I'm the guy that posted this: https://www.reddit.com/r/RPChristians/comments/egehzo/wife_advice_first_post/ I have no idea what the password is, so I had to create a new account.

In my first post the general advice seemed to be #1 lift, #2 shut up. I've been trying to keep going to the gym consistently, but I haven't hit any PBs or anything. As for #2, a couple weeks ago I made a rather passive-aggressive comment to my wife (can't even remember what it was). I should have known better. But I said it anyway. She got quite upset, and since then I've vowed to try to be more assertive and absolutely no passive-aggressive stuff. If I want her to unload the dishwasher then I try to say "please unload the dishwasher" and not "it sure would be amazing if someone would come unload this dishwasher, hint hint."

Meanwhile, she's actually been cooking and cleaning more, and spending less money (still eating too much, but baby steps). I doubt it's anything I've done, because I don't really feel any different. I don't think I've suddenly become a great leader of the household or anything. I'm really just trying to be consistent at the gym and not say stupid passive-aggressive crap.