Prior to me stumbling on the weird part of the internet called "Reddit", I was just a regular youngin livin' life and enjoyin' the dating scene. I didn't question anything really, I just sat back and observed and used what worked.
"Oh....she didn't get mad when he called her a bitch. In fact, she laughed. Interesting. takes notes."
"This guy is great at negging. I gotta be like that - takes notes"
"When you play fight with a bitch it's basically foreplay. Takes notes"
You get the idea. Whenever I saw something that worked I stashed it away in my memory bank and would use it at my leisure while calibrating it all to my personality.
When it came to dating I just did whatever I felt like doing.
LTR? Sure why not.
Cheat? Yep, I've cheated on all of my exes. Don't give a fuck.
I'd cheat on them, we'd have a "falling out", and then we'd fuck because I thought you were supposed to fuck your exes before you get more pussy. It's not like you're supposed to catch feelings or care (although I am incapable of such things but that's another convo) point is that you are doing it out of familiarity and sexual chemistry. You two both know what you like already.
Overall I was just living my best life, not caring much about the "state" of the Dating Market, my Sexual Market Value, etc, etc. I never had to "looksmaxx" or any weirdo shit like that. I look decent enough to put my foot in the door at best, and the rest was just pure game.
Then, after a day of sex with one of my exes, shit changed. She was wondering why it was so hard to find a decent guy to date, and then digressed to how our relationship ended because I cheated on her and then promptly dumped her.
That's when she hit me with one line.
"Everyone is too accessible."
At the time I had no idea as to why that line bothered me so much. I hit her with that "what the fuck is that supposed to mean" look.
She pretty much explained that it's far too easy for a guy to find a hoe to fuck be it online or otherwise. So there's no loyalty.
I just thought for a second and brushed off what she said, then changed the subject. I shrugged my shoulders but what she said lingered in my mind for days. And then weeks. Why the fuck was this bothering me so much?
It was like an innate "sting." And I only feel that way when I am face to face with a hypocrite (call it intuition). Nothing repulses me more than hypocrisy, so there was an innate subtext to her statement that even she had not picked up on but I did.
During my search I stumbled on Reddit, then The Red Pill. I read the sidebar, and it was some real shit. Most of it were things that I had known innately, but it was a dope ass read. Still, I didn't quite find the answer that I was looking for.
Then finally, a line from a poster over in PurplePill damn near gave me a paradigm shift.
"Women are having a hard time accepting the new realities of this new dating system, even when they are one of the primary beneficiaries of the dating market."
That was it. That was the "sting" I felt. The hypocrisy, solipsism, etc, etc.
The very same bitch that was able to enjoy ONS, FWBs, and flings when it was convenient for her, AND cheat on her LTRs (yes she did it multiple times) by calling me up to go fuck her (or by me calling her up), had the audacity to turn around and say that, "Everyone is too accessible." Because *I* had the means to cheat on her?
Shit, it was all one big brain blast for me. But once you swallow that Red Pill you become obsessed with patterns and shit.
I thought back to another one of my exes when we had some pillow talk months ago. We've known each other for a long time, and we dated on and off twice (I cheated the first time and broke it off, second time I just got tired of her and dumped her).
We reminisced back to when we were in the "talking" stage of dating shortly after we first met. Back then it was just us going out for drinks, a movie, or over to each other's places to fuck. She admitted that she legitimately wasn't seeing anyone else during that time.
I just said matter-of-factly "Ohhh, well this is awkward, but you were one of three."
You should have seen the look on her face. It was the same look she gave me when I told her that I cheated on her.
"Oh, I didn't know that you were that type of guy...."
At the time I found that statement funny, and now I know why. The same kind of bitch that ain't mind going on multiple dates when it came to other dudes, have a few flings and ONS, is judging me for 'multidating' with her before we were even official?
So I asked myself why?
Then during some study time (read: meditative porn time) it hit me like an epiphany.
Casual sex and the dating market is only seen as bad when it is the reason why they can't lock down the man that they want.
So they blame tinder hoes, thots, 'Pick-me' bitches, etc, etc, because if they didn't exist then the man that they desired wouldn't have strayed or had more options to explore away from her.
In their mind, every guy up until the 'LTR-material' guy was simply a "learning" experience. Now she's ready for the "real" thing. But there are two things that they don't consider.
1) He has other (better) options
and more importantly.....
2) He doesn't see her as anything more than what she saw the last guys as - something fun to do
You see, when bitches talk about the guys that came before (and during pillow talk they love going down memory lane) there are men who they just didn't care much for. Hell, even ex-husbands are treated that way. Of course, she still fucked all of those men, but they didn't mean anything and what's more, "they just happened to be there."
So when the shoe is on the other foot, and she herself "just happened to be there" for a guy that they caught feelings for, they cannot handle it.
And we have a term for what these women end up as.....
Hell, that shit reminded me of a Trey Songz lyric in his song Love Lost
"When the one you need, don't need you. What do you do?"
And the sad truth is....
They don't know what to do
And that is, the harsh reality. And why now I went from indifference, to a small little twinge of pity for a lot of bitches during these sexually liberated times.
The very same market that allowed them to explore their sexuality, is the same one that also allowed the men that they wanted to lock down to do the same. Thus, it's a gamble to see if the man that they caught feelings for actually likes them, is just fucking them, or will eventually come across a better option and throw them in the trash bin.
So, essentially, they hate being put in the same position that a lot of men are put in when it comes to dating women - the one with more to lose.
What's the point of it all then?
It goes back to what one of my OGs told me about street life and just life in general.
"There's no rules to this shit."