TL;DR Don't be afraid to make a woman feel uncomfortable or seem like an 'asshole'. A woman wants to feel both positive and negative emotions. She wants her emotional state to fluctuate with great frequency. Do that for her, and she is much more likely to be sexually attracted to you.


Physics Analogy (Basic)

For those who haven't taken a physics lab class, there is something called Faraday's Law. You can demonstrate this with a basic, fool proof experiment. Imagine a metal coil with the front and back ends connected to a meter that measures current, the flow of electricity, like this (image), or this(video). If you move a magnet inside this coil, it will induce (cause) electrons in the coil to flow in one direction (positive current) of the circuit, and if you pull it out of the coil, it will induce a current in the opposite direction (negative).

  • Magnet = You
  • Coil = Woman
  • "Postive" Current = Woman's postive feelings [Pull]
  • "Negative" Current = Woman's negative feelings [Push]
  • Current Meter = your eyeballs.

Keeping that in mind, I want you to look at the equation for this phenomenon (electromagnetic induction), and only focus on the two triangles, don't worry about the other symbols, here. This is important because the deltas signify the 'rate of change', meaning that if you stop moving the magnet, no current will be induced. You must constantly manipulate her feelz, for attraction to spark. No flux, no feelz. No feelz, no tingles. You, the magnet, must constantly induce (manipulate) fluctuating levels of electricity, feelings, in the circuit, the woman, to give her tingles.

Side Note: Yes, a changing magnetic flux induces an emf not current. I took out emf for the sake of simplicity.

Predictable Response

Before you've digested the pill, this concept is an assault to your sensibilities; you would think, "Why the fuck would I ever make a woman feel anything other than happy, especially insecurity? That's stupid and cruel! Treat others (women) how you (man) want to be treated!" This is projecting. As a man, you like feeling neutral and above. If you ever have negative feelings, you attempt to come back to a neutral state because you want to think clearly. This is not true for women. The foundational assumption of all your beliefs is: men == women. Unlike you, women want to feel good, not just happy, everything. Joyful, insecure and everything in between. Despite what you think, despite what she claims, she likes the stressful anticipation of waiting for your text/call every once in awhile. Imagine the graph as a measure of current (her feelings) over time, she wants to feel like this. To a woman, stability is boring. Safe is boring.

But dr_warlock, you claim they want to feel everything, including negative emotions, yet they complain, claiming that they feel bad and would never be attracted to such a person that made them feel this way. They call those guys assholes! Surely what you say is ridiculous.

First off, you made the mistake of taking advice about intergender dynamics from a woman (don't ask a fish how to catch fish, ask the fisherman). You also made another mistake: you think you and her are both speaking the same language. Women do not say what they mean, and do not mean what they say. They do not speak to convey information, they speak to get what they want. They want feelz and attention and don't care how they get it. The whole truth and nothing but the truth is not required and often times hinders this goal. Women have different dictionaries. "Asshole" to you means what you're thinking: an abusive douchebag. "Asshole" to her means, "[...] men who don't allow people, especially women, to walk all over them. They tout this shit to their orbiters to garner sympathy and play the victim, when the guy is usually far from being a real asshole." - /u/gzb424

Watch what she does, not what she says. Don't be distracted by the smoke and mirrors of excuses, appeals to emotion, shaming, and crying; keep your mind focused on the issue (Bill Burr: How Women Argue). If she calls Chad an "asshole" for inducing 'negative current' in her 'circuit', but continues to fuck him anyways, do her words hold any meaning?

Don't Walk on Eggshells Around Her

Women would rather feel sad than bored. They would rather have sex (not necessarily date) with a physically and verbally abusive, drug dealing thug that lives in a trailer park and induces emotional chaos, than a rich guy that owns a nice car, owns a nice home, dresses in suits, treats her like a princess, buys hers expensive things, and always attempts to keep the peace. I'm not saying to be abusive, this was just to illustrate a point.

But dr_warlock, 'real' women don't do that! Notice how I said, "would rather", not "do". All women are like that =/= all women do that.

At some point, you have to make her feel "bad" things. She will even offer opportunities for you to do so in the form of "shit tests". Note that this does not include disgust. Often times you showing self-respect will be the very thing that induces the allegedly "bad" feelings. You not allowing her to manipulate you can result in her to use the last resort, crying. Why would you ever be hesitant or apologize for showing self-respect? A person who cries because they can't get what they want is acting childish, treat them accordingly. Remember women's feelings are shallow and not proportional to the stimulus that caused them (over reacting), often outright lies to fitness test you.


Conclusion

Give her the emotional rollercoaster that she really desires while not riding it yourself (you're a rock remember?), but within the bounds of self-respect and morality; don't put in too much energy. A little dread here, a little touch there; a little tease here, a little silence there. Most importantly, don't be afraid to 'hurt' her feelings or making her 'uncomfortable'. It's called sexual tension for a reason. Move that magnet and induce that current with plenty frequency, and she is much more likely to thank you with the loving warmth of her thighs.


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