I am fully on the self-improvement path. I am on good terms with mymale colleagues, they invite me to lunches and let me know when they are going for smoke, I'm guessing they value my conversation? - It may not seem much but these things never happened a few years ago, suddenly people want to be with me.

Before I get to the topic title, to be more accurate, the older women like me, they are very forward with their compliments and have broad genuine smiles but sometimes I suspect maybe it's a mom vibe?

So the girls at work in my age group they are really avoiding me, they can't even look in my direction, they could be doing the rounds chit-chatting with everyone and I am skipped. Is it a shit-test? This is just chit-chat we are talking about. They offer to make coffee to everyone and skip me. It seems purposeful and I don't understand it.

When I am 1 to 1 with them they are perfectly fine all smiles and we talk normally then in public setting it's the cold shoulder.