Hello.

I am writing this because I have a serious problem.

My whole life I have been conditioned to please people and to live to their expectations, and if I dont live up to said expectarions, their disappointment will label me as a failure. As a result, I have no identity of my own and have trouble making decisions.

For example, I'm studying in network management. After which, I want to move out to Boston, But my dad wants me to stay here instead. It ENRAGES me that he wants to manage my life at 36 years old.

With women, I'm afraid to make a move because they might think I'm a punk.

My question is, how do I man up?