This is definitely not the sub for a post like this but I like the input you guys give. I am currently a junior and college and I am starting to gain massive amounts of existential dread over leaving school. I never really formed a solid group of friends in college and the friends I do have are either from high school or I am not too relatively close with. I really regret not rushing a frat or involving myself more with organizations on campus during my freshman year, and I feel like it is too late for me now at this point to make a solid group of friends. It makes me really depressed seeing everyone going to parties and having fun. I go out once in a while but its only pity invites from my high school friends, and it's not the same as I do not really know the brothers and they have no intention of knowing me as I am not part of their frat. I started taking antidepressants about a month ago and honestly, they have helped a little bit but they have turned me into a zombie by making me tired all the time with no motivation to do anything. People say that these 4 years are some of the best and probably the best place to hook up and go for new experiences and that after college it's basically downhill and much harder to meet new people. Now I only have a year left in school and I feel as I am just coasting by college and not appreciating my time here and regretting many of the decisions and things I didn't do. Even when I do get a chance to hang out with new people and go to parties I just come across really standoffish or try-hard, and any attempt I make to talk to new people or make friends gets ignored, especially in bars and frat parties where there are clear social hierarchies and such a restricted way in which you can act. I get very closed off when I start to get close to people and I am fearful of boring them or finding out how uninteresting and weird I am. I know I am going to get the usual response of go to therapy and stuff but these are things I already do and have not really helped me, I just want to feel normal and be able to meet and talk to new people :(
[–][deleted] 12 points13 points14 points (0 children) | Copy Link
[–][deleted] 7 points8 points9 points (8 children) | Copy Link
[–]username_69160 points1 point2 points (3 children) | Copy Link
[–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points (2 children) | Copy Link
[–]username_69160 points1 point2 points (1 child) | Copy Link
[–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points (0 children) | Copy Link
[–]AngrySprayer-1 points0 points1 point (3 children) | Copy Link
[–][deleted] 1 point2 points3 points (2 children) | Copy Link
[–]AngrySprayer1 point2 points3 points (1 child) | Copy Link
[–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points (0 children) | Copy Link
[–]realShustyRackleford2 points3 points4 points (0 children) | Copy Link
[–]Pastirica2 points3 points4 points (0 children) | Copy Link
[–]ziggysmsmd1 point2 points3 points (0 children) | Copy Link
[–]I_like_the_word_MUFF0 points1 point2 points (0 children) | Copy Link
[–]GeoffTheArteest0 points1 point2 points (0 children) | Copy Link