The same myth that the guys on PPD confront, that women don’t want nice, sensitive guys is also true in the reverse. Guys do not want a chill, easy girl who puts out early.

I’m a pretty social girl and I have a lot of female friends. My friends who are easy going, don’t expect to much out of men, and don’t “play games” are perpetually single. If they do get in a relationship it’s with a guy who doesn’t seem all that into it and it fades out quickly. And these aren’t ugly girls. They are successful, gym-going, with pretty cool personalities.

However I have a few friends who are high maintenance, just difficult in general and they always have success. Hell, my best friend had BPD and has a lot of episodes. She’s been in LTRs since we were 16. My “high-maintenance “ friends constantly have boyfriends and guys who are interested. I just never understood. I watched another friend turn something small into a huge issue with her dude, cursed him out, and walked away. I just stood there because I could never behave that way, I was shocked. I apologized on her behalf and he’s literally smiling “nahhh, she just needs a sec to cool down”.

I had been the chill girl for years and watched guy after guy lose interest. So with my current relationship I just said fuck it and unleashed the crazy. I started demanding things. I start crying over stupid shit. I don’t give him a break, ever. I love him, but instead of letting little things slide, I blow it up. He treats me amazingly. We have insane sex. We also have a lot of fun. It’s one of the best relationships I’ve ever been in. I’m not sure that this is sustainable, but when I’m upset, even if it’s unreasonable, I let him know and it feels good.

I’ve tried to be a chill girl, but y’all have a thing for crazy chicks.