upvotesRedBigMan4 years ago

if You're about to sleep ignore the shit out of it and go to sleep. If it's important enough she'll be ready to talk about it in the morning.

12 upvotes • [deleted] • 4 years ago

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2 upvotesRedBigMan4 years ago

That's because you guy friends are male and think and act like you do. That being generally logical.

Your GF/Wife is female. She thinks differently. It's emotional shit. Which is why passive aggressive stuff happens. It works with their female friends and orbiters so they try to use it on you. It's the same as when a guy argues with a woman using logic. He loses. When a woman argues with a man with emotion, she loses.

1 upvotes • [deleted] • 4 years ago

deleted What is this?

0 upvoteslolwalrussel4 years ago

I've had to call my friends and do that. Something about arguing or apologising or telling someone they are closing in on a fist fight with you seems so passive without actually speaking to them. If it is really important I'll do it in person. Really helps the male ego stay rational when your eye to eye with a man.

4 upvotesCyralea4 years ago

Yeah, not so easy when you live with them. I used to do that and instead dealt with her shittiness for a few days so she could calm down. You then have to freeze her out, which is a pain to have to do every time it comes up.

What works is shutting them down immediately. "It's bedtime, we're not talking about this now, goodnight". They'll still be pissy in the morning, but in my experience they're less fuming than if you completely ignore them.

2 upvotesRedBigMan4 years ago

Well that's what I meant by ignore the shit out of it... Don't deal with it on her schedule. Deal with it on your own schedule.

18 upvotestompanz4 years ago

Don't underestimate women. They are biologically inclined to manipulation. They do it without even thinking. Most of them aren't stupid and will find a way to get what they want.

-8 upvotesDev_on4 years ago

no offense... not that I disagree with you.

but you sound like someone who read it a few times in here, and parrot it back..

18 upvotesKandarino4 years ago

Pretty irrelevant if he is a beta looking to get validated by people on this sub, if he is a karma whore, or if he is genuine and original. The advice is sound, and even if commonly mentioned within TRP, it just hammers the message in harder for newcomers.

0 upvotesDev_on4 years ago

There is no good that comes from blindly accepting things, here or elsewhere.

if you don't know the why, it's really useless advice anyways. It's how broscience makes it's mark.

Also, the idea of women being the Dr. Evil is just plain silly. Most people aren't long term enough in their actions to warrant mastermind status, it's just someone making it up as they go along.

4 upvotesKandarino4 years ago

You should absolutely do your research, but in the end newcomers are here at TRP to learn to better themselves (or more likely at first: to get laid) and this is an important lesson to be taught. It is true that if you do not know why certain things are as they are, it can be less useful, but in this case it is still useful even without knowing why.

Better to be told to stay away from lions, and not be explained it's because it has huge fucking teeth and claws, than to never be told anything at all.

As for women being seen as evil, no rational person would see it that way, honestly.

2 upvotesaguy014 years ago

Women ARE inherently manipulative because they survive by convincing people to give them resources. Men extract resources from the environment, women extract resources from men. Doesn't make them 'evil', but the guy you responded to is right. They evolved to manipulate you for their own best interests, and you need to be aware of that.

1 upvotesunassumingusername74 years ago

Much of the evo psych literature I've read subtly points towards women being predisposed to manipulating men for ends she doesn't even understand. I'm not saying they're Dr. Evil, but with women you're messing with millions of years of selecting for subconscious manipulation.

2 upvotestompanz4 years ago

Not really. I always had some level of awareness of it even before I discovered TRP. It's just how women used to get by. Don't think of manipulation as a naturally bad thing and a cut down. When you are generally weaker, and get pregnant for nine months where you are extra vulnerable, you will need the ability to convince someone to protect you. It's natural because it is their survival mechanism. But in a world where we look to enjoy our lives and not just survive , their instincts can cause a lot of trouble.

21 upvotes1independentmale4 years ago

It's like you have to write the terms of everything down and then refer to it later to make sure she hasn't pulled one over on you.

Yeah, I used to think this way, too. Here's the thing: They fucking know. Those bitches are crafty and smart as hell, they know the deal. She hasn't forgotten. She's just playing you, hoping you've changed your mind or relaxed your position or completely forgotten yourself where you drew that line in the sand.

I don't play their games anymore. I don't have to prove shit to her. I said x and I meant it. I don't care that she's pretending she forgot. I don't even care if she legitimately did forget. Here's your fucking reminder: This is how it is, take it or leave it.

2 upvotesMagicGainbow4 years ago

And always look a woman in the face when she talks. That's the only way to detect her lies. Watch those facial expressions, tone, and body language.

What if you actually have autism? I mean actual doctors none of that 'self diagnosed' bullshit.

3 upvotesfortifiedoranges4 years ago

Well you're fucked then! Maybe find a weird hobby that makes you a lot of money then blow it all on a third world import trophy wife. For real though, even being here reading is a step in the right direction.

3 upvotesMagicGainbow4 years ago

I didn't mean me personally, I have autism but most can't tell unless I tell them (thanks LA Noire/trp).

1 upvotesJuffo-WupDeepChild4 years ago

A trick my autistic friend told me is to look at other parts of the person's face instead of their eyes. Look at one of their ears, their forehead, or their mouth.

1 upvotesalcockell4 years ago

I seem to recall reading a few actual PRINT BOOKS out there that talk women through mind control via sex...


"Yes, really. Isn’t it nice to think that science took the time to both fabricate and administer cooch scent through a gas mask into the faces of male guinea pigs? I think it’s pretty nice. For one brief moment, balance was achieved in this universe.

So: while inhaling the fragrance of a woman’s front bottom, the male subjects were shown photographs of women with varying degrees of conventional beauty and asked to rate their attractiveness. The findings were remarkable. While huffing even the synthetic scent of clam dish, men were unable to discern or rank women’s beauty.

In other words, everyone’s sexy when a man’s wafting on twat.

How is it possible that this study wasn’t widely released, its results instantly becoming common knowledge among women? If ball sweat had these powers, men would not only be harnessing it and using it regularly, but also mass-producing it to yield high profit margins. It’s obviously high time I manufacture a fragrance called “L’eau de Snatch.” Smell like muff and you’ll be sure to attract men, should that be your goal.

And, it gets better. Not only does this particular scent enhance the perception of our beauty, copulins have actual mind control effects on the male brain. When a man is exposed to a woman’s copulins over time, she is eventually able to:

1) Change, remove, or insert memories 2) Tell the male what he sees, hears, feels, smells, tastes 3) Insert subconscious thoughts that will surface as male "ideas" or behavior later 4) Plant trigger words or actions that can cause thoughts, actions, or sensations in the male at later dates (days, weeks, even months)

Any man still reading this may be saying to himself, “What the F? Nothing is capable of turning me into that much of a zombie.” Women, you may be saying to yourself, “How might I go about doing this?”

Here’s how. The process is called “coupling.” A man has to be inside you, but not thrusting. You lie together like puzzle pieces, and:

While the penile duct is being opened, the vaginal walls begin secreting a much thicker fluid, thicker even than the fluid holding the penis in place. The fluid is chemically attracted to semen. In short, the fluid enters the penis, follows the semen down the shaft and directly into the gonads. This process can take as long as fifteen minutes, and requires that the vagina produce up to and exceeding 100 milliliters (a little less than half a cup) of this fluid in order to completely fill the penile shaft and gonads. This is over twenty times as much fluid as is ejaculated by the male during sexual intercourse. Feel free to visualize this process. You’re welcome for the lovely picture of half a cup of fluid flowing down a guy’s pee-hole and nesting in his balls.

Perhaps you are thinking, “How do I get a guy to hang out inside me while also resisting the instinct to thrust back and forth?” Good question. You have two options.

The first is to be honest. Tell him what you are doing, make him a willing participant, and then go feed that unicorn.

The second is to be discreet and distracting. It takes time for your nectar to stream into him, so the fastest and most effective position is lady on top. My advice is to have sex but then don’t get off of him. Play it cool. Talk about upcoming global warfare, ask him to explain the rules of a sport you hate, or simply pretend to fall asleep because he was “that good.” [Ed. note: The Hairpin does not necessarily endorse the act of pouring vaginal secretion down someone's urethra to control their mind without their prior knowledge.]

After 15 minutes, the copulins have been released like a pack of wild dogs. They travel from his balls up to his hypothalamus. He is now fully susceptible.

Once a hypothalamus is flooded with copulins, the male brain is just sitting on idle, with only the bare minimum of thought process. In this state, the male is probably not thinking of anything at all, but any input from the female will become the male’s singular focus.

The implications are pretty wild. Under the influence, you can suggest acts for him to perform. I recommend staying within reach of his moral compass, but from there, the sky’s the limit. Testimonials are remarkable. Copulin-infused men not only comply with the requests of their women, but also do so happily. Men and women alike attest that “coupling” has genuinely improved their relationships.

While it’s fantastic on a micro level that men can became better partners, I can’t help but think of the bigger picture. Imagine if we get the wives, girlfriends and mistresses of male members of Congress to couple their way into some much-needed legislation getting passed in this country?

Are you ready to change the world?"

Scary shit.

6 upvotes • [deleted] • 4 years ago

One moment, let me just count how many of those words I believe....none. There are a number of companies now selling copulins, or in other words 'snake oil', for the gullible. In fact, we don't know that any human pheromones exist. From a recent review (Wyatt, T.D. 2015. The search for human pheromones: the lost decades and the necessity of returning to first principles. Proceedings of the Royal Society B: Biological Sciences. 282, 20142994.)

As humans are mammals, it is possible, perhaps even probable, that we have pheromones. However, there is no robust bioassay-led evidence for the widely published claims that four steroid molecules are human pheromones: androstenone, androstenol, androstadienone and estratetraenol. In the absence of sound reasons to test the molecules, positive results in studies need to be treated with scepticism as these are highly likely to be false positives.

If the stuff in that article about hypnotic effects were true, believe me, we would have noticed long before now.

See also The joy of sex pheromones. Gomez-Diaz, C. & Benton, R. 2013. EMBO Reports 14, 874-883.

Pheromones are chemical signals that have evolved for communication with other members of the same species. Over the last 45 years, some scientists have claimed that a number of molecules are human pheromones but, as I explain in this review, these claims have little scientific validity. The molecules include four androstene steroids: androstenone, androstenol, androstadienone and estratetraenol. While the field has attracted much eager scientific activity, experiments (however well designed and executed) using these molecules do not lead us nearer to discovering human pheromones, because these molecules have never been shown to be biologically relevant.

Apart from the waste of scientific effort, the potential damage goes further as even flawed studies on ‘human pheromones' may have far reaching clinical and even social and legislative influence. For example, a questionable brain imaging study [1] of the responses of gay men to non-physiological concentrations (about a million times natural quantities) of androstadienone and estratetraenol has received more than 200 citations (Google Scholar, 23 October 2014) including academic papers on sexual orientation (e.g. [2]), textbooks on sexual medicine in clinical practice (e.g. [3]) and medical commentary on legislation (e.g. [4]).

1 upvotes • [deleted] • 4 years ago

Another good reason to use condoms.

There are a lot of hormones which are traded. I think women can experience similar things as well.

30 upvotesTRPsubmitter_4 years ago

These stories give me a raging erection.

His tone came off as matter-of-fact and exact, which is perfect in how to deal with crazies

20 upvotes • [deleted] • 4 years ago

Exactly. If you give them the drama they want - and believe me, it IS drama they are looking for since most of these sorts of people are downright histrionic - it will just snowball into a horrible mess. In my younger years I have made the mistake of feeding that beast during a messy breakup or two, and it's pretty much always a mistake.

Just calmly assert yourself, lay down the law, and walk away. By 'walk away' I mean 'completely cut contact'. It's the only sane response.

9 upvotesmister_barfly754 years ago

and believe me, it IS drama they are looking

Drama, attention, whatever. You get these self-entitled bitches who think that they're the heroine in some Hollywood RomCom and demand the drama to prove that they matter. "Of course I matter, otherwise that guy wouldn't have gone batshit when I slept with his room mate." The more drama they generate, the more it shows the other person cares, the more it strokes their ego, the more self worth they perceive. That's why I go no contact, fuck fulfilling them with their ego trips, I'd rather concentrate on me.

33 upvotesNazrath21124 years ago

I am not sure if TRP porn exists, but this would be front runner for porn of the year.

22 upvotesfavours_of_the_moon4 years ago

I actually kind of feel bad for that girl.

Unlike how anyone on the planet felt for ME when I was 18 and getting mindraped 80 times a day from every possible direction.

Not saying that to play the victim either. My point is, this bitch probably has considered extreme personal mindrape to be her birthright since day one. Including what she tried to do to this dude. You lose, bitch.

-18 upvotesDaphneDK4 years ago

Yeah. Good for the guy that he stood up for himself, but I get no pleasure from reading about a girl crying her heart out on an couch at place where she's not even welcome, or going through a mental breakdown. Nobody has lived that hasn't lost a love, and we all know how painful that is.

22 upvotes • [deleted] • 4 years ago

Losing a love is one thing... But losing it because you tried to pressure your SO into letting you fuck other people is where I draw the line at dishing out empathy.

2 upvotes • [deleted] • 4 years ago

Yes. No sympathy for anyone getting too greedy.

6 upvotessLyyyisfactioN4 years ago

It's not about being a man, it's about being a thinking human being.

4 upvotesnzgs4 years ago

I find these stories inspirational. It gets very tiresome and depressing reading the endless stream of beta stories on the internet.

1 upvotes87GNX4 years ago

Yes. I am adding this one to aesop's red pill fables.

1 upvotesSqueezymypenisy4 years ago

It's really the only reason I come on this page anymore since I go to outside sites to find expanded sidebar material. That and the occasional field reports, they give me some quick entertainment.

141 upvotesChairBorneMGTOW4 years ago

Willing to bet that she was already fucking the other dude.

That's what happened to me once. The LTR asked me over the phone while I was in Afghanistan to have an open relationship. Yeah, me on a FOB with 90% men and no sex allowed whatsoever, that sounds like a real deal sweetie. [/sarcasm]

Anyways, she was already fucking some guy named Darren she met at the dog park and just wanted permission to keep doing it.

So obviously I ended it.

Funny post-hoc Karma at the end of this tale; I came back at the end of the tour to our house (we were living together still) but didn't tell her I was returning. I come in, tan combats on, big ass rucksack and vest, had just added 20 lbs of muscle with my first go with creatine and glutamine. Darren was there by himself waiting in the kitchen - he nearly shits his drawers seeing me at the front door.

Me: "What are you doing here?"

Darren: "um... Waiting for her."

Me: "Wait someplace else."

He leaves out the back door, since I'm at the front. after he's gone I look down and see his shoes there. Fucker slinked off barefoot just to not go past me. :D

Karma for her too. Months later he ended up stealing $5k from her and fucking off to the West coast.

[edit; word added for clarity]

27 upvotesCyralea4 years ago

Guaranteed most military girlfriends have Tinder downloaded before your boots even hit the ground. Hypergamy doesn't care, if you're not around she is going to find new dick.

6 upvotesfranklyforthright4 years ago

Just moved from divorce capital of Canada/largest army base can confirm

89 upvotesDaphneDK4 years ago

Girls fucking around while their men are on military duty on a foreign continent are some of the lowest forms of life. Comparable to what we had in Europe during WWII, with some girls going with the German invaders. We had them shaved, stripped naked and public shamed. A light punishment for sure, but perhaps adequate for their transgressions today.

51 upvotesScottRikkard4 years ago

That's because women recognize POWER, but not MORALITY.

And that goes for EVERY women. No matter how smart, educated and interesting to talk to, no matter how good of a person. Deep down, they bow to whoever is more powerful.

EDIT - or perceived as more powerful

1 upvotesryantwopointo4 years ago

Really? Are you trying to say women lack human empathy?

6 upvotesScottRikkard4 years ago

No they lack squirrel's empathy. My statement has nothing to do with empathy. But to answer your question, yes, they lack it. That's why they love psychopaths - they are ones too. Women cant see further from their own emotions. Sometimes it gives the illusion of empathy. But they have none. In menopause when the hormonal levels fall, they become more logical and even empathetical. Dont expect empathy from that girl you wanna fuck though (prime years).

-2 upvoteslolwalrussel4 years ago

What? You're a misogynist, brother. Women not having empathy is the dumbest shit I've ever read.

There recognizing you opponent, then there is creating a zeitgiest to blame all of your problems on.

8 upvotesChairBorneMGTOW4 years ago


8 upvotesChairBorneMGTOW4 years ago

Yeah, I'm CF as well. You're absolutely right amigo. The other one I've heard of is guys leaving unit stickers under the bedframe or behind the headboard of the bed when they bang wifey.

6 upvotesChairBorneMGTOW4 years ago


6 upvotesChairBorneMGTOW4 years ago

Yeah - Dudes in Petawawa would come back from deployment and find airborne stickers under their bedframes or behind the headboard.

To me, a good portion of the military is fucking Beta. I'm an NCM (WO, acting as a CSM) and to my close civvie friends who don't understand what I do, I describe myself as "the house negro" for the officers.


But, I like the job, great pay and benefits, and it is a great way to get paid to stay fit.

Meanwhile I see officers crawling over themselves to fit in, social climb, licking their boss's ass, etc. Doesn't strike me as Alpha behaviour personally.

3 upvotes • [deleted] • 4 years ago

What does the tide box mean?

3 upvotes • [deleted] • 4 years ago


3 upvotes • [deleted] • 4 years ago

I heard Petawawa was like that.

2 upvotesChairBorneMGTOW4 years ago

Yup, Pet is definitely like that. Apparently the medics on base would find STD rates would spike midway through the six-month period where a battalion was deployed away... Both soldiers (not deployed) and dependants would come in more frequently with itches, new bumps, or drip drip drip issues.

9 upvotestompanz4 years ago

That shit is so common, it's predictable. I remember when I deployed with my guys, I took a count of everyone in a relationship. Within a few months , half of them had broken up because of cheating. By the time we got back there were only a handful of people that hadn't broken up with their slutfriends.

8 upvotesplentyoffishes4 years ago

This happens all the time. Military "marriages" are a joke, both parties are usually fucking around and hiding it- the military marriage is an unnatural arrangement, where the spouse is gone for months at a time and visits home are short, "cheating" is a natural consequence.

14 upvotes • [deleted] • 4 years ago

In the US during WW2 there are tons of stories about German POWs hooking up with local women while American GIs were overseas putting everything on the line.

4 upvotes • [deleted] • 4 years ago

It went both ways, I assure you. In Britain, they referred to the Yanks as 'over-sexed and over here'.

2 upvotes2comment4 years ago

Actually the Danish killed a number of the resulting war children (and refugee children) at the end of the war: http://www.spiegel.de/international/denmark-s-myths-shattered-a-legacy-of-dead-german-children-a-355772.html

I'm sure the mothers were often more brutalized in unpublished cases. At the end of the day, doesn't matter the army, some women fuck foreign soldiers no matter where they hail from.

0 upvoteslolwalrussel4 years ago

Then stop dating those women. I've had three marine buddies now that when I meet their girlfriends/wives you can tell if he wasn't there she would be riding my dick in no time. Real awkward when you are sitting with one of your best friends whom you highly respect, and you can tell his SO is trying to figure out what your dick probably tastes like.

Military, if she comes up to YOU at the bar, run the fuck away!

-9 upvotesmryddlin4 years ago

We had them shaved, stripped naked and public shamed

don't try and gloss up petty vengeance by powerless people as something noble.

Lynch mobs are never right and should never be praised for their actions.

We already know that women will respond to alpha males and do what ever it takes for them to survive.

Here's a crazy idea, how about not losing so god damn badly that you allowed your women to be put in that position. Protecting our womens wombs from invaders is literally the entire history of the military and it's primary reason for existing.

Don't blame them, blame your male ancestors for dropping the ball because that is what happened.

TRP tells you exactly what the outcome is going to be if we let that happen, seeing the world as it is not as we want it to be. The way those women were treated afterwards was not a punishment, it was petty vengeance and nothing more.

7 upvotesDaphneDK4 years ago

Here's a crazy idea, how about not losing so god damn badly that you allowed your women to be put in that position. Protecting our womens wombs from invaders is literally the entire history of the military and it's primary reason for existing.

I have family in Russia. Some years ago I was driving around in eastern Ukraine. While stopping at a petrol station and restaurant of sorts in a small town I got to talking to an old man. He told how that during a winter offensive when he was little, guess it must have been 1943, first had the Russians driven out the Germans, then the Germans had decided to counter attack through the town and drove the Russian back out, Then the Russians started to bombard the town with napalm bombs fired from rockets and artillery and finally storm the city again. This was all during a snow storm in -40C.

When you as a nation has been in a position where you to survive must bombard your own population with napalm in a -40C freezing snowstorm, then you get to say that others have not walked the walk.

Later the Russians had their way with the women in Berlin and Eastern Prussia – there's likely not been a fighting force in the history of mankind of the quality of the Wehrmacht. It's certainly not from any lack of will or ability that they lost. They were simply massively overpowered. And I guess the Germans had their way with the Jewish women. So the Jews dropped the ball there.

TRP tells you exactly what the outcome is going to be if we let that happen, seeing the world as it is not as we want it to be. The way those women were treated afterwards was not a punishment, it was petty vengeance and nothing more.

Women voluntarily giving aid and comfort to invading troops are traitors, just as much as men voluntarily enrolling themselves in the army of an invading force. They should have been hanged from the lampposts, but got the pussypass.

1 upvotesmryddlin4 years ago

A trial, and hanging if guilty, not a fucking lynch mob. They got what they did because mobs don't care about justice, just vengeance.

Its nothing to be proud of. As for the eastern front there are a million reasons why Russian had to zerg rush the Germans and why the Germans ultimately lost. None of that is relavent to the point that was made.

Mob rule is bullshit and its something to be ashamed of, if it's happening it means there is a whole string of failures leading up to it. Those women deserved to be punished properly and if they did that it would be something to be proud of.

What happened is just petty vengeance and its pathetic.

1 upvotescocaine_face4 years ago

You're assigning women equal agency here.

Women go with whomever conquers them, and have always done this. That is just how it works.

2 upvotesDaphneDK4 years ago

During WW-II? Most women did not. Only a very small minority decided to whore themselves out to the invaders. And other women were often then first to come after them. It used to be that a woman would kill herself if she had been ravished (Lucretia). Also Russian had a many pretty hardcore women fighting the fascist. Many to the bitter end.

Women have agency. I do not accept that women do not have the capacity to make the right moral choices. Although society may not be set up at this time to further such choices.

1 upvotescocaine_face4 years ago

I'm not claiming they don't have agency. I am claiming they don't have the same level that men do on average - or loyalty to random abstract ideals such as states. That's not to say that propaganda or an outlier might not happen. They certainly do.

And there is a difference between, "we are currently fighting and the winner is in question", and, "the winner is determined."

Men do the same thing, though I would argue in most cases less willingly. They feel more of a connection to the previous state. I feel the average woman would be like, "Well this is the situation as it is, and the highest status man is of X culture. I still want him." That's not treachery, that's just women. Sex comes before states. Honor is a primarily male abstraction. Men are expected to die for their state if need be. Women just... aren't.

A man's analysis of the same situation would be something along the lines of, "Well, X culture has won, and that's not my culture, but fighting is futile. I don't want to die. Best to go along with it."

8 upvotesDaphneDK4 years ago


8 upvotesDaphneDK4 years ago

It was genocide all around. In the Soviet Union, in Poland, in Yugoslavia, in Germany. Something like up to 40 millions Soviet citizens died in the war. If the Germans had prevailed it would have meant the total annihilation of all Russians, men, women and children. This is so far beyond anthing deal with on Redpill and women sucking up to alphas. They have paid the price in blood never to have anybody tell them they didn't put up a fight.

0 upvotesRedBigMan4 years ago

Women voluntarily giving aid and comfort to invading troops are traitors, just as much as men voluntarily enrolling themselves in the army of an invading force. They should have been hanged from the lampposts, but got the pussypass.

Honestly, I doubt it's really aid and comfort to invading troops so much as survival reaction. If I give these guys what they want they'll let me live. So they spread'em wide and let them plow their pussy in exchange for not being murdered like the men who enrolled in the defeated army.

4 upvotesasdfghjkltyu4 years ago

Willing to bet that she was already fucking the other dude.

Yep. That was the biggest example of trickle truth.

5 upvotesthefisherman19614 years ago

"Let inner peace rule your soul; karma will take care of the rest."

-Don, Trailer Park Boys

1 upvotesKyfhoMyoba4 years ago

Months later he ended up stealing $5k from her and fucking off to the West coast.

ANybody here remember Sam Kinison's Wild Thing video?

170 upvotescaucasianinasia4 years ago

Maybe he has visited TRP but is following the first rule.

113 upvotesbalalasaurus4 years ago

More people could stand to follow his example if you ask me.

71 upvotesRemyPrice4 years ago

I used to tell people about TRP.

I quickly put an end to that bullshit.

13 upvotesfoomfoomfoom4 years ago


13 upvotesfoomfoomfoom4 years ago

I don't hate anyone going through a natural phase of knowledge. That's part of their learning process. Just because someone is awkward now doesn't mean they'll stay awkward.

3 upvotesPedroIsWatching4 years ago

Roosh does, he just tries to charge money first.

5 upvotes • [deleted] • 4 years ago

I told a friend of mine about it.

First he said it was all bullshit.

A month later he started telling ME about it.

I don't know what kind of friends you guys have. I had trust in this dude and theredpill totally changed him.

6 upvotesnothere_4 years ago

Lol, trp meta is unironically like 4chan was back in it's infancy with it's "anon" culture.

1 upvotesRojoEscarlata4 years ago

Well if he did he wouldn't be asking those chumps advice. He just seems naturally masculine.

72 upvotesfoldpak1114 years ago

It's funny how people condemn the red pill, yet when you leave out all the terminology, everyone agrees with it. This guy is everything that embodies TRP.

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105 upvotes • [deleted] • 4 years ago

I think the best moral of this story that I can obtain is that AF and BB fluctuate in a woman's mind. The mere fact that she "had" OP was enough to put him into the BB camp. The mere fact that she did not have and thus was playing flirt games with Chad at work is enough to put him in the AF camp. AF/BB is contextual. OP very well could have been the better looking higher status male, but when hamsters spin they spin. Women always want more.

26 upvotesking_of_red_alphas4 years ago

So correct. In many cases one woman's AF is another woman's BB.

However, it's important to remember that a BB by nature will rarely raise to AF without great effort. An AF can easily become a BB in a girls eyes with one wrong move.

1 upvotesthefisherman19614 years ago

Breaking frame is always my downfall. Always.

13 upvotes • [deleted] • 4 years ago

It was probably just due to group mentality and/or peer pressure that she thought work guy was attractive. If every woman in the floor talks about him and wants the guy, hell, she will want him too just because it is fashionable in her group.

5 upvoteshatraddit4 years ago

This is one of the most important lessons to learn. Very well said!

11 upvotesTRAPPED_IN_CONFETTI4 years ago

I will give her slight credit for not just fucking Chad anyway behind his back. Not saying that that actually deserves credit, but she did confront him, atleast. And got fucking burned for it like she deserved.

52 upvotes • [deleted] • 4 years ago

This is assuming she hadn't already fucked Chad and the open relationship proposition wasn't simply part of the massive hamstering process.

39 upvotes • [deleted] • 4 years ago

If your long term gf is suddenly trying to get you laid by other girls, yeah shes getting plowed like a corn field. No doubt about it.

15 upvotesrygar_the_red4 years ago

Yeah, this story looks a lot like she's trying to get his approval so she doesn't have to worry about getting caught.

1 upvotes • [deleted] • 4 years ago

There's no point in thinking otherwise. Then you just get into the are they really that bad loop, and you're half way back to blue pill. The facts speak for themselves. No real interpretation is needed here.

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1 upvotes • [deleted] • 4 years ago

We don't need to invent women's nature, it already exists. We are here because we've come to terms with how women work. There's no point waffling and giving them the benefit of the doubt. Otherwise why be here in the first place?

1 upvotes • [deleted] • 4 years ago

Idk that I'd personally say good on her for being a lying shit head.

18 upvotes • [deleted] • 4 years ago

I believe, if anything, this just asserts how comfortable she is with Open Hypergamy. She is so sure that her sexual strategy is the correct and operative one that she didn't even really think about lying to get what she wants. A simple "Honey will you be my cuck" is enough now a days.

2 upvotesthefisherman19614 years ago

And now the hamster tells her that the next time she's in that situation, to just be dishonest and not inform her boyfriend that she's cheating.

1 upvotesmryddlin4 years ago

He mentions that she tried to talk him into the open relationship by telling him that he looks much better now that he works out, and would therefore have an easier time getting other girls.

this is pretty normal btw, most guys do not really come into their own until last 20's early 30's (I hit mine around 32-33).

Like many people here, we spent our 20's working on our skill sets and not on our physical appearance and game.

I've got money now, so I have nice clothes and learned how to polish myself up, I look better than I ever have and now I've started lifting (38), should be an interesting run after this as I'm already doing well.

God I'm looking forward to getting a build, I haven't had one since 18-19.

110 upvotesVasiliyZaitzev4 years ago

[Guys' Ex]


[/Guy's Ex]

47 upvotesDRMMR764 years ago

I'd bet money she already cheated in some way. Maybe not sex. But at very least kissing, raunchy texting, planning to fuck, etc. This was a CYA move on her part to make it ok after the fact. If a woman has gotten to the point of outright asking for an open relationship, she already opened it up and is just looking to feed the hamster and make it ok.

"I want an open relationship"="I'm breaking up with you but still want you to buy me shit". Any man who doesn't immediately hear what she's really saying and act accordingly is in for a world of pain

4 upvotesChadThundercockII4 years ago

Now she is the one buying him shit. The dude was doing everything right. This shows that no one can defeat the hamster, unless you train with the masters of hamsterkeido.

1 upvotessuddenlytrp4 years ago

Yeah someone commented above with the same opinion. Trickle truth for sure. She was already cheating in some way.

-8 upvotes • [deleted] • 4 years ago

Youre hamstering. Of course she was fucking the dude.

5 upvotesDRMMR764 years ago

Does the term "don't miss the forest for the trees" mean anything to you?

21 upvotesfavours_of_the_moon4 years ago

I think it hit her that she sacrificed an exclusive relationship with an alpha because she wanted to have her cake and eat it too. Worse, she's 28 years old and on the verge of hitting the wall, so she's probably gonna have to settle for a beta bucks if she wants kids. Meanwhile, her ex-boyfriend will likely spend the next little while banging hot women in the 19-24 age range.

Wanting the cake and eating it too is SUCH a temptation. For some reason they always think they either deserve it, or even if they don't, they can get it anyway.

34 upvotesbalalasaurus4 years ago

That's feminism for you. Women have always been entitled. But feminism legitimized that entitlement under the banner of 'empowerment'.

9 upvotesfavours_of_the_moon4 years ago

feminism legitimized that entitlement under the banner of 'empowerment'.

It's weird. I knew a kid once who had an abusive mother, no father. He had NO CONCEPT of what was fair or of when someone was being straight with him v when someone was fucking with him.

It's almost like there was no difference between the two. But I know women aren't missing that part of their brains. Because oftentimes they'll call me out, and I'll claim I'm walking the line of propriety. They will then WATCH ME LIKE A HAWK, to see if I step over that line.

So they know of it, are even hyperaware of where it exists. It just seems to be a matter of complete indifference to them.

15 upvotesbalalasaurus4 years ago

It's not indifference the way I see it; it's strategic. /u/IllimitableMan says it best: "Machiavellianism is a female instinct and a male art form". They call it out when it works to their advantage and condone it when it doesn't. Their capacity to do so is inherent.

2 upvotesSaiserit4 years ago

Now some they do and some they don't. And some you just can't tell. And some they will and some they won't. With some it's just as well.

42 upvotesTarnsman4Life4 years ago

I am at a point in my life where I am happy with how things with just me are. I know I am an awesome person, and I don't need to convince anyone to stay.

That right there; fuck if its snowing, raining, hot, cold, bitches, no bitches, married, divorced, LTR, single, be happy with you, by yourself and the rest is gravy. Let all that does not truly matter slide.

If a woman steps off and then tries to step back, I don't care if its the mother of your children NEXT.

45 upvotesTheRedPilsner [OP]4 years ago

As a wise man once said, "Life is 10% what happens to me and 90% how I react to it."

7 upvotescrazypsycho4 years ago

Pretty much the essence of vipassana meditation.

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29 upvotesECoast_Man4 years ago

Loved this. Wow.

I bet half of our subscribers aren't half as TRP as this dude.

52 upvotesECoast_Man4 years ago


52 upvotesECoast_Man4 years ago

I don't think so.

Many of the recruits aren't at this stage. I don't think that's pathetic. Men come here to prevent being the thousand other dudes who didn't pull this shit, and agreed to be cuckolded.

I welcome them with open arms. As should we all.

My comment was praising that OP, not disparaging this sub.

11 upvotes • [deleted] • 4 years ago

This sub is mostly reformed or reforming betas. Natural alphas tend to not need this sub.

74 upvotesIronMeltsinmyHands4 years ago

Then she started saying that I worked out so much, and look so much better, now than when I first got with her, now was my chance to get some more action etc. 

Evil little spiders. She didn't want to lose her man, so she tried to convince him that he should be out there. Fucking like Christopher Columbus in America.

This is why women will never outgrow men. They need us, they can only move under our shadow. Never in the light.

Independent my ass. These bitches are always trying to one up you. Beware of any women trying to sell you something, any friendly woman.

Swindlers, the lot of em.

28 upvotescariboo_j4 years ago

MGTOW is starting to look more and more appealing. The more I reflect on my own experiences with girlfriends and even female relatives, and read the experiences of other men, the more I think to myself "I don't need all those mind games, manipulation and henpecking."

Nothing so extreme as completely swearing off sex, but limiting my interactions enough to avoid dealing with the hamster. No matter how alpha you are, the constant grinding and misdirection is bound to affect your mental health if you spend too much time around it.

I'm surprised more men on this sub don't come to the same conclusion.

35 upvotesChairBorneMGTOW4 years ago

Not all MGTOW are celibate. We just don't even bother to chase pussy. For many of us, if it falls in our lap, then so be it but most of us don't approach, don't game, etc.

If you're a man of accomplishment and quality - a self improvement focus that many (but admittedly not all) MGTOW pursue - then broads will come to you.

Three most common traits of MGTOW are they will 1. Never marry, 2. Never cohabit, and 3. Never procreate.

How do I know this? I mod at one of the three largest MGTOW forums, and read every single user intro biography.

1 upvotescariboo_j4 years ago

Oh I'm aware. I've been following bar bar, stardusk and spetznaz on youtube for a while. They've really changed my outlook on life for the better.

3 upvotesChairBorneMGTOW4 years ago

Cool, glad to hear it! The majority of guys subbed to TRP think MGTOW = celibate, it's good to see you're not considering it on any false premises.

1 upvotesfalafin4 years ago

bar bar, stardusk and spetznaz on youtube for a while. They've really changed my outlook on life for the better.

Thanks for sharing it, I've never really read too much about MGTOW but I'm surely gonna check those channels and see what they talk about.

1 upvotescariboo_j4 years ago

On the 2nd page of my comments history I posted a best of stardusk and bar bar. The stardusk compilation is really long but worth a watch.

1 upvotesmryddlin4 years ago
  1. Never procreate.

this is the hardest one to give up for me to be honest. I have a 9 year old autistic son, love him to death and he is doing well (put in a lot of effort and it's paying off, thank god he is fucking smart) but I do want more children.

I just don't want them in this environment not with how the legal structures currently exist.

I'm hoping that the legal context of marriage and how they work etc will be one of the outputs of this social trend.

Heinlein novels always touched base, and other scifi, of the marriage contract being disconnected from the religious concept and negotiated before entering the relationship, with renewal and early termination clauses, how children will be raises and provided for etc.

The fairy tale, disney princess wedding concept of marriage, which is all it is now, has to die.

3 upvotescariboo_j4 years ago

this is the hardest one to give up for me to be honest.

MGTOW is just the conclusion that avoiding marriage and children will lead to a happier life.

It's not some ideology you have to force yourself to follow if you don't want to. If you feel like you're giving up something really important, maybe MGTOW isn't for you.

2 upvotesmryddlin4 years ago

oh I agree and it's only in the context of how society isn't setup to support people having children.

I've already accepted that having more kids just isn't in the cards right now, not until something changes where I feel I can't just be cut out at a moments notice.

The environment just isn't good for it. I do believe that MGTOW is one of the best solutions to the current problem.

Simply stop engaging in the crapfest is probably the only way to end it.

thanks for the reply, have a good one.

8 upvotes_the_shape_4 years ago

As ChairBorneMGTOW wrote below, don't bother chasing pussy. To put it another way, you are a girl's Alpha Fux, or nothing at all, and from experience, it's a billion times more enjoyable than the bullsh1t of "dating" and the faggotry that is "the courting process". Fuck all of that.

6 upvotesIronMeltsinmyHands4 years ago

I'm of the same belief. My female relatives are a huge pain just to talk to.

If I go mgtow, I'd still hold red pill techniques and beliefs at heart.

It's useless trying to control women, they don't be the same, we won't like em different.

The only thing you can do is control their perspective of you. Which is a great thing because women take the second stand in social settings.

Don't talk too much, keep on a stoic face, steel yourself like you're a Godsend.

3 upvotes • [deleted] • 4 years ago

"I don't need all those mind games, manipulation and henpecking."

Yes. The self-created drama is what gets me. That and their inability to grasp the concept of synonyms. They just make things a whole lot more difficult than they really need to be.

Replying to another thread I had the analogy of two buckets. One was filled with water and the other had but a few drops. The few drops represents all the good stuff you get by dealing with the full bucket of their shitty, childish, manipulative behavior. It just isn't worth the hassle.

MGTOW is my rules, my way. It's so peaceful, quiet and drama-free. No headaches, no hassles, no child support, no alimony, no divorce rape.

1 upvotesSqueezymypenisy4 years ago

Honestly most shit tests are easy and shouldn't require much if any mental work. The point is too get good at catching and dealing with them. Besides when you advance in rank or status in an organization you will play political games and mind games if you want to keep advancing.

1 upvotesIronMeltsinmyHands4 years ago

I think you missed the part about many of us not being war generals or part of some king's court.

17 upvotesRP_Vergil4 years ago

She is hinting him to go Cheat, to justify her to cheat. Yet later on the consent will be taken back.

"You Man only think with your Dick! How could you cheat on me! I was just exploring myself more before we get married! Isn't that the best deal for you?"

Yah right bitch, you don't fuck around to level up your head giving or riding skills. This ain't a RPG. If you want to claim it is, alright your class is the "Whore".

12 upvotesIronMeltsinmyHands4 years ago


I just hate how these whores have a backup for everything. "I cheated? No, that was just me exploring myself. Not you though, you cheated."

"I'm sorry I hit you, in passionate, I'm just passionate. Not you though, you're a wife beater."these whack jobs have such fine tuned public relations skills is scary.

One girl I dated, didn't believe in God. But she blamed God for making her Chinese, instead of white. She had such a stigma, but it wasn't her fault. It was god's. Hasha....

27 upvoteswatersign4 years ago

if the guys gf was in her early 20s she wouldnt be going all bat shit crazy. she knows the wall is coming and she just went full speed into it by being a whore

9 upvotestompanz4 years ago

I doubt she was seriously having a mental breakdown. She was just using the final tool in her arsenal: woman tears. She was banking on him giving her a shoulder to cry on, then her tears would lower his testosterone and would make him think less rationally.

I have no doubt in my mind that when she realized he was wasn't coming back , she got over him with fast with that Chads cock.

1 upvotessuddenlytrp4 years ago

In my experience, some of them don't know just how fast it comes and cling on to their routine as though they weren't well beyond their prime. I'm older. One of my good friends is 36. She still talks and looks for men as though she were pre-wall. I'm dumbfounded, but I say nothing and instead watch her go through relationships pretty regularly, thinking they will all be her knight to save her.

They do not, of course. The TRP reading person in me laughs, but as someone that has been her friend for quite a while, it's sad to watch her go through that.

2 upvoteswatersign4 years ago

white western women seem to be ones completely oblivious too it. asians on the other hand know it quite well

11 upvotes • [deleted] • 4 years ago

This is just how a natural alpha acts. It's nothing miraculous, just a guy with value who knows it enough to let go of things that don't serve him anymore.

54 upvotes • [deleted] • 4 years ago

The sub hates infidelity, but it's always: give HER another chance, talk to her, rub her back and listen to her feelings!!

but when HE cheats, it's dump his sorry ass and divorce-rape him if you're married!

25 upvotesStarDestinyGuy4 years ago

It wasn't this time - everyone in the comments on patting the guy on the back basically.

4 upvotestompanz4 years ago

I'm suprised. I thought her crying would get those white knights worked up for sure.

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1 upvotestompanz4 years ago

I wonder if the people on those subs have commented on this story?

12 upvotesChaohinon4 years ago

Man, I wish I could go back in time and listen to my gut when my girlfriend started on this same track. Eerily similar story, except she was more into the waif - thin jobless hippy free spirit type. Same bullshit lines too, "you look so much better than when we first started dating, all my friends think you're hot, etc."

Except, instead of doing what this guy did, I went full beta and tried to talk it out with and support her. Suddenly I'm blindsided with the non-married equivalent of a divorce-rape, complete with fake victim status and everything.

Never again.

1 upvotescover204 years ago

Interesting. I had not focused on those parts of the story.

17 upvotesjuanlee3374 years ago

I would done things differently. I would agreed to her request But in the condition that we have a thrersome involving a girl 1st.. Then once that is accomplish.. Then Get the Fuck out...

Does that make a bad person? Lol.

10 upvotesTheRedPilsner [OP]4 years ago

In this day and age, I'd be scared to pull something like that. She might be so angry that she'd decide to get back at you by falsely accusing you of rape.

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2 upvotescover204 years ago

Being a bad person is OK once she starts the ball rolling like that. But he just didn't aspire to that kind of threesome drama. Different strokes, one not better than the other.

8 upvotesR3v4mp3d4 years ago

Would have played along: double teamed her with her co-worker; threesomed with her and a hot friend of her (each chick has AT LEAST one hot friend).

At this point she's already been downgraded to plate (but she doesn't know it yet). When she starts seeing it, I'll just laugh it off and end the relationship or keep it going with crazy sex but in a clear FWB fashion which will end in a few months since it's hard to morally detach after a few years of LTR.

Thus, I get a win-win situation where I also try some kinky shit (never did a threesome neither FFM nor MMF).

Quick edit: yes, the guy is 100% genuine, pure breed, natural alpha! Kudos for that and I hope that nothing skews his view on things.

0 upvotescover204 years ago

If he's alpha, I think we're all alpha. All he did was to value himself.

Personally I'd go for the FFM but not the MMF, so I wouldn't do it just your way.

2 upvotesR3v4mp3d4 years ago

I respect your choice. There's a saying that roughly translates to: personal taste is not a topic for discussions.

We're not all alpha. There will be some that might've actually went along with what the chick proposed and would've eventually ended up as a cuckold. The best thing that I've learned from interacting with a lot of people is to start off by expecting the absolute worst from somebody and keep "poking upwards".

5 upvotesbubbleki4 years ago

Funny thing is when people are so surprised by "redpill" behavior. "Redpill" behavior is natural and it comes from being raised in a good home with good parenting practices. It isn't unique. It is the natural order.

5 upvotesRompeChocha4 years ago

There was this guy on r/relationship who's wife wants an open relationship. But he doesn't. The thing is she's wanted an open relationship before they even got married and he still married her!

I pointed it out like it was a dumb move on his part, and got downvoted..

7 upvotesexit_sandman4 years ago

I think it hit her that she sacrificed an exclusive relationship with an alpha because she wanted to have her cake and eat it too

Dunno about the alpha thing, I think it hit her that she overplayed her hand by assuming her relationship was a sure thing. This kind of thing seems to happen with all women who aren't ready yet to exit the relationship themselves or can't do it on their own terms (i.e. branch-swing)

A friend of mine has met that problem twice - the first time it was with his girlfriend of 2 years where the relationship already had its dents and where he admitted to her that another girl had a crush on him and he was sorely tempted to break up, and his GF guilt-tripped him into staying (crying, bad conscience etc.) only to break up with him a few months later after she secured a new guy.

A girlfriend he had years after that had grown to disdain him and treated him supremely shitty, but lost her shit once he finally got a grip on himself (and a new girl he could branch-swing to) and told her it's over. Suddenly one could have meant that he was the love her life and the best thing that could have ever happened to her. Fortunately he dumped her anyway, sadly the woman after that arguably was even worse.

But regardless - in both cases the women didn't see him as the best thing since sliced bread and also weren't happy in the relationship, yet none of them wanted to be the one who got dumped first.

3 upvotesLadyLumen4 years ago

This girl screwed herself over so close to the wall. She was trying to have her cake and eat it (have a secure beta bucks in her pocket while banging the hot alpha at work), but her boyfriend was more of a man that she realized.

At her age it's probably going to be hard for her to get into a relationship with anyone better, and she knows that. Which is why she's going crazy.

Meanwhile this guy isn't worried because he's in his prime. He could totally end up with a hotter, younger and more faithful woman.

8 upvotes • [deleted] • 4 years ago

On the issue of password security I recommend KeePass.

Make a new strong unforgettable password. Make that the password that unlocks KeePass and have it generate and store all your others.

Currently I have 5 passwords memorized; Dropbox (to sync keypass), email (convenience), KeePass, home computer login, phone pattern lock. KeePass does the rest.

It is paramount that no one ever gets access to your email. From there they can reset most of your passwords I have a unique account name on a game (that I no longer play) every month I get an email from someone trying to reset my password and steal my account. No one will ever value your personal security as much as you. Don't trust your gf or wife. "Sorry honey I forgot to log out" is the only comfort your negligence will bring.

0 upvotes • [deleted] • 4 years ago


2 upvotesLarryLove4 years ago

The guy is smart enough to realize what a shitty deal he's getting and bails from the relationship. Like I said: Red pill as fuck. I don't think it sunk into her, until like the day after when I deleted her off social media.

Man good for him, I wish I knew then what I know now. I thought my slutty ex would come to her senses and see how great I though I was and come running back to me. She didn't come to her senses, but I came to mine.

2 upvotesLuckyluke234 years ago

my question is: why is this even in the relationship sub? i mean.. isn't he going to get banned from there for doing something like this?

also, If a women is scorned... there is no stopping her, she will find a way.

2 upvotesTotsean4 years ago

Here is what I try, I just experiment various RP techniques IRL. I keep rotating plates and add new plates every week. And I tell them, you're free to fuck other men but you have to tell me if you're fucking. I do it as a challenge and as an exit since each plate shell life is few fucks, I can afford to me loose.

And it works, they're generally afraid to do it meanwhile I update them on the women I sleep with, but the charm and everything they experience with me is so strong they're just forced to stick with me.

Even when they're being told by their bitchy friends. It's truly amazing when you don't need others validation. When someone says, oh you're a hottie or cute or handsome, I just say, I know I am.

And the dominant trait is so high that it can be sensed via text or woman generally just sense it.

But yeah, that dude made the right call! Kudos.

2 upvotes • [deleted] • 4 years ago

"And honestly, I am at a point in my life where I am happy with how things with just me are. I know I am an awesome person, and I don't need to convince anyone to stay."

This. Perfect mindset to have. "Okay honey. You don't like the way things are then there's the door."

2 upvotesbourbonhipster4 years ago

good for him, i just wanted to mention, if you ever peruse /r\polygamy - most of the posts there tend to sound a lot like this same desperate story. Its a really depressing place to wander into by accident.

2 upvotesgarlicextract4 years ago

I think it hit her that she sacrificed an exclusive relationship with an alpha because she wanted to have her cake and eat it too. Worse, she's 28 years old and on the verge of hitting the wall, so she's probably gonna have to settle for a beta bucks if she wants kids. Meanwhile, her ex-boyfriend will likely spend the next little while banging hot women in the 19-24 age range.

LMAO she fucked up so bad. SO bad. She went all in with an unsuited 2 7.

2 upvotesShiningknight124 years ago

At 28, the girl is probably having a breakdown over the impending wall.

3 upvotes • [deleted] • 4 years ago

why is this considered red pill?

isn't this just common sense - whether it happens to a woman or a man? if your significant other starts talking about being with other people, the relationship isn't worth staying in anymore.

14 upvotesStopher4 years ago

I think what makes it red pill is because it shows the proper way to handle that situation. Others would try and salvage the relationship. I think he made the right decision in cutting off someone with a gambler mentality.

0 upvotesIVIaskerade4 years ago

Not just that. His mentality is one of self-actualisation now. He provides the value for himself rather than seeking it out from others. It's more about the whole scenario, his reaction, and his subsequent situation that makes it “red pill".

2 upvotes • [deleted] • 4 years ago

Breaking up with women gives the ultimate feeling of power.

3 upvotesexit_sandman4 years ago

Only if you have come to resent her.

I had the case once where I broke up with a girl I actually did like, I just wasn't enamored with her and didn't want to drag it out longer than necessary. It didn't give me a feeling of power, it rather gave me a pang of bad conscience.

2 upvotes • [deleted] • 4 years ago


It's the same with being the AF for once, seeing her beta orbiter struggle while wishing he was you.

I always thought that it would be the ultimate feeling of power. Felt like shit.

But to be honest, years later, looking back, yeah, now it feels good thinking about it.

I think the lesson is already in the red pill. You shouldn't be in it for the external validation or to "win" against women and men. That's anger phase thinking.

1 upvotesbitches_be_crazy864 years ago

Don't envy Chad Thunder cock. Become one

1 upvotes • [deleted] • 4 years ago

Most of the time when a woman proposes an "open relationship" or "break" it means she's all ready fucking another dude. Not all the time, but a lot of the time.


Because if she gets permission for this "open relationship" she can continue fucking Chad, guilt-free until she locks him down and/or the boyfriend fizzles out.

If she asks for a "break" it's essentially the same thing, except she's keeping the boyfriend on the back burner incase Chad gives her the next. Again, she'll keep fucking Chad until the boyfriend magically fizzles away.

1 upvotesrebuildingMyself4 years ago

"What if I was to have a threesome with you, if I was to sleep with another guy"

Briffaults Law, my friend. If anything, get the threesome done with them dump her slutty ass

Edit: this is assuming it's a FFM threesome

2 upvotes • [deleted] • 4 years ago

He wouldn't gain anything by having a Devil's Threesome with a girl he was already fucking.

4 upvotesrebuildingMyself4 years ago

Well I assumed the deal was a FFM. If not she's being extra retarded

2 upvotesrebuildingMyself4 years ago


2 upvotesrebuildingMyself4 years ago

I assumed her offer was for a FFM. It's the only thing I that makes sense that she would offer to enable her whoring (unless the guy was bi)

1 upvotesAstarte_04 years ago

This first part "My girlfriend and I have been together since January of 2011. I always took pride in the fact that we were the couple that could solve things without fighting. We are both pretty mature people and the disagreements we have had throughout our relationship have been taken care of. " was a huge red flag for me.

Sure, this guy was right to dump her, but he overlooked this red flag. Couples who never fight? To me that's always a sign that one of the two is holding back massively. In this case, it appears to have been her. He never really got to see the 'real her' till this incident and kind of wasted his time with her. The cards are in his favour however since his best years are still ahead of him.

0 upvotescascadecombo4 years ago

I'd like to read commentary other than simply

Holy shit, even if this guy has never visited this subreddit before, he's truly got a red pill mindset

Like I said: Red pill as fuck.

he's red pill as fuck.

Did enjoy reading the article, always refreshing to see guys who don't bend over backwards for the girl they were with simply because they have female sex organs.

0 upvotessolaris19904 years ago

That was nice I guess. Not that I would have thought him soft for deciding to open up the relationship as she suggested (if that's what he had wanted to do). The point is to always stand up for your own wishes and he did.

-12 upvotes • [deleted] • 4 years ago

lusting after something new isn't bad

This guy is a beta who unwittingly acted as an alpha. Lusting after someone new and attainable probably means your gf has jumped you over in the hypergamy , or you are a beta bucks

29 upvotes • [deleted] • 4 years ago

I disagree. OP simply noted a very human phenomenon. Both and women often like new things. Acknowledging this doesn't make you beta, it makes you smart.

-6 upvotes • [deleted] • 4 years ago

He's not only acknowledging it, he is saying he is okay with his girl being attracted to some other dude. He should know that once the attraction to him stops, he fucked up somewhere and there is a better guy. She sees him as just a fucking tool or a friend-zoned bitch now. This reminds me of an instance where a good friend of mines went to this girls house as her "friend". Girl was obviously attracted to him and brought him there under the premise of a school project. So when the girl texted her boyfriend that there was this hot dude at her house, her boyfriend came an hour later. Naturally, her boyfriend started acting cool and calm and tried to get to know my friend. Asking him where he was from, what his major was. next day, my friend takes the girl to pound town, and her boyfriend had no clue. Even when she broke up with him a week later while playing pogo stick with my friend's cock, he had no fucking clue that he got cuckholded, even though the girl had pointed out that she found my friend attractive.

Point is, if your bitch tells you she is attracted to another guy at work/school or says there is a hot guy at my workplace, take the hint and get bigger than the guy/ step up your game, or ditch her

8 upvotesNazrath21124 years ago

Every woman lusts over Brad Pitt, that does not make the male into BB. Even if you are a 10 with 100% SMV there still might be another dude who is exactly the same, looking to see if the grass is greener is a natural human thing. Let's example Achilles and Hector of Troy. Women look at both of these men and get tingles, does that make either one BB?

2 upvotesmrgregorio4 years ago

I'll always upvote a good Troy analogy

3 upvotesoldredder4 years ago

tolerating it is something bad, he didn't tolerate it. Just like if I was fucking a girl who proudly announced she was going to suck some strange cock and I gave her a thumbs up and said "remember to swallow! and don't come back, we're done. Have a great time!"

Edit: I noticed that post is locked down now, apparently lots of people said it exactly like it is and mods don't like that. That's shameful

-1 upvotestyeunbroken4 years ago

Archive.is doesn't work for me, which sub was it in?

-4 upvoteslibertypole4 years ago

good for this guy, but he screwed up that relationship. if your long time girlfriend even thinks she can just mention an open relationship to you, you've spent years somehow framing yourself as a guy who might be open to cuckolding. fail.

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